THEY MAY NOT BE PERFECT, BUT… they stand up for what’s right. they try to help others, especially those who cannot help themselves. they are respected because they show respect. we think of them as heroes – we look up to them and want to be like them. We all have a hero AND a villain inside of us. Which will win?
PROBLEM: Someone in your class is bothering you. They look at you, whisper about you, and say mean things. You are starting to get really angry. Your Choice: Yell at them until they stop. Ask them nicely, but seriously, to stop.
GOOD CHOICE! If the student still won’t stop, there are a few things you can do: Let an adult know what is happening Ignore the behavior until it stops. If it’s not entertaining the other person or if they are not getting attention, they will stop. Surround yourself with friends so you don’t need to be near that student. Ask the student why they are doing those things. Ask to switch seats.
OOPS! You chose to yell at the student. Now, they got exactly what they wanted: your attention. It also got the teacher’s attention and you got in trouble. Now what? Let it go. It’s not worth getting in more trouble. Get back at the student at recess.
OOPS! You chose to get back at the student at recess. Now, things have become more serious. Both of you are getting more angry and now you’ve been sent to the office. Now what? Accept my consequence and try to make better choices. Who cares? I am not going to let them get away with this.
OOPS! You chose to ignore your consequence and continue making bad choices. You start yelling at the student in class and push the student around at recess. You want them to know you’re serious. You’ve been to the principal a lot lately and now are suspended for 2 days due to your behavior. Now what? Ask for help. This is getting too hard to control. Who cares? I am so angry! I’d rather be home.
OOPS! You are running out of choices. Students see you as the “bad kid.” Adults are frustrated with your behavior. You are missing class because you’re in the office, so your grades are getting worse. You are not allowed to go to lunch and recess with the other students. You feel angry more often and have a hard time relaxing. You are losing privileges. Your family is meeting with the adults at school. Worst case: You have to move to a different school.
THINK ABOUT YOUR OWN HERO AND VILLAIN When you are at your best, how do you act? When you are at your worst, how do you act?