1. GOD’S WILL FOR HIS PEOPLE (PART IV)
LESSON 21
GOD’S WILL FOR HIS PEOPLE
(PART IV)
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2. Opening Prayer Before lesson
Dear Father, all the gifts you give me are free from your loving hand. Forgive me for the times I have misused them and give me the strength to live the way you want me to live. Make me sure of my forgiveness in Jesus then help me to use everything, including my body, to show my love for you. Help me to see everything I am and have as belonging to you. Then, use your Word to guide me in how I can use them all for you. Help us grow closer to you in this study. In Jesus' name, Amen

3. Introduction Materials needed:
A Peach or other soft fruit, and a plastic knife
Before class write the following on 4 note cards:
Roll the fruit around in your hand, pressing slightly as you count to ten
Juggle the fruit from hand to hand six times
Cut a small slice on one side.
Drop the fruit 3 times
Pass out the cards to whomever is present. After the last card is read and the instructions have been followed, take the fruit back.
Then ask: Would you share this fruit with someone you really cared about?
What happened to this beautiful fruit can also happen to something else God created beautiful – our sexuality. God gave you the gift of sexuality to share with your future spouse alone. When we disobey God and pass His beautiful gift of sexuality around, what happens? (Sexually transmitted disease, unexpected pregnancy, abortion, divorce, broken relationships) Worst of all our relationship with God is hurt. Thankfully God has restored our relationship with him by obtaining forgiveness through the life death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. With Jesus there is forgiveness and power to live a new life. Let’s see how we are to follow the sixth commandment out of thankfulness for all that God has done for us.
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4. You shall not commit adultery.
God’s Will for His People (Part IV)
The Sixth Commandment:
The sixth commandment is: You shall not commit adultery.
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The sixth commandment seeks to protect God’s gift of sex and marriage. But this commandment also applies to people who aren’t married yet – whether young or old, male or female. Let’s see where and when marriage began.
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You shall not commit adultery.

5. THE ORIGIN OF SEX AND MARRIAGE
A woman who advertised herself as a “marriage expert” said this once on a radio program: “Marriage developed from a desire of Neanderthal men to have someone take care of the home for them while they went out hunting for food. Those men also made up the rules for marriage. As times change, the rules for marriage must change. There is no reason today why one person must stay marriage to another person for life.” Unfortunately for the program’s listeners, this “expert” was no expert at all. She doesn’t even know how and when marriage came into being, so she certainly doesn’t know what God intended for marriage.
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6. Genesis 1:27-28
27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground."
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In verse 27 we are told that God created humankind in his own image.
Question: According to the end of verse 27, how else did he create them?
Answer: He created them as male and female.
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7. The Origin of Sex and Marriage
God created both
male
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(God even created the natural attraction that men have for women and women for men. There is nothing sinful in that attraction. However, sin has tainted the attraction with lust.)
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and
female

8. Genesis 2:18-25
21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, ' for she was taken out of man." 24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
God brought all the animals to Adam so that he would become aware of his loneliness. When Adam realized his need. God sought to answer it by creating Eve.
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Verse 24 describes something that happens between a man and woman. They leave their parents and become united to one another.
Question: What do we call this event?
Answer: Marriage
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9. The Origin of Sex and Marriage
God created male and female for
Marriage
God created male and female for marriage.
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If the Milton Bradley Company asked you to create a game, you would have the right to make the rules so that the game is played the way that it is supposed to be played. God created marriage, and he set the guidelines so people would be happy in marriage. He says only one man and one woman are to participate in a marriage. Any variation thereof is sinful.
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10. Genesis 2:18
Genesis 2: 18
18 The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
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During the first 5 days of creation God was pleased with what he created and called it “good” (If necessary look back to Genesis chapter 1: 4, 10, 12, 18, 21, 25, and 31). For the first time in during the six days of creation we hear God say that something is “not good.”
Question: According to Genesis 2: 18 what did God say was “not good?”
Answer: It was not good that Adam was alone
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11. Genesis 1:31
Genesis 1 31 God saw all that he had made, and it was very good. And there was evening, and there was morning-the sixth day.
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After creating a companion named Eve, according to Genesis 1: 31 what did God now call his whole creation?
Answer: Very Good
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12. The Origin of Sex and Marriage
Like everything else God created, God called sex and marriage
Very good
Like everything else God created, God called sex and marriage: Very good.
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13. Genesis 2:25
Genesis 2 25 The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
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According to this passage we are reminded that the blessings of human sexuality and marriage were perfect and holy before the fall into sin.
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14. Very good The Origin of Sex and Marriage
Like everything else God created, God called sex and marriage
Very good
Marriage was something holy and pure. Sex and marriage is a precious blessing from God.
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It was something holy and pure.
SEX AND MARRIAGE IS A PRECIOUS BLESSING FROM GOD.

15. GOD’S PURPOSE FOR MARRIAGE
Now, let’s see the threefold purpose which God had for marriage.
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16. God’s Purpose for Marriage
1. “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make a helper suitable for him.”
One purpose for marriage is
loving companionship and helpfulness
As we read earlier, God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make a helper suitable for him.” Therefore, one purpose for marriage is loving companionship and helpfulness.
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Illustration for point number 1:
Fred and Alice had been married for 50 years, and the family was celebrating their golden wedding anniversary. When Fred was asked to say a few words, he got up and said, “I have only one thing to say: my wife Alice has been my best friend for 50 years.” Alice replied, “I have only word to say: ditto.” Fred and Alice really understood what marriage is all about. They had spent 50 wonderful years as loving companions to each other.
Or – you may talk about the loving companionship you enjoy in your own marriage!
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17. God’s Purpose for Marriage
1. “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make a helper suitable for him.”
One purpose for marriage is
loving companionship and helpfulness
2. “They will become one flesh.”
A second purpose for marriage is
We also read earlier that man and woman “will become one flesh.” This was a physical description of the second purpose for marriage: a God-pleasing sexual union.
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Illustration for Point 2:
Sex – the intimate, physical union of a man and a woman – is not a dirty thing. Many TV shows, movies, and popular songs have made it a dirty thing by the way in which they deal with sex and marriage. But sex is one of the blessings God gives a man and woman in marriage. And when a married couple has sex, they are giving pleasure and happiness to each other just as God intended.
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a God-pleasing sexual union

18. God’s Purpose for Marriage
1. “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make a helper suitable for him.”
One purpose for marriage is
loving companionship and helpfulness
2. “They will become one flesh.”
A second purpose for marriage is
In Genesis 1: 28 God commanded Adam and Eve to “Be fruitful and increase in number.”
Therefore, a third purpose for marriage is: to bear children and provide for them.
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Illustration for Point 3:
It’s unfortunate that many people today have a negative attitude toward having children. Some think that having children prevents a wife from obtaining or holding down a good-paying job. Others think that having children prevents both husband and wife from doing what they want to do with their time and money.
People who feel that way are really saying to God, “God, you can keep your gift of children. We don’t want them.” They also show how badly they misunderstand this wonderful blessing God gives through marriage. Certainly, children can be a lot of work, especially when they’re little. But ask any parents whose hearts have been touched by the love of Jesus, and they will tell you that they wouldn’t trade their children for all the money or all the pleasure of the world. That’s how precious their children are to them.
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a God-pleasing sexual union
3. “Be fruitful and increase in number.”
A third purpose for marriage is
to bear children and provide for them

19. PROTECTING GOD’S GIFT OF SEX AND MARRIAGE
Since God’s has blessed the world with sexuality and marriage since the beginning of time, let’s now see how we are to protect it in a world which is full of sin.
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20. Don’t spoil God’s gift of sex and marriage.
Protecting God’s Gift of
Sex and Marriage
You shall not commit adultery =
Don’t spoil God’s gift of sex and marriage.
Another way to explain the sixth commandment is this: Don’t spoil God’s gift of sex and marriage.
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This commandment is spoken to those who are already married and to those who are not married. Both need to be on guard to keep God’s gift of sex and marriage pure.” Let’s now take a look at what Christians will not do before they are married and after they are married.
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This commandment is spoken to those who are already married and to those who are not married. Both need to be on guard to keep God’s gift of sex and marriage pure.

21. Ephesians 5:1-3
1 Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. 3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people.
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Question: According to verse 3, what does Paul say there should not be a hint of?
Answer: Sexual immorality
A type of sexual immorality before a person is married is called fornication.
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22. (sexual relations between unmarried persons)
Christians Will Not …
Before Marriage:
Commit fornication
(sexual relations between unmarried persons)
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Illustration for Point 1:
Some people argue that young couples should have sex to “try each other out” before they marry in order to see whether they are sexually compatible. “After all” they argue, “you wouldn’t buy a new boat or car without trying it out first.” Or they argue that it’s better to get a little experience in sex before you marry so that you can be a better sex partner once you’re married. Joseph, a handsome young man, had the chance to do just that. But when Potiphar’s wife invited him to come to bed with her, he said, “How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?” (Genesis 39:9). And God sets Joseph’s example before us as the one we are to follow.
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23. Ephesians 5:4-8
4 Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. 5 For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person--such a man is an idolater--has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. 6 Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God's wrath comes on those who are disobedient. 7 Therefore do not be partners with them. 8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light.
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Paul continues in Ephesians 5 by reminding us of some other ways we can Use the gift of sex in the wrong way
This would include the following:
(obscenity, pornography)
And
Tell or listen to unclean jokes
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24. Christians Will Not … Commit fornication Before Marriage:
(sexual relations between unmarried persons)
Use the gift of sex in the wrong way
(obscenity, pornography)
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Tell or listen to unclean jokes

25. Matthew 5:
27 "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.‘” 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.
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Question: According to this passage do you have to outwardly commit adultery or can you commit it in your heart as well.
Answer: You can commit it in your heart as well
Therefore, in order to keep this commandment before marriage a Christian will not want to have any unclean thoughts.
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26. Christians Will Not … Commit fornication Before Marriage:
(sexual relations between unmarried persons)
Use the gift of sex in the wrong way
(obscenity, pornography)
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Illustration: Noble saw Jena walking down the street. He noticed that she was very attractive. It didn’t take long before he began to lust after her. And the lust in his mind found its way to his lips. He confided to his best friend, “I’d sure like to get her into bed.” “Standing on the Corner, “ a hit song from many years ago, has a line that goes like this: “Brother, you can’t go to jail for what you’re thinking.” Now it’s true that the police can’t put you in jail for thinking impure thoughts, but as the Matthew and Ephesians passages tell us, impure thoughts and words, as well as deeds, are sinful in God’s sight.
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Tell or listen to unclean jokes
Have unclean thoughts

27. Hebrews 13:4
4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
Let’s now see what a Christian will not want to do after they are married.
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According to Hebrews we see that God wants to reserve sexual relations for a married couple.
Question: According to this passage what does God forbid?
Answer: He forbids the use of sex outside of marriage.
This is called adultery.
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28. Use sex outside of marriage
Christians Will Not …
After Marriage:
Use sex outside of marriage
(adultery)
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29. Matthew 15:19
19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander.
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Question: According to this passage from where do the evil thoughts of adultery and sexual immorality come?
Answer: They come out of the heart.
Therefore, after marriage a Christian will not love unclean thoughts or words.
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30. Use sex outside of marriage Love unclean thoughts or words
Christians Will Not …
After Marriage:
Use sex outside of marriage
(adultery)
Love unclean thoughts or words
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31. Matthew 19:4-6
4 "Haven't you read," [Jesus] replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' 5 and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? 6 So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
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Question: According to this section Jesus points out that marriage is something that God starts. Who does not have the right to end a marriage?
Answer: man
Therefore, a Christian will not seek to end the marriage by a divorce.
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32. Christians Will Not … Use sex outside of marriage After Marriage:
(adultery)
Love unclean thoughts or words
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Remember, that when a Christian seeks a divorce it is just making public what has already happened in private. He or she is publicly announcing that the marriage bond has been broken. Let’s take a look at how a person can break the marriage bond.
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Seek to end the marriage by divorce

33. Matthew 19:9
I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."
God is not pleased with divorce because it is not what he intended for marriage. He wanted it to be a life-long union between a man an woman., however, in a world of sin he permits divorce in two instances. Let’s read two passages which cover this.
[Have your youth read the passage]
Question: According to this passage what is one instance when God would permit a divorce?
Answer: God would permit a divorce when there is marital unfaithfulness.
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34. Christians Will Not … Use sex outside of marriage After Marriage:
(adultery)
Love unclean thoughts or words
Seek to end the marriage by divorce
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In this passage, Jesus spoke of a wife being unfaithful in her marriage, but the same holds true for a man who is unfaithful in his marriage. A woman would have scriptural grounds for a divorce if he breaks the marriage bond in this way.
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(Exceptions to this: If one spouse willfully breaks the marriage by
Adultery (unfaithfulness),

35. 1 Corinthians 7:15
15 But if the unbeliever leaves [the marriage], let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.
The second instance is recorded in the following passage:
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Question: According to this passage when is a believing spouse no longer bound to their marriage partner?
Answer: If the unbeliever leaves.
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36. Christians Will Not … Use sex outside of marriage After Marriage:
(adultery)
Love unclean thoughts or words
Seek to end the marriage by divorce
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Illustration: Some people argue that if you’re unhappy in your marriage, it’s better to get a divorce than to remain married. Some even argue that if you find another person who is more physically attractive (sexy) than your present marriage partner, then it’s perfectly acceptable to get a divorce. Your personal happiness comes above everything else. But that’s the devil talking, not God. The devil knows that divorce often causes even more unhappiness later on for all involved and that it often leads people to forget about God too. Many people in once unhappy marriages seek counseling from their pastor (and in some cases from professional Christian marriage counselors) and manage to work out the problems that were causing unhappiness in their marriages. Many of these couples go on to lead truly blessed lives, having learned to show the same love and forgiveness to each other that their Lord and Savior shows to them. Divorce is not a God-pleasing solution to an unhappy marriage. Working out the problems as Christians who forgive each other as Christ forgave them is still the best solution.
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(Exceptions to this: If one spouse willfully breaks the marriage by
Adultery (unfaithfulness),
or by desertion
Then God permits the other spouse to obtain a divorce).

37. ALSO FORBIDDEN BY GOD ARE
Two other sins against this commandment are recorded for us in Romans 1:24-27.
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38. Romans 1:24-27
24 Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. 25 They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator--who is forever praised. Amen. 26 Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. 27 In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.
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Question: In this section Paul describes sexual impurity. In verses 26 and 27 what are the two specific indecent lifestyles?
Answer: The two lifestyles are homosexuality and lesbianism.
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39. Also Forbidden by God Are
homosexuality
and
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Illustration: Some homosexuals try to justify their behavior by saying, “God made me this way.” God has nothing to do with “making” a person a homosexual. The devil, the unbelieving world, and a person’s own sinful flesh entice him or her into such immoral behavior. Even if it were found that a person had a “weakness” that leads him to commit a certain sin, that would not relieve that person of his moral responsibility and accountability to God. No matter what any “Expert” says, God makes it clear that he has labeled this sin an unnatural, indecent perversion. We also should remember that many of the “experts” quoted in the press are not Christians. Rather, they are often people who want nothing to do with God and his commandments but choose to live by their own self-made moral code. Add to this the fact that many of the earliest proponents of these theories were homosexuals themselves and what they published with tainted research.
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lesbianism

40. Christians Will …
Now that we have looked at what a Christian will not do in order to keep this commandment, let’s now see what a Christian will do in order to keep this commandment.

41. Philippians 4:8
8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things.
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Question: According to this passage, what should a Christian think about?
Answer: A Christian should seek to think about whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely and admirable.
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42. Christians Will … 1. Seek to remain pure in thought, word and deed
Correct. Therefore a Christian will seek to remain pure in thought, word and deed.
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43. Genesis 24:1-4
Isaac and Rebekah 1 Abraham was now old and well advanced in years, and the LORD had blessed him in every way. 2 He said to the chief servant in his household, the one in charge of all that he had, "Put your hand under my thigh. 3 I want you to swear by the LORD , the God of heaven and the God of earth, that you will not get a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I am living, 4 but will go to my country and my own relatives and get a wife for my son Isaac."
In this section from Genesis, Abraham wanted to find a wife for his son Isaac, but he knew that the daughters of the Canaanites were unbelievers, while daughters from his extended family back in his home country were believers.
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Question: According to verse 4, did he want his servant to select a believing or an unbelieving wife?
Answer: He wanted him to select a believing wife.
Therefore, this account encourages us to seek to marry a fellow believer.
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44. Christians Will … 1. Seek to remain pure in thought, word and deed
2. Seek to marry a fellow believer
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45. Romans 7:2-3
2For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. 3So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man.
In this section from Romans, Paul illustrates how the law has authority over a person as long as he is alive. He then uses a married couple as an example.
[Have your youth read the passage]
According to verse 2, for how long is a Christian to remain faithful to their marriage partner?
Answer: A Christian will remain faithful in marriage until death.
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46. Christians Will … 1. Seek to remain pure in thought, word and deed
2. Seek to marry a fellow believer
3. Be faithful in marriage until death
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47. Ephesians 5:21ff 21Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
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In this passage the Apostle Paul tells us that we are to submit or serve each other. This is especially true in marital relationships as Paul goes on to say in the next verses of Ephesians chapter 6.
Question: To whom does Paul point as the motivation for submitting to one another?
Answer: Christ
Therefore, A Christian will want to try to build a Christ-centered home.
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48. Christians Will … 1. Seek to remain pure in thought, word and deed
2. Seek to marry a fellow believer
3. Be faithful in marriage until death
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4. Try to build a Christ-centered home

49. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
19Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
[Have your youth read the passage]
Question: According to verse 19, to what does the Apostle Paul compare our bodies?
Answer: God’s Temple
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50. Christians Will … 1. Seek to remain pure in thought, word and deed
2. Seek to marry a fellow believer
3. Be faithful in marriage until death
A Christian will Remember that their body is God’s temple
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4. Try to build a Christ-centered home
5. Remember that their body is God’s temple

51. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
19Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
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Question: According to verse 20, what are we to do with our body?
Answer: We are to honor God with our body.
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52. Christians Will … 1. Seek to remain pure in thought, word and deed
2. Seek to marry a fellow believer
3. Be faithful in marriage until death
A Christian will Remember that their body is God’s temple and therefore glorify God with their body.
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Illustration: God reminds us in 1 Corinthians 6:19 that a believer’s body is a temple in which the Holy Spirit lives. You would never think of bringing an X-rated movie to show in church. Think of your body in the same way. Think of your body as a beautiful building dedicated to God and filled with the glory of the Holy Spirit. Think of your body as belonging to Jesus, who bought it with his lifeblood as the price. Then out of love for Jesus and the Holy Spirit, you will certainly not want to ruin this beautiful place by dumping the sewage of sexual impurity there.
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4. Try to build a Christ-centered home
Remember that their body is God’s temple
and therefore glorify God with their body.

53. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
18Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.
[Have your youth read the passage]
Question: According to verse 18, how does the Apostle Paul tell us to react to sexual immorality?
Answer: We are to flee from it.
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54. Christians Will … 6. Flee temptation
Lastly, a Christian will flee temptation.
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Illustration: In order to discolor a whole jug of water, all you need is one drop of red food coloring. In order to make a person’s whole being impure, only part of the person needs to be soiled. Keep your eyes, ears, and bodies pure. Don’t look at sexually explicit materials. Don’ listen to coarse jokes and music. Don’ defile your body sexually in any way.
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55. His Word in My Life
Concerning sex and sexuality, do the standards of "the world" often match God's requirements noted above? How are they alike or different:
1. In the movies and on television or the internet?
2. In school?
3. How are these ideas deceitful?
4. What is God's idea of "safe sex"?

56. His Word in My Life
Evaluate: Melissa said, "I'll dress the way that I want to. If guys gawk and lust after me, it's their own fault."
In one sense Melissa is right. It is the responsibility of guys to keep their hearts and minds pure. But if Melissa not only dresses scantily but also walks around in a way to get guys to look at her and want her, then she is guilty of tempting them to sin. Then she is also sinning by causing temptation.

57. His Word in My Life
Evaluate these statements: A person can appreciate a piece of art as beautiful, but if he covets the art piece then it is wrong. In the same way a person can appreciate a person as beautiful, but if he lusts after that person then it is wrong.
The sins of covetousness and lust are very similar. The essential feeling behind both of these sins is wanting something that God has not given a person. A painting may be owned by someone else and a person may be married to someone else or may not be married yet. As soon as a person desires something that God has not given them, they are in danger.

58. His Word in My Life
Agree or disagree and why? God doesn't want us to talk about or think about sex.
Disagree. It’s not wrong for us to talk about or think about sex. It’s how we do it that makes it right or wrong. If we talk or think about sex in a gross, dirty or lustful way, then it is wrong. It’s important to remember that sex is a gift of God, not something the devil gave us. But the devil will always try to ruin God’s gift by having us talk about or think about this gift in a way that is sinful.

59. His Word in My Life
Agree or Disagree: If two people love each other, they should get married.
If their “love” involves only physical attraction and a desire to have sex with each other, then their marriage may well be doomed from the start. But, if their love includes a commitment to a lifelong union of loving companionship, and if both recognize that children are a gift of God, they are much better candidates for a happy marriage.

60. His Word in My Life
Evaluate this statement: The only way a Christian can be sure of a happy marriage is to marry a person who shares the same faith.
This alone won’t guarantee a happy marriage because even a marriage partner of the same faith can despise one or more of the gifts with which God blesses marriage. Or even a partner of the same faith can sin against the marriage by being unfaithful. But a marriage partner who knows and believes and lives by all the guidelines God has set up for marriage will be a much better marriage partner than one who doesn’t know or believe or live by these truths.

61. His Word in My Life Agree or Disagree: Flirting is harmless.
It depends. It can be harmless if it is just people having a good time together in a pure way. But if it includes impure words or thoughts, then it is sinful.

62. His Word in My Life
Jean says, “Wow, I have broken this commandment so many times in my thoughts, words and my actions. I am worried about what will happen to me if I die. God has every right to be angry with me.” What do you tell her?
Remind Jean that the guilt she feels because of her sin has plagued many people over time. But also remind her that Jesus came to take that guilt and sin on himself. He died to pay the penalty for sins against the sixth commandment too. He also obeyed the commandment perfectly, so a believer has the perfect robe of Jesus’ righteousness to wear before God. Encourage her to go and sin no more out of thanks for this.

63. Promise Ring
Jessica Simpson, A popular celebrity and daughter of a pastor, has recently popularized these. Perhaps this might be a neat way for you to show your youth that you really want them to keep this commandment out of love for God.
Many teen Christian girls and boys wear promise rings denoting their commitment to purity until marriage. Among the phrases on the rings are," Worth the wait," or "True love waits." What do you think about that idea?

64. His Word in My Life
Evaluate: Jeannie said, "The best gift I can give my husband on my wedding night is my virginity."
That, indeed, is a good, God-pleasing gift she can offer to her husband. In fact, it is god’s will that she do so. Hopefully she will also bring other gifts to her marriage – loving companionship for her husband, a firm desire to do everything in her power to make their marriage a happy one, and so on.

65. The Gift Your Body – Yourself A Wedding Gift
A visual reminder for you to give your youth:
This gift is not to be opened. This gift represents two things: 1.) Your body and 2.) a wedding gift. 1 Corinthians 6: reminds us that the body is a temple and that we are to honor God with our body. Your body is a very special present that you only give someone for the first time - once. If your body is so special (And God’s Word says it is), then you will want to save that gift for a very special person who truly loves you as Christ loves you – unconditionally. If someone is demanding it from you or tries to take it from you, this would be a good indication that they do not love you unconditionally. They are acting like they don’t care about your wishes and feelings.
This gift also represents a wedding gift. It is a custom for bride and groom to give each other a gift. It is not really necessary but it is special. Why not give yourself? An expression of love and commitment saved for your spouse and no one else. In essence you are saying, “You are so worth while waiting for!!!” Nothing else can demonstrate deep love and devotion than saving your most special gift for that one person.
Put this gift somewhere in your room as a constant reminder of the two-fold gift.

66. His Word in My Life What are the benefits / risks of dating?
Take this time to talk to your youth about your expectations in their dating future.

67. Closing Prayer After lesson
Father, to put these things into practice takes real trust. Increase my trust in all your promises so that, beginning today and for the rest of my life, I can live more and more for you. Thank you for helping me see you more clearly today. In Jesus' name, Amen.

68. ASSIGNMENT FOR NEXT WEEK
Study carefully the notes you have taken in class; be sure you understand them.
Study carefully questions #87-98 in the Catechism.
Complete the “Working with God’s Word” section.
Memorize the 7th and 8th Commandments and “What Does This Mean?”(Please note I will be reviewing “What Does this Mean?”,
Memorize the following Bible passage:
VIP - 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 – “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.”
6. Complete Working with God’s Word and Worksheet #21 and be ready for our final review on Wednesday, April 23.
The Review will be on Wednesday, April 23. please note that I will also be reviewing Luther’s explanation of the 7th and 8th commandments.

69. Key Truths Lesson Twenty-One
God's purposes for marriage are: loving ________________, God-pleasing ________________, and bearing and caring for ________________. In choosing a husband or wife, a believer will consider the importance of sharing ________________ in Jesus and work to build a ________________ - centered home. Misusing God's good gift of sex spoils it. That's called ________________. Since Jesus died to forgive our sexual sins too, we ask him to help us ________________ him by how we treat and use our bodies and minds.

70. Key Truths Lesson twenty-one
God's purposes for marriage are: loving COMPANIONSHIP, God-pleasing SEXUAL UNION, and bearing and caring for CHILDREN. In choosing a husband or wife, a believer will consider the importance of sharing FAITH in Jesus and work to build a CHRIST - centered home. Misusing God's good gift of sex spoils it. That's called ADULTERY. Since Jesus died to forgive our sexual sins too, we ask him to help us HONOR him by how we treat and use our bodies and minds.