1. What We Believe: Forgiveness and Reconciliation Jaimée Allman & Geoffrey Sutton Evangel University Allman & Sutton, 2008-20091

2. Overview Our purpose was to explore how participants conceptualize forgiveness, reconciliation, guilt, and trust, as well as the relationship between the aforementioned variables to willingness to forgive, and to spirituality. Allman & Sutton, 2008-20092

3. Scripture The text of Matthew 6 suggests an expectation of reconciliation. Matthew 6 and Matthew 18 suggest negative consequences for failing to forgive. Allman & Sutton, 2008-20093

4. What is Forgiveness? Despite exponential growth in published research on the psychology of forgiveness, researchers have not reached a consensus on a definition of forgiveness (Worthington, 2006). Allman & Sutton, 2008-20094

5. Something in Common Some psychological researchers have noted commonalities such as noting that forgiving an offender is distinct from condoning, denying, excusing, forgetting, or pardoning an offender (Enright & Coyle, 1998; McCullough, Bono, & Root, 2005). Allman & Sutton, 2008-20095

6. Forgiveness & Reconciliation Most psychological researchers also assert that forgiveness is distinct from reconciliation (e.g., Enright, Gassin, & Wu, 1992; Sutton & Thomas, 2005b; Worthington & Drinkard, 2000). Forgiveness is intrapersonal Reconciliation is interpersonal Allman & Sutton, 2008-20096

7. A Difference In contrast to these conceptualizations, Aquino, Tripp, and Bies (2001) viewed reconciliation as a behavioral manifestation of forgiveness. Allman & Sutton, 2008-20097

8. Research by Kanz, 2000 Most undergraduate respondents did not distinguish between the concepts of forgiveness and reconciliation. This forgiveness-reconciliation issue is a key focus of our study along with looking at the parameters of forgiveness in “everyday use.” Allman & Sutton, 2008-20098

9. Our Purpose 1. We hypothesized that we would find support for Kanz’ findings that forgiveness and reconciliation are overlapping concepts for most people. 2. We hypothesized that most participants would recognize the difference between forgiveness and select related concepts like trust and apology. Allman & Sutton, 2008-20099

10. Our Purpose 3. We hypothesized that most participants would recognize the difference between forgiveness and the restoration of errant leaders Here we report some initial findings… Allman & Sutton, 2008-200910

11. General Procedure Presented packets to students – Consent signed – Forgiveness concept items – Two measures – Demographic questions – Explained survey at the end Allman & Sutton, 2008-200911

12. Study Materials Forgiveness survey 14 items: Likert type (Adapted from Kanz, 2000) Willingness to Forgive 12 item Likert type scale (DeShea, 2003) Santa Clara Strength of Religious Faith 5 item Likert type scale (Plante et al., 2002) Allman & Sutton, 2008-200912

13. Participants Christian College Women = 113 Men = 52 Age (M = 19.42, SD = 2.11) Non-Christian College Women = 32 Men = 10 Age (M = 20.69, SD = 6.38) Allman & Sutton, 2008-200913

14. Participants Christian College Ethnicity Percent European 83.1 African 3.6 Hispanic 4.2 Native American 1.2 Non-Christian College Ethnicity Percent European 79.5 African 4.5 Hispanic 2.3 Asian/Pacific 2.3 Other 6.8 Not reporting 4.5 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200914

15. Participants Christian College Willingness to Forgive M = 41.87, SD = 11.48 Coeff alpha =.91 Spirituality (Santa Clara) M = 17.51, SD =2.48 Coeff alpha =.83 Non-Christian College Willingness to Forgive M = 41.28, SD = 13.98 Coeff alpha =.93 Spirituality (Santa Clara) M = 14.44, SD = 4.12 Coeff alpha =.91 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200915

16. Survey Results Strongly Agree +Agree =Agree percentage Strongly Disagree + Disagree = Disagree percentage. We did not include the neutral percentage, which can be deduced by subtraction. We invite you to interact with us by considering each question. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200916

17. 1: Christians are more forgiving 1: In general, Christians are more forgiving than non-Christians. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200917

18. 1: In general, Christians are more forgiving than non-Christians. Non-Christian College Agree 38.6 ; Disagree 36.4 Christian College Agree 33.1; Disagree 36.1 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200918

19. 2: An apology is necessary 2: An apology is necessary before I would forgive someone for other than a minor offense. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200919

20. 2: An apology is necessary before I would forgive someone for other than a minor offense. Non-Christian College Agree 70.9 ; Disagree 31.8 Christian College Agree 15.8; Disagree 66.1 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200920

21. 3. Forgiveness is Christian 3: Forgiveness is primarily a Christian idea. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200921

22. 3: Forgiveness is primarily a Christian idea. Non-Christian College Agree 11.3 ; Disagree 70.4 Christian College Agree 16.3; Disagree 66.9 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200922

23. 4. guilt 4: I feel guilty if I do not forgive someone. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200923

24. 4: I feel guilty if I do not forgive someone. Non-Christian College Agree 54.6 ; Disagree 15.9 Christian College Agree 73.5; Disagree 6.0 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200924

25. 5. friend versus stranger 5: It is easier to forgive a friend or family member than a stranger for the same offense. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200925

26. 5: It is easier to forgive a friend or family member than a stranger for the same offense. Non-Christian College Agree 63.6 ; Disagree 31.8 Christian College Agree 40; Disagree 45.5 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200926

27. 6. Forgive and forget? 6: I think true forgiveness means you try to forget what the person did to you. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200927

28. 6: I think true forgiveness means you try to forget what the person did to you. Non-Christian College Agree 52.3 ; Disagree 34.1 Christian College Agree 43.9; Disagree 41.4 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200928

29. 7. reconciliation 7: I think true forgiveness means you also reconcile with the person who offended you. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200929

30. 7: I think true forgiveness means you also reconcile with the person who offended you. Non-Christian College Agree 81.9 ; Disagree 6.8 Christian College Agree 70.9; Disagree 17.5 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200930

31. 8. admit and change 8: People need to admit what they have done and change before you forgive them. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200931

32. 8: People need to admit what they have done and change before you forgive them. Non-Christian College Agree 36.4 ; Disagree 43.1 Christian College Agree 31.3; Disagree 53.7 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200932

33. 9. restoration 9: If someone lost their job or position of leadership because of wrongdoing, then forgiveness means they must be restored to their former position. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200933

34. 9: If someone lost their job or position of leadership because of wrongdoing, then forgiveness means they must be restored to their former position. Non-Christian College Agree 9.1 ; Disagree 77.3 Christian College Agree 2.4; Disagree 89.2 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200934

35. 10. forgive to be forgiven 10: People must forgive others in order to obtain God’s forgiveness. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200935

36. 10: People must forgive others in order to obtain God’s forgiveness. Non-Christian College Agree 65.2 ; Disagree 18.6 Christian College Agree 65.6; Disagree 18.1 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200936

37. 11. trust 11: If you forgive someone it means you start trusting them again. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200937

38. 11: If you forgive someone it means you start trusting them again. Non-Christian College Agree 13.6 ; Disagree 61.3 Christian College Agree 9.6; Disagree 69.3 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200938

39. 12. too forgiving? 12: If you are too free with forgiveness, you will encourage people to keep hurting others. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200939

40. 12: If you are too free with forgiveness, you will encourage people to keep hurting others. Non-Christian College Agree 36.4 ; Disagree 40.9 Christian College Agree 22.3; Disagree 55.4 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200940

41. 13. anger 13: When you truly forgive people, you are no longer angry with them for what they did. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200941

42. 13. When you truly forgive people, you are no longer angry with them for what they did. Non-Christian College Agree 59.1 ; Disagree 25 Christian College Agree 65.1; Disagree 18.1 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200942

43. 14. avoidance 14: If you truly forgive people, you stop avoiding them when you see them. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200943

44. 14: If you truly forgive people, you stop avoiding them when you see them. Non-Christian College Agree 61.4 ; Disagree 18.1 Christian College Agree 53; Disagree 17.5 Allman & Sutton, 2008-200944

45. Discussion Apology as necessary Clearly divided: 71% non-Christian vs. 16% Christian. Guilty feelings A Christian college thing 73% vs. 55%. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200945

46. Discussion Repentance (admit and change) Most believe this is not needed to forgive. But about one in three expect you to change. Restoration Have they had enough? No need to restore a fallen leader to the same position. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200946

47. Discussion God’s forgiveness as contingent Most believe you must forgive to get God’s forgiveness. Trust Most believe you do not have to trust just because you forgive. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200947

48. Discussion How many times should you forgive? Some disagreement on being too forgiving but a substantial minority believe it is possible to be too forgiving. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200948

49. Discussion Anger & Avoidance Two concepts that forgiveness researchers believe you need to reduce as evidence of forgiveness. Most of our participants agree. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200949

50. Discussion Forgiveness and Reconciliation- our key focus Our results reflected beliefs similar to those identified by Kanz (2000). A majority of participants in both studies agreed that reconciliation is a necessary part of forgiveness. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200950

51. Discussion Much of the research concerning forgiveness has maintained that there is a distinct difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. Our research, along with Kanz (2000), indicates otherwise; participants see the two processes as intertwined. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200951

52. Discussion These forgiveness and reconciliation findings are important for both researchers and practitioners because they dramatically affect how we examine the issue both in study and in therapy. If psychotherapists follow the teaching of the leading researchers, they will be out of touch with the belief system of some clients. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200952

53. Discussion The integration of Christianity and Psychology is an issue here. Psychological approaches emphasize the intrapersonal aspect of forgiveness. Christian teaching focuses on forgiving in the context of reconciliation in a faith community. Christian participants appear to accept the latter as normative. Allman & Sutton, 2008-200953

54. Questions & Comments What We Believe: Forgiveness and Reconciliation Jaimée Allman & Geoffrey Sutton Evangel University Email for copies suttong@evangel.edusuttong@evangel.edu More on forgiveness on website http://www.evangel.edu/Directory/Bios/Index.asp?username=SuttonG Allman & Sutton, 2008-200954