Lesson 5: Consequences6 Problem 1: Your child is watching TV when she should be doing homework. ICPS Words Is this a GOOD TIME or NOT A GOOD TIME to watch TV? WHY is this a (repeat child’s answer)? Add Feelings How MIGHT I feel when you keep putting off your homework? Do you and I feel the SAME way for DIFFERENT ways about this? Add Solutions If you do NOT want to do you homework NOW, can you think of another GOOD TIME so you will get it done BEFORE you go to bed? Add Consequences OK. You made this decision. If you do NOT get your homework done by bedtime, what MIGHT happen next? How MIGHT you feel if that happens?
Lesson 5: Consequences7 Problem2: Your child is playing too near a fragile flower pot. Is near the flower pot a GOOD PLACE or NOT A GOOD PLACE for you to play? (word pair) What MIGHT happen if you play there? (consequence) How MIGHT I feel if that happens? (parent’s feelings) How MIGHT you feel if that happens? (child’s feelings) Do you think we’ll feel the SAME way or DIFFERENT ways? Can you think of a DIFFERENT place to play so that will NOT happen? (solution)
Lesson 5: Consequences11 Key Components of ICPS Vocabulary Words Feelings—most important question in dialoguing: “How do you feel when…?” Alternatives—coming up with solutions: “Can you think of something different to do when…?” Consequences—develops empathy through awareness of other’s feelings: “What might happen if…?”, “Is _____ a good idea or not a good idea?”
Lesson 5: Consequences12 Vocabulary Word Review Is/Is NotAnd/Or Same/Different Might/Maybe Some/AllBefore/After Now/LaterWhy/Because Same time/Not the same time Good time/Not a good time Good place/Not a good place Good idea/Not a good idea
Lesson 5: Consequences13 Homework Handouts (pages 79-87) Book of the Week: When Sophie Gets Angry- Really, Really Angry by Molly Bang
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