Presentation on theme: "Vocation: Our Response to God’s Call Chapter Six"— Presentation transcript:
1Vocation: Our Response to God’s Call Chapter Six Called to Married LifeVocation: Our Response to God’s CallChapter Six
2A Definition of a Love Relationship; Love is:a unifying response between two peoplewho care for and have said “yes” to each other’s total being.It presumes mutual acceptance, of each other, freedom and trustand it seeks the fulfillment and happiness of the other as a common goal.
3Decide to Care!Agape = “To wish well” – To desire the total good of others.The core of all love is caring.To truly love another is to care unselfishly about the other person’s total welfare in the context of that person’s real life circumstances.Genuine love always desires good and not harm.Loving is a free decision to care.
4The Four Loves Frederick Buechner The love for equals is a human thing---of friend for friend, brother for brother. It is to love what is loving and lovely. The world smiles. The love for the less fortunate is a beautiful thing---the love for those who suffer, for those who are poor, the sick, the failures, the unlovely. This is compassion, and it touches the heart of the world. The love for the more fortunate is a rare thing---to love those who succeed where we fail, to rejoice without envy with those who rejoice, the love of the poor for the rich, of the black man for the white man. The world is always bewildered by its saints. And then there is the love for the enemy---love for the one who does not love you but mocks, threatens, and inflicts pain. The tortured's love for the torturer. This is God's love. It conquers the world.Source: The Magnificent Defeat
51 Corinthians 13:4-8a“Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude.It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoings, but rejoices in the truth.It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.Love never ends.”
6The Shema: Jewish prayer “Hear O’ Israel, the Lord is our God, the Lord alone. Therefore, you shall love the Lord your God with all of your heart, and with all of your soul, and with all of your strength.” (Deuteronomy 6:4-5)
7You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22:37 & 39) The Law of Love“You shall love the Lord your God with all of your heart, with all of your soul, and with all of your mind.[and]You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22:37 & 39)
8The Corporal Works of Mercy Feed the hungryGive drink to the thirstyClothe the nakedShelter the homelessVisit the sickRansom the captiveBury the dead
9The Spiritual Works of Mercy Instruct the ignorantCounsel the doubtfulAdmonish the sinnerBear wrongs patientlyForgive offencesComfort the afflictedPray for the living and the dead
10Attraction Love Infatuation Happens quickly; often one-sidedDoesn’t know or want to know the other’s faultsConcentrates on:Physical appearanceSocial or financial statusImmediate sexual gratificationLeaves one insecure or in emotional turmoilLoveDevelops over time & is mutually supportiveKnows the other’s weaknesses & faults and still accepts themCares about the inner person & trustsIncreases:Self-confidenceSecurityPeaceStrengthens inner convictions
11Stages of Love Researchers say: Generally speaking Passion/Slurpee Effect (thanks Steven)!Intimacy & contented attractionCommitmentGenerally speakingA mystery that each person experiences uniquelyThe standard stages orGrow gradually into love without initial attraction orMay remain a quiet, reassuring friendship or contentment.
12Covenant: Promise of Lasting Love Marriage is a sacred, solemn promise – a covenant like the one God made with us.“I will never forsake you.”Marriage is the couple’s mutual promise of a lifetime of faithful love.FidelityThe Catholic Church holds that every true marriage is a freely chosen, permanent, sacred covenant.Marriage Preparation Classes Required!
13Marriage Preparation: Something Special & Sacred Addresses and tries to counter the high divorce rateMore time and $ spent on preparing for the wedding than the marriageWedding is for a dayMarriage is for a lifetimeCatholic Church requires six months of marriage prep classesMore than just a legal contractA covenant – A Sacrament
14Marriage Preparation is about increasing healthy communication Marriage Preparation is about increasing healthy communication. Issues to Discuss…CommunicationGoals & PlansReligionMoneySexualityLifestyleRolesHousehold ManagementChildren & Family LifeLeisure TimeHandling ConflictsDecision MakingHandling Relationship ProblemsFamily Background & RelativesBeing FaithfulFriendshipsIntimacyIdeals & ExpectationsPersonal Priorities & Standards
15A Covenant of LoveA solemn promise, a sacred covenant, like the one God has made with us.A bond of unity between one man and one woman, a bond that is of God from the very beginning of creation.A mutual promise of a lifetime of faithful love, a shared commitment.FidelityMore than just not committing adultery.
16Types of Marriage Within the Church Sacramental MarriageTwo Catholic ChristiansCatholic MarriageA Catholic and non-Catholic ChristianMixed MarriageNon-Sacramental MarriageA Catholic and non-ChristianDisparity of Cult MarriageThe Church blesses the vows of love in both of these cases and considers each type of marriage to be valid and indissoluble
17Separation, Divorce and Annulment A married couple living apart from each other yet still being in a legal and maybe Sacramental marriage.DivorceThe ending of a marriage contract by a court of law.This only effects the legal union, not the sacramental union.AnnulmentA decision by the Church that a sacramental marriage never existed in the first place.A person who has obtained both a legal divorce from the state and a Declaration of Nullity from the Church is permitted to seek a Sacramental marriage in the Church.