1. Chapter 10: The Son Feraco Search for Human Potential 19 October 2011

2.  “The Son” poses Siddhartha with his greatest challenge yet: how to raise a preadolescent who isn’t beholden to him in any way  He realizes (consciously, at least) that the boy has no connection to him, and therefore no reason to love him  He also realizes that his son will not be happy living with him and Vasudeva Siddhartha

3. Siddhartha  Yet he keeps him there anyway  His desire to save his foolish son from suffering is so great that it causes him to repeat the mistakes of the past – indeed, the same ones his father made with him  Many months pass, and Siddhartha has made no progress  Once again, he has taken an obsessive interest in something, and once again, he’s stagnating

4.  Vasudeva recognizes this and gently nudges him through debate, trying to get Siddhartha to see that even actions taken with the best of intentions can be harmful  When Siddhartha asks him what he would do, the ferryman advocates returning the boy to his old life, where he can continue developing as he once had  It may not be the best choice if you’re trying to protect him, but it’s the logical choice if you don’t want to trap him in the samsara cyle forever Siddhartha

5. Do you really think you have committed your follies in order to spare your son them? Can you then protect your son from Samsara? How? Through instruction, through prayers, through exhortation? My dear friend, have you forgotten that instructive story about Siddhartha, the Brahmin’s son, which you once told me here? Who protected Siddhartha the Samana from Samsara, from sin, greed, and folly? Could his father’s piety, his teacher’s exhortations, his own knowledge, his own seeking, protect him? Which father, which teacher, could prevent him from living his own life, from soiling himself with life, from loading himself with sin, from swallowing the bitter drink himself, from finding his own path? Do you think, my dear friend, that anybody is spared this path? Perhaps your little son, because you would like to see him spared sorrow and pain and disillusionment? But if you were to die ten times for him, you would not alter his destiny in the slightest.

6.  It’s a testament to how badly Siddhartha wants to protect the boy that he still disregards Vasudeva’s advice even though he knows it’s solid  He reflects back on the conversation he had with Kamala about love and stars and falling leaves, and realizes that he can’t help himself Siddhartha

7.  As it so happens, Siddhartha was wrong in Chapter 6 (about oh so many things, actually): he can love, but he doesn’t know how to love appropriately  He only knows how to throw his entire existence at a person, and he’s just going to hopelessly follow this course  He’s determined to leave his heart open because he feels like this sort of desire is necessary… which is why it hurts so badly when he finally gets punched Siddhartha

8.  If anything, his son wants his father to discipline him, to force him to do things, to fill in the blanks for him  Siddhartha may not have wanted strict guidance and doctrine when he was younger, but his son needs it  Instead, by constantly accommodating his son’s worst behavior, Siddhartha dooms any chance he has of connecting with the boy Siddhartha

9.  When push comes to shove, his son stands before him, just as Siddhartha once stood before the Brahmin…but he’s openly defiant, willing to leave without his parent’s consent, while Siddhartha wasn’t  The Brahmin says no without saying no, so Siddhartha refuses his wish without refusing it; in the end, the Brahmin says yes without really acknowledging that Siddhartha requested to leave  Here, the boy shouts that he wants to leave…and Siddhartha, true to (cyclical) form, doesn’t acknowledge it Siddhartha

10.  The next day, he’s stolen the ferryman’s money and stolen across the river in their boat  Vasudeva calmly makes a new boat to use to retrieve the old one (rolling with life’s punches!), and urges Siddhartha to just let the boy go  Siddhartha won’t listen, but everything Vasudeva says – everything he thinks – is true, down to the missing oar  It’s never explicitly stated, but the implication is that the boy broke the oar and tossed it in the river Siddhartha

11.  He pursues his son, but it’s futile…and when his search is over, only Vasudeva remains by his side  Siddhartha was sad to lose Kamala, but this is different: this is devastating  After the life he’s led, and the lessons he hasn’t learned, he kind of deserves what happens here…but we still feel bad for him Siddhartha