1. #7 – Why Christians Divorce
In Love for Life
Building or Rebuilding a Great Marriage
Mike Mazzalongo
#7 – Why Christians Divorce

2. Understand what divorce is.
Avoiding Divorce…
Understand what divorce is.

3. Gen. 2:24-25
24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

4. Matt. 19:9
9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

5. Divorce = Put Away / Loose / Untie

6. Divorce begins in the heart…
…ends in court.

7. Glued to - Another Person - Work, Hobbies - Self (Independence)
Divorce Problem:
Glued to - Another Person
- Work, Hobbies
- Self (Independence)

8. Divorce Problem:
Unglued by - Sin
- Family
- Ambition

9. Avoiding Divorce…
Understand what divorce is.
Know what God thinks.

10. Mal. 2:16
16 For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with wrong,” says the LORD of hosts. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.”

11. Matt. 19:6
6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

12. Heb. 13:4
4 Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

13. Matt. 19:9
9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

14. I Cor. 7:15
15 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.

15. Know how to keep the bond strong.
Avoiding Divorce…
Understand what divorce is.
Know what God thinks.
Know how to keep the bond strong.

16. Strengthening the bond requires:
Complete Honesty

17. Strengthening the bond requires:
Complete Honesty
Complete Fidelity

18. Strengthening the bond requires:
Complete Honesty
Complete Fidelity
Complete Submission

19. Prov. 31:30
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.

20. Prov. 12:4
4 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones.

21. Josh. 24:15
15 If it is disagreeable in your sight to serve the LORD, choose for yourselves today whom you will serve: whether the gods which your fathers served which were beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you are living; but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”

22. Eph. 5:25
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her,

23. Strengthening the bond requires:
Complete Honesty
Complete Fidelity
Complete Submission
Develop Spiritual Intimacy

24. Intimacy Roadblocks:
Hectic schedules

25. Intimacy Roadblocks:
Hectic schedules
Poor communication

26. Unresolved issues Intimacy Roadblocks: Hectic schedules
Poor communication
Unresolved issues

27. Spiritual inferiority
Intimacy Roadblocks:
Hectic schedules
Poor communication
Unresolved issues
Spiritual inferiority

28. Lack of spiritual experience
Intimacy Roadblocks:
Hectic schedules
Poor communication
Unresolved issues
Spiritual inferiority
Lack of spiritual experience

29. Unconditional commitment
Intimacy Builders:
Unconditional commitment

30. Intimacy Builders:
Unconditional commitment
Caring atmosphere

31. Honest communication Intimacy Builders: Unconditional commitment
Caring atmosphere
Honest communication

32. Modelling Intimacy Builders: Unconditional commitment
Caring atmosphere
Honest communication
Modelling

33. Understanding Intimacy Builders: Unconditional commitment
Caring atmosphere
Honest communication
Modelling
Understanding

34. Intimacy Builders:
Active Listening

35. Intimacy Builders:
Active Listening
Time Together

36. Intimacy Builders:
Active Listening
Time Together
Check-in Time

37. Bonding Times Intimacy Builders: Active Listening Time Together
Check-in Time
Bonding Times

38. We tie the knot at the wedding
We tighten the knot by developing spiritual intimacy.

39. Divorce – Proofing Your Marriage
Watch for danger signs.

40. Divorce – Proofing Your Marriage
Watch for danger signs.
Understand that it is wrong.

41. Divorce – Proofing Your Marriage
Watch for danger signs.
Understand that it is wrong.
Work at keeping the bond strong.

42. While we are married, it’s never too late to avoid Divorce!