1. Vocation: Our Response to God’s Call Chapter Six
Called to Married Life
Vocation: Our Response to God’s Call
Chapter Six

2. A Definition of a Love Relationship;
Love is:
a unifying response between two people
who care for and have said “yes” to each other’s total being.
It presumes mutual acceptance, of each other, freedom and trust
and it seeks the fulfillment and happiness of the other as a common goal.

3. Decide to Care!
Agape = “To wish well” – To desire the total good of others.
The core of all love is caring.
To truly love another is to care unselfishly about the other person’s total welfare in the context of that person’s real life circumstances.
Genuine love always desires good and not harm.
Loving is a free decision to care.

4. The Four Loves Frederick Buechner
The love for equals is a human thing---of friend for friend, brother for brother. It is to love what is loving and lovely. The world smiles. The love for the less fortunate is a beautiful thing---the love for those who suffer, for those who are poor, the sick, the failures, the unlovely. This is compassion, and it touches the heart of the world. The love for the more fortunate is a rare thing---to love those who succeed where we fail, to rejoice without envy with those who rejoice, the love of the poor for the rich, of the black man for the white man. The world is always bewildered by its saints. And then there is the love for the enemy---love for the one who does not love you but mocks, threatens, and inflicts pain. The tortured's love for the torturer. This is God's love. It conquers the world.
Source: The Magnificent Defeat

5. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a
“Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude.
It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoings, but rejoices in the truth.
It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends.”

6. The Shema: Jewish prayer
“Hear O’ Israel, the Lord is our God, the Lord alone. Therefore, you shall love the Lord your God with all of your heart, and with all of your soul, and with all of your strength.” (Deuteronomy 6:4-5)

7. You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22:37 & 39)
The Law of Love
“You shall love the Lord your God with all of your heart, with all of your soul, and with all of your mind.
[and]
You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22:37 & 39)

8. The Corporal Works of Mercy
Feed the hungry
Give drink to the thirsty
Clothe the naked
Shelter the homeless
Visit the sick
Ransom the captive
Bury the dead

9. The Spiritual Works of Mercy
Instruct the ignorant
Counsel the doubtful
Admonish the sinner
Bear wrongs patiently
Forgive offences
Comfort the afflicted
Pray for the living and the dead

10. Attraction Love Infatuation
Happens quickly; often one-sided
Doesn’t know or want to know the other’s faults
Concentrates on:
Physical appearance
Social or financial status
Immediate sexual gratification
Leaves one insecure or in emotional turmoil
Love
Develops over time & is mutually supportive
Knows the other’s weaknesses & faults and still accepts them
Cares about the inner person & trusts
Increases:
Self-confidence
Security
Peace
Strengthens inner convictions

11. Stages of Love Researchers say: Generally speaking
Passion/Slurpee Effect (thanks Steven)!
Intimacy & contented attraction
Commitment
Generally speaking
A mystery that each person experiences uniquely
The standard stages or
Grow gradually into love without initial attraction or
May remain a quiet, reassuring friendship or contentment.

12. Covenant: Promise of Lasting Love
Marriage is a sacred, solemn promise – a covenant like the one God made with us.
“I will never forsake you.”
Marriage is the couple’s mutual promise of a lifetime of faithful love.
Fidelity
The Catholic Church holds that every true marriage is a freely chosen, permanent, sacred covenant.
Marriage Preparation Classes Required!

13. Marriage Preparation: Something Special & Sacred
Addresses and tries to counter the high divorce rate
More time and $ spent on preparing for the wedding than the marriage
Wedding is for a day
Marriage is for a lifetime
Catholic Church requires six months of marriage prep classes
More than just a legal contract
A covenant – A Sacrament

14. Marriage Preparation is about increasing healthy communication
Marriage Preparation is about increasing healthy communication. Issues to Discuss…
Communication
Goals & Plans
Religion
Money
Sexuality
Lifestyle
Roles
Household Management
Children & Family Life
Leisure Time
Handling Conflicts
Decision Making
Handling Relationship Problems
Family Background & Relatives
Being Faithful
Friendships
Intimacy
Ideals & Expectations
Personal Priorities & Standards

15. A Covenant of Love
A solemn promise, a sacred covenant, like the one God has made with us.
A bond of unity between one man and one woman, a bond that is of God from the very beginning of creation.
A mutual promise of a lifetime of faithful love, a shared commitment.
Fidelity
More than just not committing adultery.

16. Types of Marriage Within the Church
Sacramental Marriage
Two Catholic Christians
Catholic Marriage
A Catholic and non-Catholic Christian
Mixed Marriage
Non-Sacramental Marriage
A Catholic and non-Christian
Disparity of Cult Marriage
The Church blesses the vows of love in both of these cases and considers each type of marriage to be valid and indissoluble

17. Separation, Divorce and Annulment
A married couple living apart from each other yet still being in a legal and maybe Sacramental marriage.
Divorce
The ending of a marriage contract by a court of law.
This only effects the legal union, not the sacramental union.
Annulment
A decision by the Church that a sacramental marriage never existed in the first place.
A person who has obtained both a legal divorce from the state and a Declaration of Nullity from the Church is permitted to seek a Sacramental marriage in the Church.