1. PARENTING THE PAMPERED GENERATION Living in a Culture of Entitlement Dr. Maggie Mamen Psychologist

2. WARNING! This presentation may involve politically incorrect opinions, relatively coarse language, and common sense. Viewer discretion is advised.

3. “Children these days are tyrants. They contradict their parents, gobble their food, and tyrannize their teachers.” Socrates, 400 BC

4. CREATING THE “ME” GENERATION Backlash against “Victorian” parenting Children’s rights movement Legislation regarding decision-making Legacy of abuse Child-centred, focus on self-esteem

6. NOTE TO SELF: YOU GOTTA DO THIS FOR YOU. THIS IS FOR YOU. THIS ISN’T ABOUT ANYBODY. LIVE FOR YOU. HONOUR YOU. NEVER LOSE SIGHT OF THAT. Recent “Pin” on Pinterest

7. MYTHS THAT CHILDREN SHOULD … always be happy and never be bored be given choices, and be consulted before adults make decisions be told why they have to do something and agree with the reason be treated equally to each other and to adults have their needs met immediately always feel good about themselves

8. Culture of entitlement Confuse rights/privileges, wants/needs Think they’re ‘management’ Addicted to high levels of stimulation Zero tolerance for boredom THE PAMPERED GENERATION …

9. Limited problem-solving skills to deal with real life experience Lack of respect for adults/authority Child-driven, powerless, devalued parents Increasing incidence of mental health problems THE PAMPERED GENERATION …

10. FIVE LESSONS TO COUNTER THE CULTURE OF ENTITLEMENT

11. “SHORT-TERM PAIN FOR LONG- TERM GAIN” To learn to develop patience and a good work ethic not everything we do is “fun,” and we won’t always like what we’re asked to do sometimes we have to do something over and over in order to improve hard work, persistence, grit pay off!

12. “OUT OF BOREDOM COMES CREATIVITY” (Albert Einstein) To learn to develop internal resources to adapt to the real world we need to tolerate “down-time” being “bored” isn’t the ticket to more exciting things to do even virtuosos sometimes have to play with the orchestra

13. “SOMETIMES CHILDREN SHOULD BE SEEN BUT NOT HEARD” To learn respect for others “good listening” impulse control a time and a place

14. “YOU GET WHAT YOU PAY FOR!” To learn that our choices give us some control over our fate … informed choices – if there is a choice! living with chosen consequences building trust and credibility

15. “LIFE IS NOT A DEMOCRACY” To learn that life does not always treat people equally you will not always be consulted about important decisions “weighted” votes who said life is fair?

16. A DOZEN USEFUL PHRASES … That’s nice! Good for you! Really? It’s your choice. It’s up to you. I don’t have to, I choose to. We have a problem here. So this is what’s going to happen. If you want an answer now, it’s “no.” That’s not the issue. When you have …, then you may … Let me know when you’re ready. I know you’re angry/upset/…, so … Because I asked you to! Suck it up!

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