1. Paul Ellison Psy. D., M. Ed. Hana Ra Adams Psy. D., MA LMFT Deconstructing Bullying Behaviors: A Narrative Perspective

2. Create new perspectives to decrease the influence of bullying behavior through a Narrative lens which emphasizes the values of collaboration and respect. Objective

3. A narrative is a thread that weaves together events linked in a sequence across time and according to a plot to form a story; multistoried.A narrative is a thread that weaves together events linked in a sequence across time and according to a plot to form a story; multistoried. Narrative therapy involves ‘re-authoring’ or ‘re- storying’ conversations (Dulwich Centre Publications, 2000).Narrative therapy involves ‘re-authoring’ or ‘re- storying’ conversations (Dulwich Centre Publications, 2000). What is Narrative Therapy?

4. Deconstruction Understanding stories within cultural contexts. The context of gender, class, race, culture and sexuality are powerful contributors to the plot of stories. Meaning-making Narrative Principles

5. De-centered but Influential Narrative practitioners are responsible collaborators and co-authors with a client rather than an all-knowing expert. Curiosity Narrative Principles

6. De-centered Therapy

7. Externalization This allows people to consider their relationships with problems. People are not the problem. Support a person’s resources and strengths. Narrative Principles

8. Preferred Story Stories that are identified by the person as stories by which they would like to live their lives. Driven by beliefs, values, hopes and dreams. Assist people to break from the influence of the problems they are facing. Narrative Principles

9. Bullying Example

10. All parties – experiencing, engaging in, or observing bullying Problems and their affects – throughout the day, week, year Resources – education, internal strength, humor, intelligence Team Members – directly or indirectly involved What is Brought to the Bullying Incident?

11. Value statements Evaluation that leads to pathology Constant scrutiny may discourage students A Bullying Environment Has: IQ - 97, Reading - 68 Math - 86 “Learns too slowly” “too advanced” (bored) “too advanced” (bored) “ Talks too much in class” “Doesn’t talk loud enough “Too much energy” “Not enough energy” “Not enough energy” “Careless work” “Perfectionistic” “Too fidgety” “Too passive” “Doesn’t share” “too pleasing”

12. Narrative Values Diversity Good spatial skills, Finds decoding challenging, Strong computation “Learns too slowly” “too advanced” (bored) “too advanced” (bored) “Enthusiastic” “Learns at their own pace” Engages in verbal participation readily “Too fidgety” “Too passive” “Likes to please others” “Finishes work in a timely manner”

13. Competition Example: “First one to clean up gets to help me with snack.” Effects of competition: Focus on self rather than community End justifies the means Sharing and cooperation less attractive Increases conflicts and put downs Criticism and evaluation of self and others infiltrate students experiences. A Bullying Environment Has:

14. Cooperative learning -“Last time it took all of us 60 seconds to get ready, let’s see if we can beat that!” Effects of collaboration: Life skills Connection to group Develop appreciation for classmates Narrative Values Cooperation

15. Comparisons to others Example: “You eighth graders should be better than the sixth graders.” Implications of comparison: Confidence is increased by put-down of another instead of acknowledging and trusting ones values. Youth are set against one another. Adults fall into the trap of valuing children for what they could be instead of what they are. A Bullying Environment Has:

16. Effects: Provides an opportunity to explore ways of being that fit who they want to be Builds confidence with improvement Increases collaboration Increases self efficacy Narrative Values Individual Growth and Strength

17. The Bullying Incident ResourcesProblems Persons Observing Bullying * Persons Experiencing BullyingProblems ResourcesProblems Persons Observing Bullying * Person BullyingResourcesProblem Team Members Mainstream views Bullying as the problem

18. Team Members Resources Person who Experienced Bullying Person now Standing up to Bullying Team Members Resources Person Standing up to Bullying “Active Witness” Team Members Resources Person Standing up to Bullying “Active Witness” Person now Standing up to Bullying Person who Engaged in Bullying Behavior Resources Team Members Narrative emphasizes Collaboration to assist all parties affected by bullying to develop strategies that strengthen hopes and values. Each person involved in the bullying incident has strengths and solutions.

19. The best way to prevent bullying behavior is to create an environment that is incongruent with the development of such problems. Aspects of a Good Anti-Bullying Plan

20. Have all parties involved in the bullying incident collaborate together to “trick” the problem of bullying. Person Engaging in Bullying Behavior Person Experiencing Bullying Bystander(s)Adults Anti-Bullying Team

21. The new team deconstructs the bullying incident to understand: Context(s) in which is was createdContext(s) in which is was created What supported the behaviorWhat supported the behavior Team develops a new Narrative on how to limit the negative influence(s) of bullying and re-author individuals’ experiences with bullying without labeling blame or shame. Anti-Bullying Plan

22. De-Centered but Influential – supporting role vs lead role Be clear, consistent, sensitive, and compassionate when addressing bullying incidents. Bullying exist partly because of silence. Take responsibility for aspects of bullying that you support and make appropriate changes. Discuss your changes with the children you influence. How to be a Good Co-Author of the New Narrative

23. Have meaningful conversations with children. Co-create meaningful rules to invite strengthening of values and more responsibility. Provide good supervision. Safety is always first. Collaborate with families, schools, and community organizations to communicate openly and to stand up to bullying. How to be a Good Co-Author of the New Narrative

24. Adultism – “Because I told you to...” Pattern of disrespect and maltreatment that affect young people by: Undermining self confidence and self esteem A consistent experience of not being taken seriously A growing negative self concept Increasing self destructive acts (Bell, 2011) Avoid Adultism

25. No one ever deserves to be bullied. Don’t gossip or negatively participate in bullying incidents. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes and act accordingly. Telling is not tattling. You are responsible for the implementation of solutions. You are a strong and capable person. You have the power to make good choices and do good things. Messages from Adults that Strengthen the Preferred Story

26. If adults “fix” things, it is often a short term solution. Children’s resources and voices are not heard or enhanced. Children are sent the message that they cannot handle difficult situations and/or they are weak. Harsh punishments - can lead to the increase in group cohesiveness fueling the desire to bully the target more. Pitfalls of Adults Taking Over the Preferred Story

27. If danger is present, get help Befriend the person being targeted Refuse to spread rumors and laugh at hurtful encounters Educate people about the bystander effect Differentiate between tattling and telling Intervene when possible and use people’s names to personalize and humanize the situation. Supporting Active Witnesses

28. Dr Paul Ellison Phone: 612-708-8717 Email: pjatelli@comcast.net pjatelli@comcast.net Dr Hana Ra Adams Phone: 651-235-2551 Email: hxr125@gmail.com hxr125@gmail.com Additional Resources