2. H OW IS S ELF E STEEM LIKE A BEACH BALL ?

3. W HAT ARE SOME THINGS THAT MIGHT HAPPEN DURING A NORMAL DAY THAT LOWER SELF ESTEEM ?

4. W HEN A BEACH BALL ( SELF ESTEEM ) IS DEFLATED, IS IT AS RESILIENT ?

5. W HAT ARE WAYS TO MAKE SURE OUR BEACH BALL ( SELF - ESTEEM ) IS BLOWN UP ?

6. Q UESTIONS TO CONSIDER : Who are the people around us that affect our self esteem? Why do they? Is low self-esteem a permanent thing? Is our self-esteem the same throughout the day? Who can help us raise our self-esteem? How can we help others raise their self- esteem?

7. W RITE Y OUR O WN D EFINITION F OR T HE F OLLOWING W ORDS : S ELF -C ONCEPT S ELF -E STEEM S ELF -I MAGE S ELF -C ONFIDENCE

8. W HAT IS S ELF -C ONCEPT ?  The combination of self-esteem and self- image. It is the way we perceive our whole selves.  Self Esteem:  Self Esteem: the way we think or feel about ourselves *This can change from moment to moment.  Self Image:  Self Image: the way we see ourselves physically.

9. W HAT IS SELF - C ONFIDENCE ? Believing in yourself and your abilities. Being comfortable in your own skin.

10. T WO T YPES OF S ELF -E STEEM : High Self - Esteem: Feeling positively about yourself, your actions and your future. Low Self- Esteem: Feeling negatively about yourself, your actions and your future.

11. High Self Esteem  Now make a bubble map of characteristics of both high and low self-esteem:

12. S ELF -T ALK Did you know that almost 77% of everything we say and think about OURSELVES is negative?

13. O UR TOUGHEST CRITIC IS OURSELVES ! H AVE YOU EVER SAID OR THOUGHT THE FOLLOWING : I’m so stupid! I can’t do anything right! I shouldn’t even try because I’ll just mess up! I look so ugly today! I’m such a loser!

14. The brain will believe what we tell it most. We will become what we tell ourselves we are. Thoughts lead to action. We have to “re-program” what we say to ourselves…

15. H OW DO WE “ PRACTICE ” GIVING OURSELVES POSITIVE MESSAGES ? Replace a negative thought with a positive one.

16. C HUTES AND L ADDERS A NALOGY Often our self-concept can feel like a game of chutes and ladders… Ladders: Things we do that build us up and give us a positive self concept. Chutes: Things we do that tear us down and give us a negative self concept.

17. S ETTING S HORT T ERM AND L ONG T ERM G OALS

18. S ENDING O URSELVES P OSITIVE M ESSAGES

19. M AKING FUN OF SOMEONE ELSE

20. H AVING A BAD ATTITUDE ABOUT SCHOOL

21. C HOOSING G OOD F RIENDS

22. I GNORING P UT D OWNS

23. D RUG A BUSE

24. Y OUR T URN … B UBBLE M AP

25. GROUP TREASURE HUNT Choose a scribe to keep track of your group’s running totals for each of the following statements.

26. 1. One point for each member living in your home.

27. 2. One point for each button on your clothing.

28. 3. One point for each team member born outside the state.

29. 4. One point for each pet in your family. (Fish only count as one.)

30. 5. -One point for brown hair. -Two points for blond hair. -Three points for black hair. -Four points for red hair. -Five points for hair color not listed above.

31. 6. One point for each shoelace hole or hook on one shoe for each team member.

32. 7. One point for each team member who has been in a state other than this one.

33. 8. One point for each team member who has flown in an airplane.

34. 9. One point for each musical instrument each team member knows how to play.

35. 10. One point for each organized sport or club you have participated in this year.

36. 11. One point for each team member who has a cell phone.

37. 12. One point for each piece of jewelry each team member is wearing. (Earrings count as one.)

38. 13. One point for each letter in each player’s first name.

39. 14. One point for each team member who has been to a different country.

40. 15. One point for each team member who has been to Disneyland.

41. 16. One point for each team member who has a birthday in December.

42. 17. One point for each team member that is wearing pink.

43. 18. One point for each team member who has ridden a horse.

44. 19. One point for each team member who wears glasses or contacts.

45. 20. One point for each team member who has braces.

46. What can we learn about ourselves and others from this activity?

47. T HINGS TO CONSIDER :  Do the points in this game even matter?  Everyone is unique and has differences that make them who they are.  We should not be concerned about “adding up points” when building relationships with others.  Our self-esteem should be based on what we feel about ourselves.  We need to work on not caring what other people think and constantly comparing by “adding up points”.

48. 10 T HINGS I L OVE A BOUT M E Your assignment is to list the TOP TEN things you love about yourself! Whenever you catch yourself saying something negative, look at this list and say all ten things out loud! Replace your bad habit with a good one!