Presentation on theme: "CONSENT Do you have it? How do you know? What is the standard for knowing? Is it good? Could it be better?"— Presentation transcript:
CONSENT Do you have it? How do you know? What is the standard for knowing? Is it good? Could it be better?
Drawing the line “Where is the line between coercive and consensual sex in a culture in which violence and domination are eroticized?” (text, p. 460). – IS IT: How your partner is acting? What your partner is saying? What YOU think your partner wants? What your partner wants? What your partner has agreed to? – How do you know?
DRAWING THE LINE NO MEANS NO? – What does it mean when someone says “NO”? (Reading notes, pp. 477-48) Surveys suggest that neither college men nor women “have complete confidence that a woman’s no means no in a sexual situation.” Token resistance: when no might mean yes….? John Leo: “The mating game does not proceed by words alone.” – “no can mean ‘maybe’, ‘convince me’, ‘back off awhile’ or ‘get lost.’” – So, he concludes, no means no is a bad standard. Really?
Drawing the Line Katy Perry, addressing the eroticization of dominance with her usual tact and subtlety with her friend Kanye, who always respects the ladies. Katy Perry, addressing the eroticization of dominance with her usual tact and subtlety with her friend Kanye, who always respects the ladies. In a world where this and Twilight are popular, especially with young people, is there any surprise that we have problems with yes and no?
Drawing the line Alcohol – Sex and drinking and consent, oh my! Voluntary intoxication: a defense? A credibility wrecker? Both? Neither? Camille Paglia quote, p. 473. IS THIS RIGHT? Do people think that? Must married people consent? – Can it be inferred? If you consented to one thing, do you consent to something else? If you consented in the past, does it transfer to this time? – Rape shield laws: discussing consent at trial.
Walking THE LINE ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT – Consent is not an on-off switch – Everyone is responsible for knowing that they have consent. – This means COMMUNICATION!!! If it is not clear, ASK. – Is this feasible? Benefits? Complications? How does it affect coercion and consent (acquaintance rape)? – Would this be a good alteration of public consciousness?
Whose line is it, Anyway? Are women the “gatekeeprs of ‘no’?” – MYTH: Enthusiastic consent infantilizes women. ONLY IF WOMEN ARE THE ONLY PEOPLE RESPONSIBLE FOR GIVING CONSENT (which is a lot of responsibility for an infant, yes?) – Are they the only ones who must give it? – Must they also get it? What assumptions must be made for women to be the “gatekeepers of ‘no’?’ – Women don’t rape – All sex is heterosexual, so there is always a man to ask a woman and a woman to be asked. – ?? – http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2011/01/03/the-nonexistent-terrible- horrible-no-good-very-bad-consequences-of-enthusiastic-consent/ http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2011/01/03/the-nonexistent-terrible- horrible-no-good-very-bad-consequences-of-enthusiastic-consent/