1. ❧ Restorative Practice A Tool in the Toolbox or The Toolbox

2. ❧ ❧ Diane Stronks ❧ Educator Extraordinaire ❧ Executive Director, Edifide ❧ Phil Stegink ❧ Calvin College, Assistant Professor ❧ CLC Network, Special Projects Restorative Practice

3. ❧ ❧ Welcome ❧ Circle Up ❧ Introduce Self Restorative Practice

4. ❧ ❧ Our Goals ❧ Explore Principles and Practices of Restorative Relationships in School Communities ❧ Describe the Context for Including Restorative Practices in Interactions with Students and Colleagues ❧ Why Restorative Practices ❧ Identify Practices that Restore ❧ Articulate Strengths and Weaknesses of Restorative Practices ❧ Your Goals ❧ Post It

5. ❧ ❧ The school custodian comes to school early on Monday morning to prepare the school for the onslaught of eager learners. ❧ He finds the boys locker room trashed. ❧ By noon, he knows who did it … Restorative Practice

6. ❧ ❧ John Calvin middle school is pleased that it is committed to including students with disabilities. The Board, Administration, and Staff agree that inclusion is the ‘right thing to do.’ ❧ Wiley Kidd has been assigned to the classroom of sixth grade teacher, Ben A’Round. Ben knows Wiley as a troubled student and he keeps Wiley on a “short leash.” ❧ Wiley has been sent out of the classroom eight times in the first two months of school. ❧ Wiley has consequently been asked to stay home for two days. ❧ Ben’s colleagues are frustrated. Restorative Practice

7. ❧ ❧ What questions do we ask about these situations? Restorative Practice

8. ❧ ❧ Typically: ❧ Why do students do bad things? ❧ Why do teachers act in ways that marginalize students? ❧ How does one manage conflict between staff and individuals? Restorative Practice

9. ❧ ❧ Reframe the question …? ❧ Why do students do good things? Why do they do the right thing? ❧ Why do teachers act in ways that celebrate students? Restorative Practice

10. ❧ ❧ Reframing … really? Restorative Practice

11. ❧ ❧ What does an ideal school culture look like? ❧ What would a visitor to an ideal school see? ❧ What presents as opportunities to achieving this culture? ❧ What presents as barriers to achieving this culture? ❧ What is a true community? ❧ Describe your family about conflict or difference? Restorative Practice

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14. ❧ Restorative Practice ClassTeacher

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17. ❧ ❧ Key Feature ❧ Restorative Practice is about … ❧ Restoration of broken relationship … ❧ Some definers and extenders of “broken” ❧ Harmed ❧ Strained ❧ Stressed ❧ Separated ❧ Conflict ❧ Hurt ❧ Building relationships proactively Restorative Practice

18. ❧ ❧ Ethos and Learning Intertwined … ❧ Culture and Concepts 18

19. ❧ Restorative Practice Workplace ❧ Key Principles ❧ Conflict disrupts relationship ❧ Obligations to resolve conflict ❧ Involve all stakeholders ❧ Resolve the conflict Classroom ❧ Key Principles ❧ Harm disrupts relationship ❧ Obligations to make it right ❧ Involve all stakeholders ❧ Put right the harm 19

20. ❧ Restorative Practice WorkplaceClassroom Manage Harm Negative behavior breaks rules Actor accepts consequences of harm Adults responsible for resolution To maintain community tranquility, develop and implement efficient rules, codes, and consequences Manage Conflict Conflict breaks contracts Actor accepts consequences of conflict Authorities responsible for solution To maintain peace, develop and implement efficient rules and expectations 20

21. ❧ Restorative Practice WorkplaceClassroom Manage HarmRestore Relationship Negative behavior breaks rules Negative behavior causes harm Actor accepts consequences of harm Actor takes steps to repair harm Adults responsible for resolution Those involved should be involved in resolution To maintain community tranquility, develop and implement efficient rules, codes, and consequences To build community, it is important develop ownership for behavior Manage ConflictRestore Relationship Conflict breaks contracts Conflict strains relationships Actor accepts consequences of conflict Actor takes steps to repair conflict Authorities responsible for solution Those involved in conflict responsible for solution To maintain maintain, develop and implement efficient rules and expectations To build community, it is important to develop and implement community ownership 21

22. ❧ Restorative Practice Adversarial ❧ What rules have been broken? ❧ Who broke the rules? ❧ What consequence do they deserve? Restorative ❧ What happened? ❧ What harm happened? ❧ Who has been hurt? ❧ What needs to be done to repair the harm? 22

23. ❧ Restorative Practice Challenging Behavior ❧ What happened? ❧ What were you thinking at the time? ❧ What have you thoughts about since? ❧ Who has been affected by what you did? In what way? ❧ What do you think you need to do to make things right? When Someone Harmed ❧ What did you think when you realized what happened? ❧ What impact has this incident had on you and others? ❧ What has been the hardest thing for you? ❧ What do you think needs to happen to make things right? 23

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25. ❧ High Relationship Window Control Limit Setting Discipline TO Punitive WITH Restorative NOT Neglectful FOR Permissive LowSupport Encouragement, Nurture Restorative Practice

26. ❧ High Relationship Window Control Limit Setting Discipline TO Punitive Authoritarian WITH Restorative Authoritative NOT Neglectful Ignored FOR Permissive Objects of Need LowSupport Encouragement, Nurture Restorative Practice

27. ❧ High Relationship Window Control Limit Setting Discipline TO Punitive Authoritarian Stigmatizing Shame WITH Restorative Authoritative Re-integrating Shame NOT Neglectful Ignored FOR Permissive Objects of Need LowSupport Encouragement, Nurture Restorative Practice

28. ❧ High Relationship Window Control Limit Setting Discipline TOWITH NOTFOR LowSupport Encouragement, Nurture Restorative Practice In which domain do you mostly practice?

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30. ❧ ❧ Summary: Implementation 1Relationships are central to community 2Systems/structures address behavior intended to strengthen relationships 3Focus on harm done, rather than rule breaking 4Give voice to the ‘harmed’ 5 Embrace collaborative problem solving 6 Seek enduring change 7Enhance responsibility Restorative Practice

31. ❧ ❧ Break Out … Story Time … ❧ Administrative Group ❧ Classroom/Educator Group Restorative Practice

32. ❧ ❧ Summary ❧ School Culture …. ❧ S. W. O. T. Restorative Practice

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35. ❧ ❧ Classroom/Educator Group Restorative Practice Continuum of Restorative Practice - Discipline INFORMALFORMAL affective statements affective questions small impromptu conference group or circle formal conference

36. ❧ Continuum of Restorative Practice - Discipline INFORMALFORMAL affective statements affective questions small impromptu conference group or circle formal conference “Stop teasing Sandy.”“It makes me uncomfortable when I hear you teasing Sandy.” “You know better than to talk during class.” “I am frustrated that you are not listening to me.” “Sit down and be quiet.”“I get really angry when you talk and joke during my presentations.” “I don’t want to see you fighting with him.” “I was shocked to see you hurt Pete.” Restorative Practice

37. ❧ Continuum of Restorative Practice - Discipline INFORMALFORMAL affective statements affective questions small impromptu conference group or circle formal conference To the HarmerTo the Harmed “What happened?”“What did you think when you realized what happened?” “What were you thinking at the time?”“What impact has this incident had on you and others?” “What have you thought about since?”“What has been the hardest thing for you?” “Who has been affected by what you’ve done? In what way?” “What do you think needs to happen to make things right?” “What do you think you need to do to make things right?” Restorative Practice

38. ❧ Continuum of Restorative Practice - Discipline INFORMALFORMAL affective statements affective questions small impromptu conference group or circle formal conference A middle school student shoves a peer’s books out of his hands and kicks them down the hallway. A teacher who sees this pulls them aside and says, Two students are fighting about who goes first down the slide. Restorative Practice

39. ❧ Continuum of Restorative Practice - Discipline INFORMALFORMAL affective statements affective questions small impromptu conference group or circle formal conference A middle school student shoves a peer’s books out of his hands and kicks them down the hallway. A teacher who sees this pulls them aside and says, “Hey, what happened here?” Letting each talk. To the peer she says, “How were you affected by that?” The teacher says, “I don’t feel safe in the hallway when students fight or are mean to each other.” “How will they resolve this issue?” Two students are fighting about who goes first down the slide. Restorative Practice

40. ❧ Continuum of Restorative Practice - Discipline INFORMALFORMAL affective statements affective questions small impromptu conference group or circle formal conference A middle school student shoves a peer’s books out of his hands and kicks them down the hallway. A teacher who sees this pulls them aside and says, “Hey, what happened here?” Letting each talk. To the peer she says, “How were you affected by that?” The teacher says, “I don’t feel safe in the hallway when students fight or are mean to each other.” “How will they resolve this issue?” Two students are fighting about who goes first down the slide. A teacher intervenes by Restorative Practice

41. ❧ Continuum of Restorative Practice - Discipline INFORMALFORMAL affective statements affective questions small impromptu conference group or circle formal conference A middle school student shoves a peer’s books out of his hands and kicks them down the hallway. A teacher who sees this pulls them aside and says, “Hey, what happened here?” Letting each talk. To the peer she says, “How were you affected by that?” The teacher says, “I don’t feel safe in the hallway when students fight or are mean to each other.” “How will they resolve this issue?” Two students are fighting about who goes first down the slide. A teacher intervenes by saying, “When I saw you arguing, I was really scared for you. What happened?” Allowing the girls each to talk. “What was your part in what happened? Remember, right now we are talking only about your part.” “Now, what can you each do to make this better?” Restorative Practice

42. ❧ Continuum of Restorative Practice - Discipline INFORMALFORMAL affective statements affective questions small impromptu conference group or circle formal conference Responsive Circles – RestoreProactive Circles – Build Repair Harm Find Solutions Restorative Practice

43. ❧ Challenging Behavior ❧ What happened? ❧ What were you thinking at the time? ❧ What have you thoughts about since? ❧ Who has been affected by what you did? In what way? ❧ What do you think you need to do to make things right? When Someone Harmed ❧ What did you think when you realized what happened? ❧ What impact has this incident had on you and others? ❧ What has been the hardest thing for you? ❧ What do you think needs to happen to make things right? 43

44. ❧ ❧ Locker Room Trashed ❧ Punishment ❧ Suspension from school ❧ Consequences minimally connected to behavior ❧ Consequences ❧ Clean the locker room ❧ Attempt to fit punishment to the “crime” ❧ Solutions ❧ Why was the student in the locker room & motivated to trash it? ❧ Misbehavior is a problem to be solved ❧ Restoration ❧ Work with all involved to find ways to put things right ❧ Identifies and integrates needs and purposes behind the behavior and the needs of those harmed Restorative Practice

45. ❧ Continuum of Restorative Practice - Discipline INFORMALFORMAL affective statements affective questions small impromptu conference group or circle formal conference Responsive Circles – RestoreProactive Circles – Build Repair Harm“Check In/Check Out” Find Solutions“Classroom Norms” “Classroom content” “Academic Goal Setting” “Learning Profiles” “Behavior challenges” Restorative Practice

46. ❧ ❧ High School Student Sells Her Medication … Restorative Practice

47. ❧ Continuum of Restorative Practice - Discipline INFORMALFORMAL affective statements affective questions small impromptu conference group or circle formal conference Restorative Conferences All those involved and affected by an incident come together. Often led by a trained facilitator. Following a script Welcome & Purpose Offenders begin by talking about what happened Offenders talk about their thoughts and feelings since the incident Offenders talk about how the offended had been affected All participants speak to their feelings All participants are asked about their desired outcome and how those could be accomplished Restorative Practice

48. ❧ 48 Leading Change in School Culture

49. ❧ ❧ Summary ❧ S. W. O. T. ❧ Action Plan ❧ Return to Debrief Restorative Practice

50. ❧ Restorative Practice References Restorative Practices ❧ IIRP (iirp.edu) ❧ The Restorative Practices Handbook ❧ Restorative Circles in Schools ❧ Restorative Justice Conferencing ❧ The Little Book of Restorative Discipline for Schools; Stutzman, Amstutz, and Mullet Restorative Influences ❧ Lost at School; Ross Greene ❧ Getting to Yes; Fisher and Ury ❧ Beyond Discipline: From Compliance to Community 50

51. ❧ ❧ Diane Stronks ❧ Educator Extraordinaire ❧ Executive Director, Edifide ❧ diane.stronks@edifide.net ❧ Phil Stegink ❧ Calvin College, Assistant Professor ❧ CLC Network, Special Projects ❧ pstegink@calvin.edu Restorative Practice