1. Warm up
Write about a conflict you have had recently. Tell me how you resolved this conflict. If the conflict has not been resolved, then write down how you plan to resolve it.

2. Conflict Resolution and Violence Prevention
Lesson 11

3. Objectives Analyze the causes of conflict
Analyze the relationship between the use of refusal skills and the avoidance of unsafe situations
Demonstrate healthful strategies for resolving conflicts and evaluate the effectiveness of conflict resolution techniques in various situations

4. Terms: Conflict: any disagreement, struggle, or fight
Interpersonal conflicts: disagreements of any size, from two people to entire nations
Conflict resolution: process of solving a disagreement in a manner that satisfies everyone involved
Negotiation: use of communication and compromise to settle a disagreement
Mediation: process in which specially trained people help others resolve their conflicts peacefully

5. Understanding Conflict
Disagreements are NORMAL in healthy relationships
One benefit of conflict is that it can bring people together to work out problems
Learning to recognize conflict and knowing how to deal with it is extremely important for your overall health and well-being

6. What Causes Conflict? Can begin in many ways and for many reasons
Some are the results of accidents, while others are intentionally provoked
Common Causes:
Power struggles: when people are fighting for power over a situation
Loyalty: faithfulness to a friend or commitment
Jealousy/Envy: wanting what someone else has
Property disputes: conflict over material possessions
Territory and space: conflict over an area
Conflicting attitudes and values: differences in beliefs or wants
Lack of respect: prejudice, bias, bad mood
Accidentally bumping into someone, intentionally calling someone a name
Power struggle example: teenagers thing they should be able to decide their curfew but parents want to make that decision
Loyalty example: taking someone’s side in an argument
Jealousy example: jealous when a friend make a softball team and you don’t or your friend’s parents have more money then your parents so she has nicer clothes
Property disputes: I used to get mad when my sister wore my clothes without asking when we were younger
Territory example: siblings often fight when one goes into the others room without permission

7. Responding to Conflict
Choice to face the conflict or ignore it
Primary concern should be your health and safety
Walking away from a dangerous situation is a wise choice and does not make you a coward

8. Conflict Resolution
Process of solving a disagreement in a manner that satisfies everyone
Strategies:
Take time to calm down and think the situation over
Use “I” messages when discussing the conflict
Take turns explaining each side of the conflict
Ask for clarification so that each person understands the other’s position
Brainstorm solutions
Agree on a solution that benefits both sides
Follow up to see whether the correct solution was chosen

9. Respect How would you define respect personally???
Show respect for yourself and others
Self-respect: recognize your right to your own opinions and values; ability to stand up for your beliefs
Respect for others: listen to them with an open mind; consider other people’s thoughts and feelings; honor values held
Showing tolerance of those who are different then you will help to minimize conflicts

10. Negotiation
The use of communication and often compromise to settle a disagreement
Involves talking, listening, considering the other person’s point of view, compromising if necessary and devising a plan for working jointly to resolve the conflict

11. Preparing for Negotiation:
Make sure the issue is important to you
Check your facts; make sure the disagreement is grounded in factual evidence
Remember that the goal is to come up with a solution, not prove who is ‘in control’ or who is ‘right’
Rehearse what you will say, or script it out in advance so you don’t forget

12. During Negotiation:
Select a time and place suited to working out problems
Meet when you are calm and are not rushed for time. Choose a quiet place, free of distractions
Work together towards a solution
Do not treat the other person as an enemy
Keep an open mind
There are two sides to every story
Listen carefully to what the other person has to say
Be flexible
Be willing to meet ‘halfway’
Take responsibility for your role in the conflict
Apologize if you know you have hurt the other person
Give the other person an “out”
If the other person seems to be embarrassed or uncomfortable, suggest continuing the conversation at a later time

13. Mediation
If two people can’t reach an agreement on their own through negotiation, it may be necessary for mediation to take place
Mediation: a process in which specially trained people help others resolve their conflicts peacefully
Takes place in a neutral location
Mediator maintains confidentiality
Process has well defined rules, which the mediator will inform the participants of

14. Violence Prevention

15. Protective Factors Behaviors that you can practice to stay safe
Taking precautions against risky situations and developing safety habits
Have students complete health inventory Textbook website, click health inventories on left, chapter 13, violence prevention and complete….ability to keep good relationships is a protective factor

16. Strategies for Staying Safe
Avoid unsafe areas
Don’t carry your wallet or purse in a conspicuous, easy to grab place
Walk briskly and confidently. Always look as though you know where you are going and what you are doing
Avoid walking alone at night, in wooded areas or dark alleys.
Park your car in a well-lit area. Have your keys out and ready as you approach your parked car and look to make sure no one is in it before getting inside. Lock doors as soon as you get in.
Let your family know where you are going and when you’ll be home
Don’t get into an elevator with a stranger
Get on and off buses in well lit areas
If someone you know gives you a ride, ask them to wait until you get inside before driving away
Do not hitchhike or pick up hitchhikers
Avoid the use of drugs or alcohol.

17. Body Language
The use of body language can help demonstrate that you are in charge of your safety
Make direct eye contact
Use a strong voice
Hold your head high
Walk with a deliberate stride

18. Self Defense Any strategy for protecting oneself from harm
There are a range of classes available
Physical and mental strategies are important
Be assertive
Stand up for your rights and beliefs in firm but positive ways
Show that you are NOT an easy target
Read article “ a master of conflict resolution”

19. Keeping Your Home Safe Lock doors with a bolt
Put locks on windows and keep them locked at night
Never open the door to someone you don’t know
Don’t let strangers use your phone
Do not tell unknown callers you are home alone
Do not give out personal information over the telephone or computer

20. Safety in the Community
Increased police patrol
Neighborhood watch programs
After-school programs
Improved lighting in parks and playgrounds
Strategies that many communities have taken to make neighborhoods safer

21. Keeping Schools Safe: Bullying
Bullying: the act of seeking power or attention through the psychological, emotional or physical abuse of another person
Come in all ages and both genders
Victims of bullying may feel depressed, withdrawn, fearful or angry
Sometime just walking away from a bully will help stop the behavior; however, most cases of bullying require adult intervention

22. Keeping Schools Safe: Sexual Harassment
Sexual Harassment: uninvited and unwelcome sexual conduct directed at another person
Words, jokes, gestures, and inappropriate touching are all forms of sexual harassment
Harassment is unethical and causes embarrassment, discomfort and emotional pain for the victim
Incidents of sexual harassment must be reported to school personnel at once

23. Keeping Schools Safe :Gangs
Gangs: groups of people who associate with one another to take part in criminal activity
Common activities include
Vandalism
Robbery
Defacing public property
Selling drugs
Some gang activities put innocent people in harms way
Exploring issues pg 339

24. Influences on Violence
Weapons availability
Media
Alcohol and other drugs
Mental/emotional issues
Most homicides among yr olds involve firearms. Do you think stricter gun laws would help this?
Media: by age 13 most American children have seen 100,000 acts of violence on tv including about 8,000 murders, also common in movies, video games, song lyrics and music videos Desensitization occurs (emotional indifference)
Alcohol and drugs effect judgment and decision making skills
Mental/emotional issues: direct correlation between engaging in violent behavior and having a negative self concept

25. What can you do?? Recognize warning signs!!! Report threats
Practice conflict resolution skills
Use refusal skills to resist negative peer pressure
Choose friends carefully
Avoid spending time with those who show warning signs of violent behavior
Tell an adult if you suspect your safety is in danger
Join or develop a SAVE chapter (Students Against Violence Everywhere)