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 is a normal reaction to a death or loss in a person's life  can be hard, stressful and tiring, but it is not an illness  helps us to let go of the.

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1  is a normal reaction to a death or loss in a person's life  can be hard, stressful and tiring, but it is not an illness  helps us to let go of the past and adjust to a new life without the person who died

2 All people grieve differently. Most people will feel shock and numb in the beginning. Strange and painful thoughts and feelings may follow:

3  thoughts of confusion, disbelief, and wondering if this is just a dream  feelings of sadness, anger, guilt, loneliness, bitterness, fear, edginess, nervousness, short tempered, and lack of confidence

4  cry a lot  blame others  have upset stomachs and headaches  have problems sleeping, resting, eating or doing small tasks  have no energy  feel they have the same problems as the person who has died

5  grief goes on much longer than they imagined  there are no quick fixes or ways to grieve  each person has to work through his or her grief and in his or her own way. It is not easy for others to help.  grief never really goes away, but lessens over time  grief helps the person to deal with the death. If they don't it may come up later as a mental or physical illness.


7  find the right type of support for you  read books about grief  talk with a counselor  watch videos about grief  join a grief support group  go to a grief information session or workshop  do things that have helped them in the past to work through a tough situation.

8  grieve in their own way and in their own time.  hear the advice of others, but choose what they need or what feels right for them.  take care of themselves.  rest, relax and exercise.  have time alone.  spend time with someone they trust.  understand what has happened and make sense of the changes that are happening in their lives.  be with someone who:  has patience  is willing to listen  respects feelings  is not upset by tears  will keep the persons story private.  Make as few changes as possible until they feel they are ready, usually about a year.

9  grief comes and goes in waves for a long time  the intense feelings may begin to ease a little after the first year  coping gets easier over time and confidence begins to return  they slowly begin to develop new interests and find that life starts to have some meaning again  it may take a long time to go back to some places or do the things they used to do before the person died  although they can manage to have a new and full life, it may take years before they feel they can be fully themselves without the person who died  even when they thought they were over their grief, feelings may be triggered by memories of such things as places, songs, movies, poems, even smells.  they never forget the person  they never stop loving the person.  they carry the memory of the person with them throughout their lives.

10  learn what is normal about grief from books, people who understand, or by going to a workshop or support group  be creative, by making something or trying a new hobby  reduce some of the stress in life by occasionally saying "no"  be alone for a while  do things at a slower pace and take one day at a time  work through thoughts and feelings and admit what you do and don't miss about the person who died  sing, listen to music, pray, write letters, keep a journal  do a sport, exercise, dig dirt or chop wood  remember the good times  make a lasting memory in a photo album or scrapbook  be with people they enjoy  take hot baths, long walks, naps and vacations  ask for hugs  have fun once in a while and know that it is ok to laugh  Face guilty feelings by looking at what they did do, rather than what they did not do, for the person who died.


12  listen as they repeat their story over and over and the story of the life of the person who died (the good and not so good)  accept what they are saying without denying it or making their grief seem less that what they say it is  talk with them about what has happened. Do not lessen the importance of their grief with comments such as "it was God's will" or "it was for the best"  try to understand their fear and what the loss means to them  find out what is helpful to them, what they need and if they need you to help them get it  give help like cooking a meal or babysitting.

13 When is grief most difficult?

14  only be as involved in the celebrations as much as they want to be  choose ahead of time how to spend the day and let others know their plans well before the event  only keep up the traditions that mean something to them and let others go  create new ways to remember the person who died  Relive past celebrations by looking at photographs or home movies  celebrate the life of the person who died as well as grieving their loss.

15  Children under three can't grasp that death is forever.  Children under ten may fear getting sick and dying.  Children over ten may understand but have difficulty facing or talking about death. Sometimes they may withdraw.  Being part of what is happening.  Being told the truth in words they understand and given lots of support.  Having someone listen to what they are really saying and accepting their feelings.  Being told that illness does not always lead to death.  Knowing they are loved, that their thoughts and feelings are good and normal and it is OK to cry.  Knowing that others understand and it is good to show their feelings through play by talking, drawing, painting, poetry, puppets, and music.  An adult who shows and talks about their feelings with their children helps the child to understand death and how to deal with their feelings.

16  Make photo collages of the person who died. Bring them out anytime or on special days and share wonderful stories together.  Plant a tree or create a memorial garden in your yard.  On special days such as birthdays, day of the death, holidays or other important days, light a special candle and keep it lit all day.  Sponsor an award or scholarship at the loved one's school, church or club.  Create a special decoration for the Christmas tree or other special events for your family and give it a place of honour.  Use the rituals of your faith community that acknowledge your grief journey.  Have a totally fun day on the birthday of the person who died. The whole family can take time off work and school and just spend the whole day and evening together doing all the fun things they can think of in memory of your loved one.  Volunteer your time, experience and knowledge with other families at your local hospice organization, community agency or hospital.

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