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1 1 Neighbours, Friends and Families

2 2 Purpose Neighbours, Friends and Families is a campaign to raise awareness of the signs of woman abuse so that people who are close to an at-risk woman or abusive man can help Neighbours, Friends and Families is a campaign to raise awareness of the signs of woman abuse so that people who are close to an at-risk woman or abusive man can help Neighbours, Friends and Families

3 3 What Do I Need to Know About Woman Abuse?  How can I identify and help women at risk of abuse?  What are the warning signs?  What are the risks of future harm?  What safety planning tips can I keep in mind?

4 4  Physical  Sexual  Psychological or Emotional  Spiritual  Economic What Does Woman Abuse Look Like?

5 5 Documentary “What everyone should know about woman abuse.” Lived Experience

6 6 What Are The Warning Signs? “He could be very charming… but the more I got to know her I noticed Ed was not allowing her to leave the house…he just seemed controlling that way.” “He could be very charming… but the more I got to know her I noticed Ed was not allowing her to leave the house…he just seemed controlling that way.” (Deb Ashbee) (Deb Ashbee)

7 7 “He quit his job because he couldn’t keep tabs on her… drive to see if she’s there or not… then we saw the van around the area a lot more.” (Leona Hegger) (Leona Hegger) What Are The Indicators for Risk of Future Harm?

8 8 Public Service Announcements “The Game” “The Store”

9 9 “I’m so sorry… …Hey baby, wait up” “I’m so sorry… …Hey baby, wait up” What Are The Warning Signs? The Game

10 10 If you recognize some of these warning If you recognize some of these warning signs, it may be time to take action: signs, it may be time to take action: He lies to make himself look good and exaggerates his good qualities He lies to make himself look good and exaggerates his good qualities He puts her down He puts her down He does all the talking and dominates the conversation He does all the talking and dominates the conversation  He checks up on her all the time – even at work  He tries to keep her away from you  He suggests he is the victim and acts depressed He acts as if he owns her He acts as if he owns her He acts like he is superior and of more value than others in his home He acts like he is superior and of more value than others in his home Warning Signs (The Game)

11 11 If you recognize some of these warning If you recognize some of these warning signs, it may be time to take action: signs, it may be time to take action: She may be apologetic and makes excuses for his behaviour or becomes aggressive or angry She may be apologetic and makes excuses for his behaviour or becomes aggressive or angry She is nervous about talking when he is there She is nervous about talking when he is there  She seems to be sick more often and misses work  She tries to cover her bruises  She makes excuses at the last minute about why she can’t meet you or tries to avoid you on the street She seems sad, lonely, withdrawn and is afraid She seems sad, lonely, withdrawn and is afraid  She uses more drugs or alcohol to cope Warning Signs (The Game)

12 12 “You’re ruining my son” “You’re ruining my son” Is There A Risk for Future Harm? The Game

13 13 The danger may be greater if: He has access to her and her children He has access to her and her children  He has access to weapons  He has a history of abuse with her or others  He has threatened to harm or kill her if she leaves him: He says “If I can't have you, no one will”  He threatens to harm her children, her pets or her property  He has threatened to kill himself  He has hit her, choked her He is going through major life changes (e.g. job, separation, depression) He is going through major life changes (e.g. job, separation, depression) Indicators for Risk of Future Harm (The Game)

14 14 The danger may be greater if:  He is convinced she is seeing someone else. He blames her for ruining his life (his son) He blames her for ruining his life (his son)  He doesn’t seek support  He watches her actions, listens to her telephone  conversations, sees her s and follows her  He has trouble keeping a job  He takes drugs or drinks every day He has no respect for the law (verbal abuse in public) He has no respect for the law (verbal abuse in public)  She has just separated or is planning to leave She is pregnant She is pregnant Indicators for Risk of Future Harm (The Game)

15 15 “I’m not paying you support for this!” What Are The Warning Signs? The Store

16 16 If you recognize some of these warning If you recognize some of these warning signs, it may be time to take action: signs, it may be time to take action: He puts her down He puts her down He does all the talking and dominates the conversation He does all the talking and dominates the conversation He checks up on her all the time He checks up on her all the time  He tries to keep her away from you  He suggests he is the victim and acts depressed He acts as if he owns her He acts as if he owns her  He lies to make himself look good and exaggerates his good qualities He acts like he is superior and of more value than others in his home He acts like he is superior and of more value than others in his home Warning Signs (The Store)

17 17 If you recognize some of these warning If you recognize some of these warning signs, it may be time to take action: signs, it may be time to take action:  She may be apologetic and makes excuses for his behaviour or becomes aggressive or angry She is nervous about talking when he is there She is nervous about talking when he is there  She seems to be sick more often and misses work  She tries to cover her bruises  She makes excuses at the last minute about why she can’t meet you or tries to avoid you on the street She seems sad, lonely, withdrawn and is afraid She seems sad, lonely, withdrawn and is afraid  She uses more drugs or alcohol to cope Warning Signs (The Store)

18 18 “You can’t be trusted. That’s why I keep tabs on you” The Store Is There A Risk for Future Harm? (The Store)

19 19 The danger may be greater if:  He has access to her and her children  He has access to weapons  He has a history of abuse with her or others  He has threatened to harm or kill her if she leaves him: He says “If I can't have you, no one will”  He threatens to harm her children, her pets or her property  He has threatened to kill himself  He has hit her, choked her He is going through major life changes (e.g. job, separation, depression) He is going through major life changes (e.g. job, separation, depression) Indicators for Risk of Future Harm (The Store)

20 20 The danger may be greater if:  He is convinced she is seeing someone else  He blames her for ruining his life  He doesn’t seek support He watches her actions, listens to her telephone He watches her actions, listens to her telephone conversations, sees her s and follows her conversations, sees her s and follows her  He has trouble keeping a job  He takes drugs or drinks every day He has no respect for the law ( stalking behaviour) He has no respect for the law ( stalking behaviour) She has just separated or is planning to leave She has just separated or is planning to leave Indicators for Risk of Future Harm (The Store)

21 21 How Can I Support Her?  Examples: Talk to her about what you see and assure her that you are concerned Talk to her about what you see and assure her that you are concerned Tell her you believe her and that it is not her fault Tell her you believe her and that it is not her fault Provide information about safety Provide information about safety

22 22 Safety Planning for Women  Developing a Safety plan  Getting Ready to Leave  Leaving the Abuser  After Leaving  Information: The Assaulted Women’s Helpline, local Women’s Shelter, Sexual Assault Crisis Centre, SADVC, and other women’s services in your area The Assaulted Women’s Helpline, local Women’s Shelter, Sexual Assault Crisis Centre, SADVC, and other women’s services in your area

23 23 What Can I Say?

24 24 Talking To Men Who Are Abusive  Choose the right time and place  Approach him when he is calm.  Be direct and clear about what you have seen.  Avoid making judgmental comments about him as a person  Don’t validate his attempt to blame others  Don’t try to force him to change or to seek help  Tell him that you are concerned for the safety of his partner and children and that there is help for him  Never argue with him about his abusive actions  Recognize that confrontational, argumentative approaches may make the situation worse and put her at higher risk approaches may make the situation worse and put her at higher risk

25 25 Overcoming Your Hesitation to Help You may have concerns about whether you should help: Examples:  You feel it’s none of your business  You don’t know what to say  You might make things worse  You are afraid he will become angry  with you (or the woman)  Both partners are your friends  You think it is a private matter

26 26 What To Do  Learn the 15 warning signs and 23 high risk factors  Recognize that helping women who are abused, or at risk, is a socially acceptable behaviour  Talk to the Assaulted Women’s Helpline for support and/or advice about what you have seen  Call the police in an emergency

27 27  Offer the woman at risk the safety planning brochure/card  Talk to men who are abusive and let them know you are concerned for the woman’s/children’s safety and that there is help for them  Promote the brochures and safety cards in your community What To Do

28 28  Neighbours, Friends and Families have a crucial role to play in preventing woman abuse  You can learn about the warning signs of woman abuse and you can learn how to help  You can make the brochures and safety cards available to people you know Key Messages

29 29  Communities working together can make a difference in abused women’s and children’s lives  Talking to abusive men is critical to ending woman abuse  Abusive behaviour won’t go away by itself. There are services to help men who abuse Key Messages

30 30 The Domestic Violence Death Review Committee (DVDRC) was developed to assist the Ontario Office of the Chief Coroner to investigate and review deaths occurring as a result of domestic violence. The Domestic Violence Death Review Committee (DVDRC) was developed to assist the Ontario Office of the Chief Coroner to investigate and review deaths occurring as a result of domestic violence. Many consistent factors were found during several years of review: Many consistent factors were found during several years of review: Research

31 31 Death Review Findings …in every case reviewed, family members, neighbours, and/or professionals had some knowledge of the escalating circumstance between perpetrators and victims. (DVDRC 2003)

32 32 …the greatest need continues to be educating all members of the community about the warning signs of domestic violence and the appropriate action necessary to prevent it. …the greatest need continues to be educating all members of the community about the warning signs of domestic violence and the appropriate action necessary to prevent it. (DVDRC 2005) Death Review Findings

33 33 One example of raising awareness about the warning signs of woman abuse, safety planning and risk reduction strategies is the Neighbours, Friends and Families Campaign. One example of raising awareness about the warning signs of woman abuse, safety planning and risk reduction strategies is the Neighbours, Friends and Families Campaign. (DVDRC 2005) Death Review Findings

34 34 Why Are Women Abused?  Abusive behaviour is the responsibility of the abuser, yet social conditions and beliefs reinforce the abusive behaviour  Women are not truly equal in our society  Acts of woman abuse often occur in isolation. The belief that woman abuse is a private matter is a common myth that perpetuates the abuse

35 35  The inequality of women is sustained by the belief that one gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, class, age or physical ability is better than another  Abuse occurs because one group or person has power over another and believes they are entitled to it Why Are Women Abused?

36 36  The term woman abuse has been incorporated throughout the NFF materials  The underlying systemic issues of power and control are less apparent when terms such as domestic violence or marital conflict are used. Vocabulary

37 37  The NFF materials are highly adaptable (not a one size fits all solution)  Neighbours, Friends and Families  Voisins, amis et familles  Kanawayhitowin  Brochures and Safety Cards have been translated and culturally adapted Neighbours, Friends and Families

38 38 Brochures & Safety Cards Arabic Chinese Simplified Chinese Traditional Characters CharactersEnglish FarsiFrench Korean Punjabi Indian Punjabi Pakistani RussianSomaliSpanishTamilVietnamese

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42 42 Most Ontarians feel a personal responsibility for reducing woman abuse... recognizing it is the first step Take the warning signs seriously Neighbours, Friends and Families

43 43 Partnership Neighbours, Friends and Families is the result of a partnership between the Ontario Government and the Expert Panel on Neighbours, Friends and Families, through the Centre for Research and Education on Violence Against Women and Children Neighbours, Friends and Families is the result of a partnership between the Ontario Government and the Expert Panel on Neighbours, Friends and Families, through the Centre for Research and Education on Violence Against Women and Children

44 44 Website Contact information: Alfredo Marroquin Neighbours, Friends and Families


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