1. What You Can Do RIGHT NOW to Raise a Confident, Resilient Child Alan R. Graham, PhD, PCC, MCAC alan@ADDvisor.com 847-824-1235

2. Positive Protective Influences Viewing risks/adversities differently Providing buffers Promoting a sense of mastery Identifying turning point experiences

3. Five Strategies to Build the Resilient Mindset Goldstein/Brooks Teach empathy by practicing empathy Teach responsibility by encouraging contributions Teach decision-making and problem-solving skills that reinforce self-discipline Offer encouragement and feedback Help children deal with mistakes

4. Teach Responsibility by Encouraging Contributions

5. Teach Empathy by Practicing Empathy

6. Teach decision-making and problem- solving skills that reinforce self- discipline

7. Offer encouragement and feedback

8. “Broaden and Build” Theory (Barbara Fredrickson) Positive Emotion vs. Negative Emotion 3-4:1

9. Three Good Things Exercise (positive emotion about the present) Write down 3 good things that went really well today Why did this good thing happen?

10. Help children deal with mistakes

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