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1 ALMOST BUBER: Martin Buber s Complex Influence on Family Therapy Alan Flashman MD Berlin Berlin2008

2 MURRAY BOWEN: DIFFERENTIATION OF SELF IN SYSTEM I - POSITION I - POSITION

3 I - POSITION Authentic & Full Expression Authentic & Full Expression Beginning of the Encounter Beginning of the Encounter Rather than: Rather than: Erasing I – giving in Erasing I – giving in Erasing You – forcing Erasing You – forcing Taking a risk Taking a risk

4 DIFFERENTIATION OF SELF IN SYSTEM I - POSITION I - POSITION TRIANGLES TRIANGLES

5 HIGH DIFFERENTIATION: TRIADS = 3 Dyads

6 LOW DIFFERENTIATION: TRIANGLES

7 DIFFERENTIATION OF SELF IN SYSTEM I - POSITION I - POSITION TRIANGLES TRIANGLES CO-CREATION CO-CREATION

8 DIFFERENTIATION HIGH LOW

9 DIFFERENTIATION LOW I AM ERASED AM ERASED YOU YOU ARE ERASED ARE ERASED WE WE DO NOT CHANGE DO NOT CHANGEHIGH I WANT/FEEL YOU YOU = ENDS WE WE = CO-CREATION

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12 CO-CREATION HIGH DIFFERENTIATION NO CO-CREATION LOW DIFFERENTIATION

13 I I thou Thou

14 Yonatan Darmon Safed, Israel

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16 DIFFERENTIATION HIGH LOW

17 . Themost remarkable event at that time was the visit of Martin Buber, who in 1957 delivered the fourth William Alanson White Memorial Lectures and also gave a series of evening seminars to especially interested faculty members… I was delegated to call upon him It was an experience I shall never forget. It made me somewhat uneasy to be calling a "holy man" (as I thought of Martin Buber) on the telephone, but I did. I was to meet him in an apartment house with a large private foyer or waiting room, where I waited for an uneasy five or ten minutes. Buber was a short man, no taller than I was, with extraordinarily alive brown eyes and a white Santa Claus beard. He greeted me without any social smile whatsoever. He merely looked at me very intensely, and my uneasiness dropped away completely. I think I have rarely felt so much at ease, so much myself. Still without any social smile, he said, "Come over here in the light where I can see you better." And so I did, without any self- consciousness. One of the first things he said was: "When one is 80 years old, one has to choose carefully which places one will go to. There isn't SO much time left, I want to come to the Washington School of Psychiatry because I think it is one of the few places which keep the questions open." … I think the School has never been paid a greater compliment..

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24 Expanding Buber From black and white to shades of gray From black and white to shades of gray Relatively more full I-Thou Relatively more full I-Thou From static oscillation to growth From static oscillation to growth Stochastic Processes Stochastic Processes (Στοχαζειν) (Στοχαζειν)

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27 Obstacles to Buber Intimacy and intrusion Intimacy and intrusion Loneliness of the therapist Loneliness of the therapist Acceptance of loss of control Acceptance of loss of control Clients needing something else first Clients needing something else first Buberians and non-Buberians Buberians and non-Buberians

28 Non-Buberian Buberian keep the questions open keep the questions open

29 REFERENCES Gregory Bateson, Steps to an Ecology of Mind, 1972; Mind and Nature,1979. Murray Bowen, Family Theory in Clinical Practice, Martin Buber, The Knowledge of Man, Mona DeKoven Fishbane, I, thou, and we: A dialogical approach to couples therapy, Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, Jan Family Process, March, 1982 (21:1) Alan Flashman, Mutual Fantasies in Families of Adolescents, in Fantasies and Adolescence, H. Deutsch, Ed, Jerusalem, Alan Flashman & Hanna Avnet, Therapeutic Communication with Adolescents (Hebrew), Jerusalem, 2005, ch. 7. Walter Kaufman, I and Thou: A Prologue, 1970; Discovering the Mind, Vol. 2, Daniel Stern, The Present Moment, 2004


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