Presentation on theme: "Vocation: Our Response to God’s Call Chapter Six"— Presentation transcript:
1 Vocation: Our Response to God’s Call Chapter Six Called to Married LifeVocation: Our Response to God’s CallChapter Six
2 A Definition of a Love Relationship; Love is:a unifying response between two peoplewho care for and have said “yes” to each other’s total being.It presumes mutual acceptance, of each other, freedom and trustand it seeks the fulfillment and happiness of the other as a common goal.
3 Decide to Care!Agape = “To wish well” – To desire the total good of others.The core of all love is caring.To truly love another is to care unselfishly about the other person’s total welfare in the context of that person’s real life circumstances.Genuine love always desires good and not harm.Loving is a free decision to care.
4 The Four Loves Frederick Buechner The love for equals is a human thing---of friend for friend, brother for brother. It is to love what is loving and lovely. The world smiles. The love for the less fortunate is a beautiful thing---the love for those who suffer, for those who are poor, the sick, the failures, the unlovely. This is compassion, and it touches the heart of the world. The love for the more fortunate is a rare thing---to love those who succeed where we fail, to rejoice without envy with those who rejoice, the love of the poor for the rich, of the black man for the white man. The world is always bewildered by its saints. And then there is the love for the enemy---love for the one who does not love you but mocks, threatens, and inflicts pain. The tortured's love for the torturer. This is God's love. It conquers the world.Source: The Magnificent Defeat
5 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a“Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude.It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoings, but rejoices in the truth.It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.Love never ends.”
6 The Shema“Hear O’ Israel, The Lord is our God, the Lord alone. Therefore, you shall love the Lord your God with all of your heart, and with all of your soul, and with all of your strength.” (Deuteronomy 6:4-5)
7 You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22:37 & 39) The Law of Love“You shall love the Lord your God with all of your heart, with all of your soul, and with all of your mind.[and]You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22:37 & 39)
8 The Corporal Works of Mercy Feed the hungryGive drink to the thirstyClothe the nakedShelter the homelessVisit the sickRansom the captiveBury the dead
9 The Spiritual Works of Mercy Instruct the ignorantCounsel the doubtfulAdmonish the sinnerBear wrongs patientlyForgive offencesComfort the afflictedPray for the living and the dead
10 Attraction Love Infatuation Happens quickly; often one-sidedDoesn’t know or want to know the other’s faultsConcentrates on:Physical appearanceSocial or financial statusImmediate sexual gratificationLeaves one insecure or in emotional turmoilLoveDevelops over time & is mutually supportiveKnows the other’s weaknesses & faults and still accepts themCares about the inner person & trustsIncreases:Self-confidenceSecurityPeaceStrengthens inner convictions
11 Stages of Love Researchers say: Generally speaking Passion Intimacy & contented attractionCommitmentGenerally speakingA mystery that each person experiences uniquelyThe standard stages orGrow gradually into love without initial attraction orMay remain a quiet, reassuring friendship or contentment.
12 The Choice to Love “More Than a Feeling” Feelings come and goIf we only love people when we feel like loving them we will never have a lasting relationshipChoices become commitmentsLove is “something that we do”When we choose to love someone we act for their benefit, not our own.If you “Lost that Loving Feeling” it does not mean that you do not love the person anymore.
13 Covenant: Promise of Lasting Love Marriage is a sacred, solemn promise – a covenant like the one God made with us.“I will never forsake you.”Marriage is the couple’s mutual promise of a lifetime of faithful love.FidelityThe Catholic Church holds that every true marriage is a freely chosen, permanent, sacred covenant.A Sacrament of Service to Community.We tend to pattern our relationships after the ones we experienced at home.God is Love, Pope Benedict XVIMarriage Preparation ClassesRequired!
14 Marriage Preparation: Why? Something Special & Sacred High divorce rateMore time and $ spent on preparing for the wedding then the marriageWedding is for a dayMarriage is for a lifetimeCatholic Church requires six months of marriage prep classesMore than just a legal contractA covenant – A Sacrament
15 Marriage Preparation: Re-creating Your Relationship = Growth CommunicationGoals & PlansReligionMoneySexualityLifestyleRolesHousehold ManagementChildren & Family LifeLeisure TimeHandling ConflictsDecision MakingHandling Relationship ProblemsFamily Background & RelativesBeing FaithfulFriendshipsIntimacyIdeals & ExpectationsPersonal Priorities & Standards
16 A Covenant of LoveA solemn promise, a sacred covenant, like the one God has made with us. The love of God for the Church.A bond of unity between one man and one woman, a bond that is of God from the very beginning of creation.A mutual promise of a lifetime of faithful love, a shared commitment.FidelityMore than just not committing adultery.
17 Types of Marriage Within the Church Sacramental Marriage (two baptized Christians)Two Catholic ChristiansCatholic MarriageA Catholic and non-Catholic ChristianMixed MarriageNon-Sacramental MarriageA Catholic and non-ChristianDisparity of Cult MarriageThe Church blesses the vows of love in both of these cases and considers each type of marriage to be valid and indissoluble
18 Separation, Divorce and Annulment A married couple living apart from each other yet still being in a legal and maybe Sacramental marriage.DivorceThe ending of a marriage contract by a court of law.This only effects the legal union, not the sacramental union.AnnulmentA decision by the Church that a sacramental marriage never existed in the first place.A person who has obtained both a legal divorce from the state and a Declaration of Nullity from the Church is permitted to seek a Sacramental marriage in the Church.
19 Some final notes…All of us tend to pattern relationships on the ones we’ve grown up experiencing in the homeAny relationship must be recreated if it is to grow.Read Pope Benedict’s first encyclical entitled “God is Love”. It speaks of love in very beautiful, powerful and practical terms.Living out our baptismal call is all about relationships.
20 Some final notes… A vehicle for ensuring the birth/care of children Marriage is a calling and should be discerned like any call.During Jesus’ time, marriage was seen asA vehicle for ensuring the birth/care of childrenTransferring of propertyOften arrangedCharacterized by fidelity
21 Some final notes…Jesus brought a new understanding to Marriage, which we still hold to today:Freely chosenIndissolubleNote: The only teaching that is more important than the indissolubility of marriage is the sanctity and dignity of human life.TraditionsGiving away the bride originally symbolized a transfer of property.LOVE IS A UNIFYING RESPONSE BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE!