1. Understanding Our Emotions

2. Objectives 1. Students will identify emotions through verbal and non-verbal clues 2. Recognize the ways in which emotions impact conflict and our ability to manage conflict. 3. Recognize their thoughts about “triggers” and how these thoughts influence their feelings. 4. Identify reasons for developing alternative strategies for managing their anger 1. Students will identify emotions through verbal and non-verbal clues 2. Recognize the ways in which emotions impact conflict and our ability to manage conflict. 3. Recognize their thoughts about “triggers” and how these thoughts influence their feelings. 4. Identify reasons for developing alternative strategies for managing their anger

3. How does your behavior affect the way you look at a conflict? What are emotions? What are some positive emotions? What are some negative emotions? What do they do for us? How can they help us? Are there some situations where negative emotions can be helpful to us? What are emotions? What are some positive emotions? What are some negative emotions? What do they do for us? How can they help us? Are there some situations where negative emotions can be helpful to us?

4. How many of you think you have trouble controlling your anger? Are you comfortable expressing anger? How do you respond when someone gets angry with you?

5. Earlier we discussed two ways to respond to conflict - Withdrawal - Attack They are also ways of expressing anger. They can have physical symptoms…thought it can be dangerous to repress anger that is not a justification for attacking someone in anger.

6. To learn to deal with anger you need to recognize your own personal anger chain. There are 5 parts: 1. Knowing what pushes your buttons (what really makes you angry) 2. Evaluating the event (your thoughts about what has happened) 3. Recognizing your feelings 4. Recognizing what you do when your buttons get pushed 5. Recognizing the consequences of your behavior. To learn to deal with anger you need to recognize your own personal anger chain. There are 5 parts: 1. Knowing what pushes your buttons (what really makes you angry) 2. Evaluating the event (your thoughts about what has happened) 3. Recognizing your feelings 4. Recognizing what you do when your buttons get pushed 5. Recognizing the consequences of your behavior.

7. Turn to Yellow Worksheet Your Personal Anger Chain #76 Add notes under the proper category

8. Take notes…. The anger chain can be thought of as TTFBC Triggers: Events that set off my own anger chain. Something unpleasant happens internally or externally and our buttons get pushed Thoughts: My own thinking about the event, which tells me how I should feel about it. Jerk! Unfair! They’ll pay! I’ll get you! Feelings: How I feel about an event, flowing from my attitudes and beliefs. Why is this event so terrible? hurt, scared, angry,etc. Triggers: Events that set off my own anger chain. Something unpleasant happens internally or externally and our buttons get pushed Thoughts: My own thinking about the event, which tells me how I should feel about it. Jerk! Unfair! They’ll pay! I’ll get you! Feelings: How I feel about an event, flowing from my attitudes and beliefs. Why is this event so terrible? hurt, scared, angry,etc.

9. Take notes…. The anger chain can be thought of as TTFBC Behaviors: What do I typically do when this kind of event occurs? Run, withdraw, fight, cry, etc Consequences: What are the consequences, positive & negative, of my action? You’re grounded, suspended, punished, rejected, embarrassed, etc. Behaviors: What do I typically do when this kind of event occurs? Run, withdraw, fight, cry, etc Consequences: What are the consequences, positive & negative, of my action? You’re grounded, suspended, punished, rejected, embarrassed, etc. Create a mnemonic for TTFBC and place at the top of this worksheet

10. Use the blue reader #84 Uncontrolled Anger Chain for an explanation. Complete your worksheet Your Personal Anger Chain. Fill in the anger chain with at least 2 events in your life.

11. Pair and Share your personal anger triggers and your anger chain / What are the most frequent triggers for the class? / Poll: withdrawal or attack more often? / What are the alternative methods of dealing with anger triggers? / What are the most frequent triggers for the class? / Poll: withdrawal or attack more often? / What are the alternative methods of dealing with anger triggers?

12. Anger seems to be the emotion that most gets us into trouble. Even if we know strategies, anger seems to prevent us from using them.

13. Block 1: Anger and its consequences Block 2: Technique to control anger Directions: In the first block illustrate what anger looks like and the consequences which may arise from anger. Take time to do this with consideration; use color; use thought bubbles. DO NOT USE THE SECOND BLOCK as that is for use later in the curriculum. Illustrate what anger looks like and the consequences which may arise Finish this one later Don’t do for now

14. Keeping Self-Control / Worksheet / Illustrate anger and its consequences in block 1 / Do not use block 2 (that is for use later this week) / TURN IT IN / Worksheet / Illustrate anger and its consequences in block 1 / Do not use block 2 (that is for use later this week) / TURN IT IN

15. Video Clip Quiz and Reflection

16. Strategies for Controlling Anger / Counting and breathing - try it / Guided imagery -Beach? Mountains? Sunset? / Positive self talk - what is this? / Counting and breathing - try it / Guided imagery -Beach? Mountains? Sunset? / Positive self talk - what is this?

17. Homework / Complete worksheet where you identify 2 personal anger issues and the TTFBC process

18. Strategies for Controlling Anger / Counting and breathing - try it / Guided imagery - listen to my example - draw your own / Positive self talk - what is this? / Counting and breathing - try it / Guided imagery - listen to my example - draw your own / Positive self talk - what is this?

19. Changing Our Ways rewrite in your own notes on provided graphic organizer - add visuals

20. Components of Self-Control / Determine what is causing you to lose control / Identify what you are feeling-anger? anxiety? fear? / Determine why you are feeling that way – what happened? / Talk about the situation to someone sympathetic / If you think you need help, ask for it / Think about the positive ways in which you want the situation resolved / Try to keep your cool / Accept what cannot be changed, and live with it / Determine what is causing you to lose control / Identify what you are feeling-anger? anxiety? fear? / Determine why you are feeling that way – what happened? / Talk about the situation to someone sympathetic / If you think you need help, ask for it / Think about the positive ways in which you want the situation resolved / Try to keep your cool / Accept what cannot be changed, and live with it List these on your notes

21. Block 1: Anger and its consequences Block 2: Technique to control anger Directions. Add the second block - make sure to include some of the anger controlling strategies we have discussed Already completed an Illustration of what anger looks like and the consequences which may arise Finish this one now

22. LADDER OF PREJUDICE http://www.jvwisdom.com/uploads/images/ladder.gif

23. “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world’ indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.” -Margaret Mead

24. EXTERMINATION AVOIDANCE SPEECH ATTACK DISCRIMINATION What do these terms mean? Where should they go on the ladder?

25. http://www.lifehack.org/wp-content/files/2007/02/20060226-postitnote-pad.jpg / Take a post-it note and write on it something that has happened in the school or community that could be posted on the ladder.

26. Prejudice still exists Discrimination still exists Prejudice still exists Discrimination still exists