1. susie essex 2013 11/4/2015

2. Position of the worker/therapist Family/wider kinship Professionals/ managers and Court susie essex 201311/4/2015

3. Position of the worker/therapist Family/wider kinship Literature ‘Code of ethics’ = Meldcode susie essex 201311/4/2015

4. susie essex 2013 NEVER be tempted to say “you think he did it”, or “parents should do that”, even if parents beg you to give your opinion and promise they won’t hold it against you

5. Summary 1. Preparation 2. Engagement 3. Words and Pictures 4. Family Safety Guidelines 5. Similar but different - role play 6. Family Safety Plan 7. Follow-up susie essex 201311/4/2015

6. Summary 1. Preparation 2. Engagement : THIS IS EVERYTHING!!!!! 3. Words and Pictures 4. Family Safety Guidelines 5. Similar but different - role play 6. Family Safety Plan 7. Follow-up susie essex 201311/4/2015

7. . Engagement : ….. To do what? Engagement to work together on a family safetyplan to show that the children are safe So…be goal-oriented (5 goals) susie essex 201311/4/2015

8. Based on  Not being rude  Not getting in their way  No gratuitous opinions Respect, in child protection based on Rigour and Grace susie essex 2013 11/4/2015

9.  Listening carefully.  Use their Language and where necessary run their words alongside professionals words.  Interrupt only to underline strengths and resources (rest=collecting mushrooms again)  Be clear about own role, relationship to referrer, and limits to confidentiality. Coming in from the outer edge susie essex 2013 11/4/2015

10.  Following not leading.  Curiosity about others views and opinions.  A stance of curiosity and not knowing too quickly.  Warming the context to ask about more difficult aspects.  Allow them to tell their story, this is not agreeing but expressing interest in their perspective and ideas. Pictures to Underscore Listening. So X would have seen you were surprised when the doctor called the ambulance.” susie essex 2013 11/4/2015

11.  Could we leave whether you did it or not to one side, up on a shelf so to speak?  If the dispute was easy to resolve I guess it would have happened by now.  Current research indicates, I can understand from the research and literature why they are worried but i do hear what you are saying, I have made a note of it here.  Don’t be tempted to give a definitive position. susie essex 2013 11/4/2015

12.  Haring boning.  Meaning going from difficult to easy subject and back.  Similar to what a therapist does:  If stress too high: support, if ‘too low’, automatic pilot: more confronting questions. 11/4/2015 susie essex 2013

13.  Equalizing, trying to restore some of the power balance that seems to have been lost.  Susie does this for instance by stressing that feelings and behaviour are mutual, maybe unnoticed at the time, but…..  (video) 11/4/2015 susie essex 2013

14.  Placing seeds of doubt?  Stressing that doubt is good for you and good for Child Protection  The advantage of Resolutions is that doubt can be explored in more detal in the S but D 11/4/2015 susie essex 2013

15.  I see Susie sometimes giving compliments for something that I didnt believe was ‘real’.  Susie tries not to think too much of something but rather be ‘playing a straight bat’: What they throw is what they get…  Susie remarked that having a network person in early gives room for more different voices earlier on. 11/4/2015 susie essex 2013

16.  Checking constantly where parents are:  How are we going with these questions?  What are your worst fears?  Best hopes? 11/4/2015 susie essex 2013