Pinella Hope Training Program Prepared by Jim Messina, Ph.D. Maintaining a Positive Attitude - Lessons from The Little Engine That Could Pinella Hope Training Program Prepared by Jim Messina, Ph.D.

What is the Can Do Attitude? Committing to the “Can Do” attitude of The Little Engine that Could so you will be able to help your attitude about change in your lifestyle and living standards Committing to helping yourself to become more connected and caring with yourself and others will increase your personal productivity and personal commitment to grow and flourish Committing to extending yourself beyond your current comfort zone will help you become more than you ever expected yourself to become

So What is the Story About? We find a little Engine at the beginning of the book chugging, puffing, and “ding donging” along as a happy little train bringing good things to kids on the other side of the mountain She was happy because she was carrying a full load of things which were good for these little girls and boys She had cars filled with toy animals, dolls, toy clowns, toy engines, airplanes, tops, jack-knives, puzzles, and books

Our Engine Becomes Down & Out She also was carrying cars filled with good things for girls and boys to eat like oranges, apples, creamy milk, fresh spinach, peppermint drops and lollypops Then ALL OF A SUDDEN she stopped with a jerk and she could not get her wheels to turn any longer she became Down & Out! OH Boy! What were all the good little girls and boys on the other side of the mountain going to do without all these goodies the engine was carrying?

Here she is: DOWN and OUT

What was the Mission of Down and Out? Down & Out was doing a service for others. She was not just delivering items. She was in the process of enhancing and enriching the lives of the girls and boys on the other side of the mountain Down & Out was not just doing a job, she was in the process of making life better for others Down & Out was being a Legend to those on the other side of the mountain for the good she was providing them Down & Out did not feel like she was working a j.o.b. She felt like she was on a mission! But our little engine became Down & Out

Are you Down and Out? Has you been experiencing: Depression Pessimism Stuckness Inability to get motivated to change Unwillingness to take the risk of changing If so then you need to become a NEW ENGINE to pull your train to achieve your mission of being successful in living independently

First up was Shiny the new passenger engine The first to appear after Down & Out broke down was the Shiny New Engine The toys on the train pleaded to Shiny to pull their train over the mountain so that the girls and boys on the other side of the mountain would have toys to play with and food to eat Shiny said: “I am a Passenger Engine entitled to only carry the finest of cars and people and there is no way I would pull the likes of your train! Indeed not!”

SHINY

Are You a SHINY? Do you believe like Shiny that you are entitled to be given good things without putting yourself out to get them? Are you not open to doing more than a j.o.b.? Are you not at all committed to a mission of caring for yourself? Are you more focused on what you accomplished in the past and not on how you need to change so you can benefit from what you do now? Are you self-absorbed with your Brilliance”? Are you a Shiny New Engine who can’t?

Well maybe BIGGIE the Freight Engine will help! After Shiny went to the round house where engines that are not busy go, along came BIGGIE a Big Freight Engine Again the toys and dolls asked him to bring the train over to the other side of the mountain to give the good little girls and boys things to play with and food to eat Well BIGGIE said he was a Freight Engine who had just done major work of great importance and that he would not pull the likes of the children’s train and he puffed off indignantly to the roundhouse

BIGGIE

Well are You a BIGGIE? Are you filled with self-importance and wait for others to recognize your worth and value and rescue you from yourself? Are you so full of yourself that you can only think of how others should meet your needs and not how you need to work at filling your own needs? Are you always on the defense lest someone ask you to do something that you feel is beneath you? Are you a BIGGIE who is a “little nobody who thinks of self as being a big somebody” but is one who can’t think outside of him or herself?

Maybe Rusty, the old engine will do it! As BIGGIE rolled into the roundhouse, the toys and dolls waved to a dingy, rusty old engine and asked for help But Rusty sighed and said that he was so tired that he had to rest his weary wheels Rusty went on to say: I cannot, I cannot, I cannot!...

Rusty

So are You a Rusty? Are you so burned out and tired that you do not have the energy or desire to change even if the opportunity is great and rewarding in the end? Are you so blind by your being a “victim” that you cannot see yourself being a “winner?” Are you so worn out from the day to day struggle of surviving that you have lost any vision or imagination of how things could get better? Are you Rusty who cannot, cannot, cannot?

Along come Little Blue Little Blue was chugging along merrily when asked by the toys and dolls to carry their train over to the girls and boys on the other side of the mountain Little Blue was honest with them saying that she was not very big and had never been over the mountain and that she was only used for switching trains

Little Blue

Little Blue has a Heart for People Little Blue listened to the request of the toys and dolls and she was moved when she saw the tears in their eyes as they explained how the children on the other side of the mountain would not have any good things to play with or good foods to eat! Little Blue thought about the poor children on the other side of the mountain who would be going without and she…

Little Blue said “I think I can!” Little Blue hitched herself to the little train and tugged, pulled and slowly started off! Puff, puff, chug, chug Little Blue started off Little Blue was saying as she went: I think I can, I think I can, I think I can, I think I can… Up, up, faster and faster she climbed until she reached the top of the mountain, down in the valley was the city with the little girls and boys…

Little Blue proclaims “I thought I could” “Hurray” cried the clowns and dolls at the top of the mountain-the little girls and boys in the city would be happy because Little Blue helped the little train achieve its goal! Little Blue smiled and said I thought I could, I thought I could, I thought I could…

So are you like Little Blue? Do you have your mind and heart open to “possibility thinking” rather than “impossibility thinking?” Do you allow yourself to put yourself out for you’re a fulfilled life knowing that you are extending yourself well beyond your comfort zone? Do you allow yourself to be optimistic in your outlook and set aside the negatives in your life which could hinder your attitude and perspective on life?

So are you like Little Blue? Are you able to take risks to change the way you think, feel, and act in situations like Little Blue or are you stuck like Down & Out, Shiny, BIGGIE, and Rusty? Are you able to “step out of yourself” and show concern for self in a healthy way? Do you want rewards which are visible or can you be as happy with knowing you are doing good for yourself like Little Blue was feeling once she came down the mountain to the city with the train for the little girls and boys?

So are you like Little Blue? Are handouts, handoffs and free stuff the only way you survive or are you like Little Blue who is rewarded by knowing that if you have done a good job taking care of yourself you will benefit greatly? So can you be like Little Blue and take on the “can do attitude?”

Believe you Can Do like Little Blue! You can help yourself grow into being a connected and caring person You can help yourself to become more positive and more optimistic in your outlook which will spill over into all aspects of your life You can become mission driven to be there for yourself and just being stuck You can change as long as YOU THINK YOU CAN!

Additional Lessons to learn Love is why we are here The most important day is today If you always do your best, you will have no regrets Sometimes a wrong turn will bring you to exactly the right place For all your accomplishments, nothing will bring you more happiness than the love you find

Reference: The Little Engine that Could by Walter Piper. Grosset & Dunlap 1978 The Website Home of The Little Engine that Could: http://us.penguingroup.com/static/packages/us/yreaders/littleenginetc/books.htm

References on Coping.us Power of Self-Affirmations: http://coping.us/toolsforpersonalgrowth/selfaffirmationsthatwork.html Handling Fear of Success: http://coping.us/toolsforpersonalgrowth/handlingfearofsuccess.html Accepting Personal Responsibility: http://coping.us/toolsforpersonalgrowth/acceptingpersonalresponsibility.html Handling Pride: http://coping.us/toolsforpersonalgrowth/handlingpride.html Handling Need for Approval: http://coping.us/toolsforrelationships/handlingneedforapproval.html Overcoming Role of Victim and Martyr: http://coping.us/toolsforrelationships/victimvsmartyr.html