1. Subjects on Marriage Finances Sex In Laws Conflict resolution Unequal growth Communications Nurturing/love In-laws Children Phases of Life Organization Chart My qualifications: 44 years of marriage 3 children 3 in law children 5 grandchildren

2. Ephesians 5:22-28 5:22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 5:23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 5:24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 5:26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 5:27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 5:28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.

3. Axiom If you do not deal with the command of submission you will disregard other tough commands and develop a hybrid (world view, personal opinion and some scripture) marriage

4. About the Command Remember: Our authority and leadership is God’s Plan It is a specifically assigned responsibility It is real in the Court of Heaven We will be judged on our execution of this JOB—(so will she) Beside yourself, name one bad example of failure to this command in the scripture… With these high stakes how can we as husbands ignore this command?

5. 7 Ways Jesus Taught He taught them with direct and indirect teaching He taught by example—Prayer He was non-condescending when they questioned him He delegated responsibilities-$$ and ministry He provided for them but let them contribute Served them—washed feet, healed their family He was sensitive to their personage..Thomas, Peter, John… Died for them How are you doing with your wife?? Since Jesus was the model for our leadership, lets look at how He did it.

6. Do’s and Don’ts in Your Leadership Don’t pick a fight where there is no absolute exist….Finances Have convictions, but remember they are only your opinion…Church attendance Don’t do things in secrete behind her back Confront issues in a timely manner Remember—The command doesn’t say the husband is or will be smarter than the wife

7. Axiom Disagreement does not constitute rebellion from your authority…Rebellion can easily be recognized.. Example:

8. Some Areas You Will Fail In In interpreting the scriptures on items such as tithing, submission, hats, women not preacher, i.e. Discipline of the children Relationship to both sets of in-laws Finances Sexual frequency Which of these have scriptures on how to do it and which ones cause the most trouble ***

9. Axiom Though the man is ultimately culpable—98% of your couples decision do not require you casting the ultimate vote. Don’t micro manage the marriage.

10. To Do Develop a systematic study with your wife to discuss— in advance of the conflict —such scriptural teaching as Submission Yoking of the children Tithing Strategy on the children Etc Not in a hurry, but do it regularly and often.

11. Axiom Be a student of your wife. Lead in accordance with her temperament and giftedness and capacity.

12. Axiom Be a leader and get the best out of you and your spouse. Leadership is as much attitude as it is technique. She can’t submit unless you are leading.