1. It’s your problem as a victim, predator and bystander SEXUAL HARASSMENT

2. Two important things to remember: Sexual harassment is ILLEGAL! Sexual harassment is never OK.

3. What is Sexual Harassment? The law defines sexual harassment as: Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature. That’s an awful lot to remember. So we took all of those words and narrowed it down to three words. UNWANTED: the person on the receiving end is made to feel uncomfortable; SEXUAL: maybe any reference to appearance, sexual favors, etc. ACTIVITY : ACTIONS or WORDS

4. Examples of Sexual Harassment Touch Grabbing Tickling Pushing Cornering Brushing against him/her Non-Touch verbal – name-calling threats jokes rumors comments about bodies gestures looks, leers written, notes bathroom walls texts, facebook, im, etc.

5. Be careful, you may think you are flirting but… Sexual Harassment Illegal Never OK Unwanted Put down Feels bad One-way Flirting Legal OK Wanted Compliment Feel good Two-way

6. Who gets to decide? The person getting the attention always gets to decide. What should you do if you flirt with someone and they ignore you? STOP. What do you do with your bad feelings? We all want the people we like to like us back. No one likes being rejected and your feelings may be hurt. However, it is never ok to make the other person feel bad or harass them because you feel bad or rejected. Do you think there would ever be a situation where something could start out as flirting and then turn into sexual harassment. Important to trust your feelings and also be aware of the feelings of others. Communication is key.

7. Watch video: Respecting Each Other: Sexual Harassment Prevention DVD or http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zzud3ioYUFM

8. What is the key to avoid becoming a sexual harasser? Respect: Treating others the way you want to be treated. No means NO; and stop means GO AWAY: Do not make excuses. Equality: Treating everybody the same. Remember, each individual is somebody’s brother, sister, son, daughter, mother or father. Would you do it to them?

9. What to do if you are being harassed? Keep control of yourself. Walk away and/or ask your friends for help. This is your first line of defense. If it continues tell them to stop, warn them that if it continues you will have to report the harassment. Would this be easy to do? Who can you tell? Follow through. Report the abuse.

10. What to do as a witness? State your opinion, and ask if your friend needs help: For example, “I don’t think what Bobby is doing is right, it made me feel uncomfortable. Should I wait with you after school?” Tell; even if your friend asks you not to.