LE3-C3S3T3pg43-58 Service Etiquette

Purpose This lesson will examine the role of etiquette in the armed services.

1. Define service etiquette. 2. Demonstrate how to properly introduce an individual to other individuals using the correct titles and military rank where appropriate. 3. List the information that should be included on an invitation.

4. Explain the meaning of R.S.V.P., and how to respond when the letters R.S.V.P. appear on an invitation. 5. List the guidelines for writing a thank you note. 6. Identify instances when it is and is not appropriate to render a salute.

7. Identify the four basic elements included in a military funeral. 8. Describe the sequence of events for rendering honors during an official visit. 9. Describe the basic elements of a dining-in.

CPS Key Word Questions (1-3)

________ - a person who is considered to be important because they have a high rank in government or in the church. __________ - the correct formal title for a dignitary. ______ - a French expression meaning “please reply.”  Dignitary  Appellative  R.S.V.P.

CPS Lesson Questions (1-2)

How well do you follow general etiquette rules? A.Extremely – I am very polite. I stand up whenever a lady enters the room. B.Somewhat – I am somewhat polite, but I could improve in this area. C.Not very – I have never learned or applied rules of etiquette very well.

True or False: When you demonstrate proper service etiquette, you show a disrespect for authority. A.True B.False

Think about the most polite, well mannered person you know. List 2-3 behaviors that he/she demonstrates. (Use CPS “Pick a Student” for this question)

 When you demonstrate proper service etiquette you: show respect for authority and experience show appreciation for the support of fellow Marines show loyalty to the United States and the Constitution  Service etiquette is really just an extension of the simple courtesy and good manners that you should practice everyday.

 Introductions should be simple, direct, and dignified, and the act of making them should be an occasion of formality.  You may make introductions or have someone else do it – as in a receiving line, but you cannot neglect an introduction, without running the risk of being rude or negligent.  When making an introduction, avoid the use of elaborate phrases.

 You must understand the invitation: what you are invited for, where it will be held, when you should be there, and what you should wear.  Always R.S.V.P. within ___ days to accept or decline the invitation.  You are not at liberty to invite someone else along unless the invitation clearly indicates the number and names of those invited. 2-3

 The invitation may specify what you should wear.  Some invitations may indicate that the dress is formal, informal, or casual.  Ensure that you understand what these terms mean.

 When attending an open house or a small dinner party, seek out your host and/or hostess immediately upon arrival and greet them.  Since the host and hostess are in charge, let them run things.  Before leaving, you must thank your host and hostess for a wonderful time.

 Thank-you notes should be written within two or three days, but no more than a week, after you have been a guest at someone’s home.  A thank-you note should be written in ink on quality writing paper.  There should be a minimum of __ paragraphs. 3

CPS Lesson Question (3)

How long should you take to R.S.V.P to an invitation? A.2-3 days B.One week C.The day of the event D.Just show up to the event

 When calling a private residence to respond to an R.S.V.P., it is proper to call between nine in the morning and six at night.  Avoid calling during meal hours.  When leaving a message on an answering machine, clearly state your name, the date and time of your call, and a brief message.

 Both junior and senior officers and enlisted men and women salute.  It is the responsibility of the _____ to initiate the salute.  It is important to know whom to salute and when it is appropriate to salute. junior

 The intent of the dining-in is to promote cordiality, comradeship, and esprit de corps.  The dining-in is an excellent vehicle to remind us of the nature of our service and the traditional courtesies and amenities appropriate to the military.

 At a dinner, a gentleman does not sit down until all the ladies at his table are ______.  If an older woman or an invalid gentleman needs some support, it is appropriate for you to offer your arm.  If a gentleman arrives at a door first, he should open it and allow others to pass through. seated

CPS Lesson Question (4)

Who’s responsibility is it to initiate a salute? A.The senior B.The civilians C.The junior D.The highest ranking officer

List the 2-3 most important things you learned in this lesson. Why are they important to you? (Use CPS “Pick a Student” for this question)

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