Presentation on theme: "SHARED PARENTING AND ATTACHMENTS"— Presentation transcript:
1SHARED PARENTING AND ATTACHMENTS Diane LojszczykManager Child Dispute ServicesNewcastle Registry
2Shared Parenting and Attachments What is so important about attachment?Outcomes of disrupted/insecure attachmentsAttachment and the development of childrenShared Parenting ResearchShared Parenting Research – Implications for Practice
3What is so important about attachment? Attachment is a deep and enduring connection/strong emotional bond between a child and his/her caregiver. It is usually established during the first few years of life.It is an ongoing reciprocal relationship. The quality of the interactions between the child and carers is critical to promoting trusting and secure attachments
4What is so important about attachment? (cont’d) Attachment influences the child’s view of themselves and others.Secure attachments provide children with a safe base to explore and increase opportunities for learningThe quality of this relationship is one of the best predictors of optimal child development and is associated with:
5What is so important about attachment? (cont’d) Development of healthy self esteemLanguage development,cognitive development,school success,behavioural adjustment,ability to form healthy and trusting relationships andability to develop problem solving skills
6Outcomes of disrupted/insecure attachments Difficulties forming relationships with peers and adultsIncreased risks for developing behavioural problemsDeficits in empathy (evident at a young age)Lower academic competence
7Outcomes of disrupted/insecure attachments (cont’d) Higher levels of hostility and aggressionLow self esteemLack of self controlIntergenerational problems with promoting secure attachments with their own childrenRisk taking behaviours
8Attachment and the Development of Children 0-1 year olds need predictable parenting and secure knowledge that their needs will be met. Begin to be attached at 3 months and demonstrate attachment at 8 months. They detect feelings in their primary carers.1-2 years speech and thoughts predominantly egocentric. They begin to learn a sense of self. Model parents’ and others’ behaviours - may have poor relationships with peers.
9Attachment and the Development of Children (cont’d) Infants primary drive is towards attachment not safety so they will accommodate to the parenting style they experience.Children can make sense of their experiences by believing the situation is their fault and they are inherently bad.3-5 years See the world entirely from their own perspective therefore if parents are fighting they feel they are the cause. Anxious about basic needs being met and abandonment.
10Attachment and the Development of Children (cont’d) 6-11 years Fear of losing both parents. Becoming more independent. Developing self confidence and self esteem. Conflicted loyalties often present.Adolescents - importance of peer relationships and other activities. Often moving away from family. They will usually want to have a say.
11Shared Parenting- Research Smyth (2004) viable arrangement for a small group who self selected.Characteristics for success:Geographical proximityAbility of parents to co-operatively parentChild focussed arrangements
12Shared Parenting- Research Smyth (2004) cont’dCommitment to making it workFamily friendly work practices for both parentsFinancial comfortShared confidence that the father is a competent parent
13Shared Parenting- Research McIntosh and Chisholm (2008) (non Court based)Identified what factors lead to poor outcomes for children1. Fathers low level of formal education2. High, on going inter-parental conflict3. Children’s overnight care substantially shared
14Shared Parenting- Research McIntosh and Chisholm (2008)4. Poor mother-child relationship5. High acrimony ( psychological hostility) between parents6. Child under 10 years (?due to the inability to cope with the conflict and interplay with attachment issues)
15Shared Parenting- Research Note - Children and fathers benefited from shared care most when this occurred in an environment of low acrimony and co-operation with the other parent.Note – Older children (over 10yr) in shared care who were not caught in high conflict dynamics did not show evidence of poor mental health outcomes.
16Shared Parenting- Research McIntosh and Chisholm (2008) (Court based)Five variables most highly associated with children’s poor mental health outcomes;1. The child was unhappy with their living and care arrangements2. The parent’s relationship with the child had deteriorated post Court
17Shared Parenting- Research 3. The child lived in substantially shared care4. One parent held concerns about the child’s safety with the other parent5. The parents remained in high conflict
18Shared Parenting- Research Other findings of interest (these findings are in line with other international studies):28% in shared care going into Court and 46% in substantially shared care (5 nts/ftnt) on exit70% of Ct orders by consent/30% judicial73% of parents ‘almost never’ co-operated with the other parent (In 4 cases parents ‘never’ had any sort of contact)39% of parents reported ‘never’ being able to protect the child from parental conflict
19Shared Parenting- Research “Cautionary Note”:The data suggests that a significant proportion of these children emerged from Family Court proceedings with substantially shared care arrangements that occurred in an atmosphere that placed psychological strain on the child.
20Shared Parenting- Research Implications for Practice These studies support the view that the children who do best are those who maintain frequent time with both parents who can co-operate and communicateIt is the quality of the relationships between parents, and between parents and children, that matters for children’s wellbeing. (Smyth 2008)
21Shared Parenting- Research Implications for Practice McIntosh and Chisholm (2008)Caution about the recommendation of equal time for infants and young children (under 4 years)There is a danger that children cannot develop an experience of reliable care with one or other parent due to frequent moves, and the strain of having to constantly monitor the ‘emotional weather’ in both parents’ households.
22ConclusionsNeed for more research - current research based on small samples so careful interpretation required.Need to identify –what are the minimum conditions for an equal time arrangement, whether highly conflicted parents are more likely to try a shared care arrangement, is a shared care arrangement always contra-indicated in high conflict matters
23ConclusionsIn terms of attachment issues we need to be cautious of shared care arrangements (even 5 nights a fortnight) with infants and young children (especially under 4yrs and possibly up to 10yrs).Research on shared care is less well established than that on attachment issues.Our practices must be informed by research.