1. Chapter FIVE: Employing Interdependence
COUN 2: College Success Strategies
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Chapter FIVE: Employing Interdependence
Quiz,
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2. COUN 2: College Success Strategies
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Homework
Note: No late assignments will be accepted.
Professor Michael Ngo

3. COUN 2: College Success Strategies
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Quiz Time
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4. COUN 2: College Success Strategies
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Ice Breaker
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5. Employing Interdependence
COUN 2: College Success Strategies
4/27/2017
Employing Interdependence
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6. Four Ways of Relating to Others
COUN 2: College Success Strategies
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Four Ways of Relating to Others
Dependence
“I can’t achieve my goals by myself.”
Codependence
“I have to help other people get their goals before I can pursue my own goals.”
Independence
“By working hard, I can get some of what I want all by myself.”
Interdependence
“I know I can get some of what I want by working along, but I’ll accomplish more and have more fun if I give and receive help.”
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7. Describe what you see?

8. Describe what you see?

9. Describe what you see?

10. Creating a Support Network
Seek help from your instructors
Get help from college resources
Academic
Financial
Personal
Health
Career
Social
Create a TEAM!

11. How to listen actively Step 1: Listen to understand
To fully understand
Step 2: Clear your mind and remain silent
Don’t be distracted by your Inner Critic & Defender
Step 3: Ask the person to expand or clarify
Get additional information
Step 4: Reflect the other person’s thoughts and feelings
Restate and verify

12. Ineffective Communication
COUN 2: College Success Strategies
4/27/2017
Ineffective Communication
Placate
Blame
Level
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13. Ineffective Communication
COUN 2: College Success Strategies
4/27/2017
Ineffective Communication
Placating
“It’s okay if you don’t help with our project in sociology. I’ll just do the project myself.”
“Please don’t be upset with me. I’ll drive your friends to the airport and study for my math test later.”
“I’m sorry. I should have cleaned up the mess from the party last night. I’ll do it right now.”
Professor Michael Ngo

14. Ineffective Communication
COUN 2: College Success Strategies
4/27/2017
Ineffective Communication
Blaming
“You never do anything to help our study team. You’re just lazy!”
“This room is a mess! When do you plan to start doing your share of the work around here?”
“My sociology instructor gives unfair tests! He thinks he can ask questions about anything that we were supposed to read for homework.”
Professor Michael Ngo

15. Effective Communication
COUN 2: College Success Strategies
4/27/2017
Effective Communication
Leveling
“I know you’re got a lot of work to do tonight. Could we spend just ten minutes cleaning up this mess together?
“Before I can help you with your paper, I need to finish studying for a test. How about if you help me review tonight and I’ll work with you on your paper tomorrow afternoon?”
Professor Michael Ngo

16. COUN 2: College Success Strategies
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Applying the Concept
“I was really upset when you and your friends came in at three o’clock last night, laughing and yelling. I have to leave for work at 6 a.m. and I need my sleep. Would you agree to never do that again?”
“Don’t worry about waking me up last night. I know you enjoy partying with your friends. I’ll just go to work sleepy. If I get fired, I can probably find another job.”
Leveling
Placating
Professor Michael Ngo

17. COUN 2: College Success Strategies
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Applying the Concept
“You are such a jerk! You never show respect for anyone. Why in the world would you be yelling and slamming stuff around at three o'clock in the morning?! Man, you make me sick!”
“Professor Hartley, I had a couple of questions about my failing grade on the test, and I'd like to make an appointment to discuss those with you. Would tomorrow morning during your office hours be a good time? Say 9:30?”
Placating
Leveling
Professor Michael Ngo

18. COUN 2: College Success Strategies (9.0)
4/27/2017
Preparation Time
This is your time to prepare your presentation
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19. COUN 2: College Success Strategies
4/27/2017
Homework
Journal 17 – page 150
Journal 19 – page 161
Read Wise Choices in College
Rehearsing and Memorizing Study Materials – page 165
Journals for 5th edition only:
16, 18
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20. COUN 2: College Success Strategies
4/27/2017
Study Guide
Dependence, Codependence, Independence and Interdependence
OPB
Active listening
Placate, Blame and Level
Professor Michael Ngo