1. Lifeskills Program for AdolescentsWelcome Drinking, Drugs and Sex Organised and Supported by “On Track” Community Health Project Mallee Track Health & Community Service Presented by Bernard Denner Special Projects Manager MTH&CS

2. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents What WE are looking at today A bit about me Drinking Sex / Lust / Choice

3. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Who am I? Bernard Denner Health Educator / Projects Manager Bloke 52 years Divorced 12 years Daughters - 15 and 17 years Vietnam Veteran 3RAR…Infantry

4. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents My work since 1994 focuses on providing Programs that address issues associated with: Men Adolescents Workplace Health Women Understanding Men and Farmsafety in Primary Schools

5. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents mannet.com.au Averages monthly: 80 to 90,000+ hits 5,250+ sessions 40% interest from North America Rated in Top 15% of 1.7M www domains “Who said men weren’t interested in their health”

6. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents

7. Australian Mortality Rates National - 1999 15-24 years Cause of DeathMalesFemales%Rate Suicide398 71435%  Cancer 95 47202%  Leukemia 35 11318%  Transport Accident407116350%  Drugs 68 27251%  Source: Causes of Death, ABS, 1999

8. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Australian Mortality Rates Loddon Mallee Health Region - 1994 Cause of DeathMalesFemales%Rate Suicide 25 7357%  Cancer309230134%  Heart Disease122 49248%  Source: DHS, Measures of Health Status and Health Services in Victoria, 1994

9. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Drinking If you choose to drink you should consider the following pieces of advice

10. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Be clear about why you are drinking Be responsible for yourself and others Don’t take risks with yourself or others Drink in a safe place

11. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Take a limited amount of alcohol with you Low alcohol beer is cheaper and tends to make you feel full before you are drunk Pour your own drinks / open your own bottles

12. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Finish your glass first, don’t “top” it up Arrange for safe transport home Make a safety pact with a friend before drinking Alternate alcoholic and non- alcoholic drinks and avoid salty snacks

13. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Finish the night by drinking water - it won’t make you sober, but you will feel better in the morning Never drink and drive, climb or swim Source: Rob and Kerry Grant

14. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Unsafe Drinking Could lead to: Unsafe sexual behaviour Aggression / Fighting Targetting / Harrassing Girls Drugs

15. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Stronger Drinks Risky behaviour such as: unsafe swimming unsafe driving Hospitalisation through injury from risky behaviour or alcoholic poisoning Source: Bernard J. Denner

16. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Drugs If you choose to take drugs you should consider the following pieces of advice

17. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Be clear about why you are taking drugs Be responsible for yourself and others Don’t take risks with yourself or others Take drugs in a safe place

18. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Don’t mix drugs and alcohol Don’t buy drugs from an unknown source Don’t experiment, by yourself Never mix drugs

19. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Arrange for safe transport home Make a safety pact with a friend before taking drugs Best Advice DON’T TAKE DRUGS

20. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Ask yourself Why? Do I need to? Being cool, could KILL you Source: Bernard Denner

21. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Unsafe Drug Taking Could lead to: Death Incapacitation for Life Jail HIV and Hepatitis C

22. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Stronger Drugs Risky behaviour such as: unsafe swimming unsafe driving Hospitalisation through injury from risky behaviour Source: Bernard J. Denner

23. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Ask yourself Is it worth it? Get High on Life, not on Drugs

24. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents What is Sex? Male or Female Communication between couples Pleasure between couples Demonstration of Feelings/Affection Provides Intimacy Making Babies or Just for FUN

25. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents So Why do Adolescents have Sex?

26. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents

27. WHY NOT? Reason Boys Girls % of Responses Not ready / interested36%35% “It’s Illegal”28%11% Safer19%39% Parents17%15%

28. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents

33. What is Love? It is based on friendship, affection, mutual respect, admiration, thoughtfulness, sharing and caring Involves good communication and listening

34. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Does not involve any physical, emotional or sexual violence Is not instant or perfect Love at first sight is more likely to be lust at first sight Source: Unzipped: Everything teenagers want to know about Love, Sex and Each other, B. Donaghy

35. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents What is Lust? Is a physical response that involves sexual arousal It is being “turned on” sexually Is a short-term emotion

36. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Can get you into trouble (ie lust can make you do something you wouldn’t normally do, eg not using a condom) LUST...Is not always love You can love and lust at the same time, but they are not the same thing Source: Unzipped: Everything teenagers want to know about Love, Sex and Each other, B. Donaghy

37. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Do YOU have a CHOICE? YES or NO

38. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents The Choice is YOURS 3 A’s Abstinence A ctivity A ll the Way

39. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents What is sexual activity? Masturbation …..? Kissing, Pashing …..? Feeling, touching someone else ….? Mutual masturbation …..? Oral sex …..?

40. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Or All the WAY Anal intercourse …..? Bonking, sexual intercourse …..? Source: Bernard J. Denner

41. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Sexual Activity Needs Permission or Consent Source: Bernard J. Denner

42. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Questions to ask …. If you are thinking of having sex...

43. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Do I feel old enough and responsible enough to be doing this? Am I doing this for me or for him / her? Am I prepared to use a condom?

44. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents If something goes wrong and we become pregnant, am I prepared for that responsibility? Am I just trying to prove something to myself or him / her? How will I feel about him / her afterwards?

45. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents How will I feel about myself? Has Sex - Solved the Problem? Has Sex - made me Feel Better? Source: Unzipped: Everything teenagers want to know about Love, Sex and Each other, B. Donaghy

46. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents What is sex for? There are several main answers to the question “what is sex for?” and many people feel that the ‘true’ answer is a combination of these:

47. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Sex is for the survival of the species (human beings). Sex is for making babies. Sex is part of partnership; it cements the relationship. Sex is showing feelings of love or affection between people.

48. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Sex is for pleasure. Sex is better between committed couples. Good Sex is more than just Bonking.

49. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents The Perils of Sex Without Love and Unprotected Sex

50. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Unwanted Pregnancy Sexual Diseases Interrupted Study Alienation from friends Depression Being used

51. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Always check the Use By Date on condoms to ensure that they are effective. Use a lubricant to ensure condom doesn’t break. The Pill does not always WORK Medication Drunk and Vomit

52. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents As a person YOU need to be Healthy and Happy THAT YOU FEEL GOOD About Yourself Most of the TIME

53. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Why.....? So that you don’t put yourself at risk, or your relationships at risk

54. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Who’s A Winner The person who does their best. That they achieve their Personal Best. THEY are a Winner. Source: Bernard Denner Inspired by Simon Madden

55. Lifeskills Program for Adolescents Adolescence is a GOOD TIME of Life ENJOY IT