1. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken1 Chapter 8: Interpersonal Dynamics Music from France Barzotti Claude - La France est au français http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=7861939728287868407&ei=e_5aS6 W9GYOGqQOqqfXmDg&q=france+music&hl=en# Jenifer-C'est de l'or http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xk0tt_jenifercest-de- lor_musichttp://www.dailymotion.com/video/xk0tt_jenifercest-de- lor_music Emily Loizeau - 'Je Suis Jalouse' Music Video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X2BEhk1fqZo http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X2BEhk1fqZo

2. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken2 What does this art say about interpersonal communication?

3. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken3 “The Conversation” by Phil Morin galleryofart.files.wordpres s.com

4. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken4 http://fineartamerica.com/images-medium/honeymoon- sunil-mehta.jpg http://fineartamerica.com/images-medium/honeymoon- sunil-mehta.jpg Honeymoon Painting by Sunil MehtaSunil Mehta

5. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken5 Couple to Be – Wolfgang Karl http://fineartamerica.com/watermark.html?id=305516 http://fineartamerica.com/watermark.html?id=305516

6. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken6 The Lovers, Rene Magritte http://www.demandmore.org/images/lovers%20- %20magritte.jpghttp://www.demandmore.org/images/lovers%20- %20magritte.jpg

7. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken7 Take a few minutes to discuss them. Karl Mehta Morin Karl Magritte

8. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken8 Watzlawick, Beavin, and Jackson proposed interactional AKA pragmatic theory. Consider how your perception and processing may affect the way you communicate interpersonally. Look at the dancer: http://www.news.com.au/perthnow/story/0, 21598,22492511-5005375,00.html http://www.news.com.au/perthnow/story/0, 21598,22492511-5005375,00.html

9. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken9 Contexts originated with von Bertalanffy, who pioneered the idea under the name of general systems theory. All life forms, social as well as biological, can be understood only as complex, organized wholes called systems.

10. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken10 System All parts are interrelated. Systems are organized wholes. The whole is more than the sum of its parts. For example, the family is more than each individual alone. Openness is the extent to which a system affects and is affected by factors and processes outside of it. Most human relationships are fairly open. Systems strive for, but never achieve, equilibrium. Absolute balance isn't possible for living systems.

11. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken11 Levels of Meaning We are always communicating (one cannot not communicate). 1. Content meaning is basic.

12. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken12 Relationship meaning is about the relationship between people. Beck calls the relationship level of communication "hidden meanings." Hidden meanings are very powerful aspects of relationship systems because they express and sustain the emotional climate between people.

13. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken13 3. Metacommunication is communication about the communication (commentary on the content level).

14. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken14 Talk about it. Pair up according to a television drama or comedy. Both of you have to know the show. Question 1: Use the concept of levels of meaning to gain new insight into relationships between characters on a television show. a. Concentrate on a single relationship in a program that airs at least weekly. b. Analyze the metacommunication. c. What is expressed and negotiated in terms of affection, respect, and power between the characters?

15. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken15 Punctuation is the way communication episodes start and stop. Communication tends to go smoothly as long as all parties agree on punctuation.

16. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken16 Communication and Power All communication is either symmetrical (reflects equal power) or complementary (reflects different levels of power). The Palo Alto group worked with troubled families, where power comes in many forms (passive- aggression, games, manipulation, and is often central and continuous in family interaction). Parallel relationships are those in which power is equal overall but distributed so that each individual has primary authority or control in certain realms.

17. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken17 Dialectical tensions: Integration versus Separation Stability versus Change Expression versus Privacy

18. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken18 Dialectical Theory (Baxter and Rawlins) Contradiction is conflict, opposition, contrast, or discrepancy between two things. Process is that change always exists and moves the relationship forward.

19. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken19 Our Response Selection: Satisfy one need and ignore or deny the contradictory one. Separation: Satisfy one need in one situation and other in other situation. Neutralization: Compromise that doesn't fully satisfy. BEST is Reframing: Transforms perceptions into positive.

20. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken20 A system is a. a collection of independent parts b. a group of parts that act separately to function c. a group of interrelated parts that interact to function as a whole d. an unorganized collection of parts e. a collection of parts that are proximate

21. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken21 A system is a. a collection of independent parts b. a group of parts that act separately to function c. a group of interrelated parts that interact to function as a whole d. an unorganized collection of parts e. a collection of parts that are proximate

22. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken22 When Dan is late for a date, Gina snarls, "I'm going to buy you a watch." The relationship level of meaning is a. Dan is late b. Dan doesn't own a watch c. Gina is irritated by Dan's lateness d. Gina is going to buy Dan a watch e. Dan doesn't care about Gina

23. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken23 When Dan is late for a date, Gina snarls, "I'm going to buy you a watch." The relationship level of meaning is a. Dan is late b. Dan doesn't own a watch c. Gina is irritated by Dan's lateness d. Gina is going to buy Dan a watch e. Dan doesn't care about Gina

24. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken24 In response to Gina's comment, Dan says, "Gee, the way you said that makes me think you're upset. Is that what you meant by your comment?" Dan's communication is an example of a. content level of meaning b. metacommunication c. systemic openness d. all of the above.

25. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken25 In response to Gina's comment, Dan says, "Gee, the way you said that makes me think you're upset. Is that what you meant by your comment?" Dan's communication is an example of a. content level of meaning b. metacommunication c. systemic openness d. all of the above.

26. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken26 All parts of a system are interrelated. True or False

27. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken27 All parts of a system are interrelated. True or False

28. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken28 Dialectical theory maintains that tensions in relationships should be removed. True or False

29. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken29 Dialectical theory maintains that tensions in relationships should be removed. True or False Tension can move a relationship positively through change.

30. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken30 Dialectical tensions are in individuals. True or False

31. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken31 Dialectical tensions are in individuals. True or False Dialectical tensions are a normal part of relationships.

32. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken32 The most central friction in personal relationships is the dialectic of openness closedness. True or False

33. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken33 The most central friction in personal relationships is the dialectic of openness closedness. True or False No, the most friction comes from Integration versus Separation

34. Chapter 8 CA 301 Dr. Aitken34 TALK for five minutes Wood seems to particularly value Dialectical Theory. In fact, she wrote a book on interpersonal communication, which weaves this theory throughout the book. What are key elements of Dialectical Theory? In what ways do you agree or disagree with elements of the theory? How can you use and apply this theory to the interpersonal communication of your everyday life?