1. Unit 3 Introduction Introduction Nowadays, cross-culture marriage has become quite popular in China since the reform and opening policies of the 1980s. However, cultural differences still have negative effect on such marriage. This unit offers examples to illustrate what difficulties these couples face. Also, we can learn some traditional ideas about marriage practiced by different cultures around the world. Nowadays, cross-culture marriage has become quite popular in China since the reform and opening policies of the 1980s. However, cultural differences still have negative effect on such marriage. This unit offers examples to illustrate what difficulties these couples face. Also, we can learn some traditional ideas about marriage practiced by different cultures around the world.

2. I. Section A Marriage Across the Nations Listening passage for pre-reading activities (See p99, Teacher ’ s Book ) Listening passage for pre-reading activities (See p99, Teacher ’ s Book )

3. Detailed study of the text 1.Gail and I imagined a quiet wedding. (Para. 1) 1.Gail and I imagined a quiet wedding. (Para. 1) Meaning: Gail and I planned to have (or: thought about having) a wedding without many people or without much activity. Meaning: Gail and I planned to have (or: thought about having) a wedding without many people or without much activity. imagine: vt. imagine: vt. + n./pron./v.-ing/n.+v-ing + n./pron./v.-ing/n.+v-ing

4. 我们希望不久的将来会有一个安静的校园。 我们希望不久的将来会有一个安静的校园。 We imagine a quiet campus in the near future. We imagine a quiet campus in the near future. 很难想象生活在一个没有现代通讯设备的地方 会是什么样子。 很难想象生活在一个没有现代通讯设备的地方 会是什么样子。 It ’ s hard to imagine living where there are no modern communication devices. It ’ s hard to imagine living where there are no modern communication devices. 我不能想象鲁滨逊竟然在孤岛上生活了那末多 年。 我不能想象鲁滨逊竟然在孤岛上生活了那末多 年。 I can ’ t imagine Robinson living on that lonely island for so many years. I can ’ t imagine Robinson living on that lonely island for so many years.

5. 2. … we had experienced the usual ups and downs of a couple learning to know, understand, and respect each other.(Para.1) Meaning: Like any other couples who were learning to know, understand, and respect each other, we had had both happy and unhappy periods. Meaning: Like any other couples who were learning to know, understand, and respect each other, we had had both happy and unhappy periods.

6. ups and downs: a mix of good experiences and bad experiences ups and downs: a mix of good experiences and bad experiences 人生充满了欢乐与痛苦。 人生充满了欢乐与痛苦。 Life is full of ups and downs. Life is full of ups and downs. 中美关系经历了很多阴晴圆缺。 中美关系经历了很多阴晴圆缺。 There have been many ups and downs in the history of the relations between the US and China. There have been many ups and downs in the history of the relations between the US and China.

7. 3. … had honestly confronted the weaknesses and strengths of each other ’ s characters. Meaning: … had honestly faced and tried to deal with the weak sides and good sides of each other ’ s characters. Meaning: … had honestly faced and tried to deal with the weak sides and good sides of each other ’ s characters. weaknesses and strengths: weak points and strong points. weaknesses and strengths: weak points and strong points. 了解自己的优缺点很重要。 了解自己的优缺点很重要。 It ’ s very important to know your own weaknesses and strengths. It ’ s very important to know your own weaknesses and strengths.

8. 4. … tolerance, compromise, and being open with each other. (Para. 2) tolerance: [u] 1) 宽容 2 ）忍耐力 tolerance: [u] 1) 宽容 2 ）忍耐力 这种文化里，绝不容许持有异议。 这种文化里，绝不容许持有异议。 There is absolutely no tolerance of disagreement in the culture. There is absolutely no tolerance of disagreement in the culture. 在东北住久了的人会很耐寒。 在东北住久了的人会很耐寒。 One will develop great tolerance of cold if he/she has lived in the northeast of China for a long time. One will develop great tolerance of cold if he/she has lived in the northeast of China for a long time.

9. open: willing to talk honestly, frankly open: willing to talk honestly, frankly 他是个很坦诚的人。 他是个很坦诚的人。 He is a very frank and open person. He is a very frank and open person. 谈判双方都不够坦诚，于是达成协议的可 能性很小。 谈判双方都不够坦诚，于是达成协议的可 能性很小。 There is little possibility of reaching an agreement since both sides are not open enough to each other. There is little possibility of reaching an agreement since both sides are not open enough to each other.

10. 5. Gail sometimes wondered why I and other blacks were so involved with the racial issue. (Para. 2) Meaning: Gail sometimes expressed a wish to know why I and other blacks gave so much time, energy and attention to the racial issue. Meaning: Gail sometimes expressed a wish to know why I and other blacks gave so much time, energy and attention to the racial issue. be/get involved with: give a lot of time, effort, or attention to … 热衷于， 专心致志与 be/get involved with: give a lot of time, effort, or attention to … 热衷于， 专心致志与 他专心致志地制订计划。 他专心致志地制订计划。 He was involved with working out a plan. He was involved with working out a plan.

11. 6. Gail and I had no illusions about what the future held for us as a married, mixed couple in America. (Para. 3) Meaning: Gail and I were not idealistic about what the future would offer us in American as a married couple, one being black and the other being white. Meaning: Gail and I were not idealistic about what the future would offer us in American as a married couple, one being black and the other being white. illusion: n. [c] a false idea, belief or impression illusion: n. [c] a false idea, belief or impression 事实上，永远年轻只是人们的幻想而已。 事实上，永远年轻只是人们的幻想而已。 In fact, to be young forever is only one ’ s illusion. In fact, to be young forever is only one ’ s illusion.

12. be under the illusion: believe wrongly be under the illusion: believe wrongly 误以为 误以为 E.g. 我们都 误以为这个国家经济状况良好, 但 实际上它正处于严重的困难之中. E.g. 我们都 误以为这个国家经济状况良好, 但 实际上它正处于严重的困难之中. We are all under the illusion that the country is doing well economically, but in fact it is in serious difficulty. We are all under the illusion that the country is doing well economically, but in fact it is in serious difficulty.

13. 7. … our mutual trust and respect. (Para. 3) mutual: a. mutual: a. 1)felt or done by each to the other 1)felt or done by each to the other 相互的 相互的 E.g. 我们的合作应建立在相互尊重，相 互信任，相互理解的基础上。 E.g. 我们的合作应建立在相互尊重，相 互信任，相互理解的基础上。 Our cooperation should be based on mutual respect, trust and understanding. Our cooperation should be based on mutual respect, trust and understanding. 2)shared by two or more people 共同的 2)shared by two or more people 共同的 E.g. I and Jane met through a mutual friend. E.g. I and Jane met through a mutual friend.

14. 8. to make everything work out right. (Para. 4) work out: 1) have as a result, turn out, happen or progress in a certain way. 结果为 ; 按某种方式发展 结果为 ; 按某种方式发展 E.g. 如果你耐心点, 事情会有个圆满结果的. E.g. 如果你耐心点, 事情会有个圆满结果的. Things will work out well if you will just be patient. Things will work out well if you will just be patient. 2) find by reasoning or figuring 推算出 2) find by reasoning or figuring 推算出 E.g. 警察查不出賊是怎样进入那幢建筑物的. E.g. 警察查不出賊是怎样进入那幢建筑物的. The police couldn ’ t work out how the thieves had entered the building. The police couldn ’ t work out how the thieves had entered the building.

15. 9. … going through a bitter and painful divorce. go through: experience go through: experience E.g. 伊拉克经历了太多的战争. E.g. 伊拉克经历了太多的战争. Iraq has gone through too many wars. Iraq has gone through too many wars. 历尽千辛万苦 go through hardships 历尽千辛万苦 go through hardships divorce: n. / vi. / vt. divorce: n. / vi. / vt. E.g. 许多婚姻以离婚告终. E.g. 许多婚姻以离婚告终. Many marriages end in divorce. Many marriages end in divorce. It ’ s unfortunate that his parents got divorced. It ’ s unfortunate that his parents got divorced. It is difficult to divorce economics from politics. It is difficult to divorce economics from politics.

16. 10. … for a time had a negative effect on budding relationship. (Para.4) Meaning: For a certain time (their divorce) had a bad effect on our relationship that had just begun to develop. Meaning: For a certain time (their divorce) had a bad effect on our relationship that had just begun to develop. for a time: for a certain period; temporarily for a time: for a certain period; temporarily e.g. 她一度当过警察. e.g. 她一度当过警察. She was a policewoman for a time. She was a policewoman for a time.

17. 11. … she met with some resistance. meet with sth.: experience sth. meet with sth.: experience sth. meet with sb.: see sb. by chance meet with sb.: see sb. by chance e.g. 在网上冲浪时我遇到了一些困难. e.g. 在网上冲浪时我遇到了一些困难. I met with some difficulties in surfing the net. I met with some difficulties in surfing the net. I dreamed of meeting with Saddam Hussein.. I dreamed of meeting with Saddam Hussein..

18. 12. Her mother, Deborah, all along had been supportive of our relationship … (Para. 5) all along: throughout a period of time all along: throughout a period of time e.g. 实情我始终是知道的. e.g. 实情我始终是知道的. I knew the truth all along. I knew the truth all along. I suspected all along that she was lying. I suspected all along that she was lying.

19. 13. … counseled Gail to be really sure she was doing the right thing. (Para. 5) 中译 : 劝盖尔想想清楚自己的决定是否正确. 中译 : 劝盖尔想想清楚自己的决定是否正确. counsel: vt. 1)advise counsel: vt. 1)advise 2)give advice and support to 2)give advice and support to counsel sb. to do; counsel sth.; counsel sb. to do; counsel sth.; counsel sb. counsel sb. e.g. 她建议我不要换工作. e.g. 她建议我不要换工作. She counseled me not to change my job. She counseled me not to change my job. 我的朋友建议要谨慎. 我的朋友建议要谨慎. My friend counseled caution. My friend counseled caution. The college is now providing a service to counsel students with careers. The college is now providing a service to counsel students with careers.

20. 14. Gail subsequently told me … (Para.6) subsequently:ad. afterwards 后来 subsequently:ad. afterwards 后来 consequently: ad. as a result 结果 consequently: ad. as a result 结果 E.g. 这所旧学校被买下来后改建成了私人住宅. E.g. 这所旧学校被买下来后改建成了私人住宅. The old school was sold and subsequently turned into a private house. The old school was sold and subsequently turned into a private house. 他们增加了人手, 于是服务提升了. 他们增加了人手, 于是服务提升了. They ’ ve increased the number of staff and consequently the service is better. They ’ ve increased the number of staff and consequently the service is better.

21. 15. … I harbored reservations about a mixed marriage, prejudices you might even call them. (Para. 7) Meaning: I had doubts whether a marriage between a white and a black would work out well, which you might even call prejudices. Meaning: I had doubts whether a marriage between a white and a black would work out well, which you might even call prejudices. harbored reservations: 持怀疑态度. harbored reservations: 持怀疑态度. 那女孩依然抱着出国的念头. 那女孩依然抱着出国的念头. The girl still harbors the idea of going abroad. The girl still harbors the idea of going abroad. 我对他说的不大相信. 我对他说的不大相信. I have some reservations about his story. I have some reservations about his story.

22. 16. We ’ ve seen each other at our worst many times. (Para. 8) Meaning: We have had many times when we behaved as unpleasantly as possible towards each other. Meaning: We have had many times when we behaved as unpleasantly as possible towards each other. 汉译 : 我们彼此已很多次看到对方最糟糕的一面. 汉译 : 我们彼此已很多次看到对方最糟糕的一面. at one ’ s worst: when one is behaving as unpleasantly as possible. at one ’ s worst: when one is behaving as unpleasantly as possible. 当她脾气最坏时, 对谁都冒火. 当她脾气最坏时, 对谁都冒火. When she was at her worst, she was to be angry at anyone. When she was at her worst, she was to be angry at anyone.

23. 17. … time will only confirm what we feel deeply about each other. (Para. 8) Meaning: Our deep love of each other will be supported by the truth of facts in the future. Meaning: Our deep love of each other will be supported by the truth of facts in the future. 汉译 : 时间会证明我们彼此深爱着对方. 汉译 : 时间会证明我们彼此深爱着对方. confirm:vt. confirm:vt. 1)show that sth. is definitely true. 1)show that sth. is definitely true. 2) make(a plan or meeting) certain, often by telephone or writing. 2) make(a plan or meeting) certain, often by telephone or writing. e.g. Medical examination has confirmed that she hasn ’ t been infected with SARS. e.g. Medical examination has confirmed that she hasn ’ t been infected with SARS. I would like to confirm the air ticket to London. I would like to confirm the air ticket to London.

24. 18. … when he learned of my problems. (Para. 10) learn of: find out about sth. learn of: find out about sth. e.g. 得知此事时, 已经太迟了. e.g. 得知此事时, 已经太迟了. It was too late to learn of it. It was too late to learn of it. 我昨天才听说这次事故. 我昨天才听说这次事故. I only learned of the accident yesterday. I only learned of the accident yesterday.

25. 19. But you have to be realistic. (Para. 17) realistic:a. 现实的 realistic:a. 现实的 c.f. idealistic: a. 理想化的 c.f. idealistic: a. 理想化的 她对我们成败的机会作了一个现时的估 计. 她对我们成败的机会作了一个现时的估 计. She gave us a realistic estimate of our chances. She gave us a realistic estimate of our chances. 你的计划不切实际的. 你的计划不切实际的. Your plan is idealistic. Your plan is idealistic.

26. 20. … it ’ s never too late to change your mind. (Para. 21) Meaning: You can change your mind any time, however soon or late. Meaning: You can change your mind any time, however soon or late. never too … to do: never too … to do: 活到老, 学到老. 活到老, 学到老. One is never too old to learn. One is never too old to learn. 亡羊补牢, 未为晚也. 亡羊补牢, 未为晚也. It is never too late to mend. It is never too late to mend.

27. II. Section B Reading skills: Reading skills: 1. Remind the students of the definitions of a fact and an opinion since these skills were learned in Book 1. 1. Remind the students of the definitions of a fact and an opinion since these skills were learned in Book 1. 2. Strengthen the skill by practice. 2. Strengthen the skill by practice. Detailed study of the text Detailed study of the text

28. 1. … I came up with a brilliant plan. (Para. 1) come up with: think of and suggest (an idea, plan, etc.) come up with: think of and suggest (an idea, plan, etc.) 他答不上来。 他答不上来。 He can ’ t come up with an answer. He can ’ t come up with an answer. 小男孩想出了一个绝妙的主意。 小男孩想出了一个绝妙的主意。 The little boy came up with a brilliant idea. The little boy came up with a brilliant idea.

29. 2. … and win her over. (Para. 1) win … over: persuade sb. to support or agree with you win … over: persuade sb. to support or agree with you 虽然作了很大努力，他还是没能争取到她 支持他的观点。 虽然作了很大努力，他还是没能争取到她 支持他的观点。 In spite of his great effort, he failed in winning her over to his point of view. In spite of his great effort, he failed in winning her over to his point of view.

30. 3. Expressions for kitchen work to cube the vegetables/meat to cube the vegetables/meat to slice the bread to slice the bread to chop onions to chop onions

31. 4. I had seen her expression when she opened the door, her forced smile as she surveyed him form head to toe, checking her judgment of him against that already given to her by Auntie Suyuan. (Para. 5) Meaning: When she opened the door I had seen her face with an unnatural smile while she carefully looked at Rich all over his body. By doing so she tried to make sure whether her judgment of Rich was in agreement with what she had learned about Rich from Auntie Suyuan. Meaning: When she opened the door I had seen her face with an unnatural smile while she carefully looked at Rich all over his body. By doing so she tried to make sure whether her judgment of Rich was in agreement with what she had learned about Rich from Auntie Suyuan.

32. 5. forced smile Meaning: unwilling and unnatural smile Meaning: unwilling and unnatural smile Similar expressions: Similar expressions: forced laughter forced laughter a forced landing 迫降 a forced landing 迫降

33. 6. head to toe Meaning: over the whole length of one ’ s body Meaning: over the whole length of one ’ s body e.g. 她全身上下都穿着黑衣服。 e.g. 她全身上下都穿着黑衣服。 She was dressed in black from head to toe. She was dressed in black from head to toe. 他们把我从头到脚打量了一番。 他们把我从头到脚打量了一番。 They looked me over from head to toe. They looked me over from head to toe.

34. 7. … he was also my junior Meaning: … he was also young than me. Meaning: … he was also young than me. junior: n. sb. Younger junior: n. sb. Younger 她比他小五岁。 她比他小五岁。 She is five years his junior. She is five years his junior. She is his junior by five years. She is his junior by five years.

35. 8. He was a bit on the short side, compactly built. (Para. 6) Meaning: He was a little too short and had a small, but well-shaped body. Meaning: He was a little too short and had a small, but well-shaped body. On the … side: rather, a little too … On the … side: rather, a little too … 这幢房子不错，但价格高了点。 这幢房子不错，但价格高了点。 This is a nice house, but the price is a bit on the high side. This is a nice house, but the price is a bit on the high side. 天气有点凉。 天气有点凉。 The weather is on the cold side. The weather is on the cold side.

36. 9. I could feel the goose bumps rise on my back. (Para.9) Meaning: I was so disappointed that I could feel the tiny lumps or thick or hard raised areas on my back. 背上起鸡皮疙 瘩。 Meaning: I was so disappointed that I could feel the tiny lumps or thick or hard raised areas on my back. 背上起鸡皮疙 瘩。 Goose bumps: 鸡皮疙瘩 Goose bumps: 鸡皮疙瘩 你在感到冷时，害怕时， 或激动时会起鸡 皮疙瘩。 你在感到冷时，害怕时， 或激动时会起鸡 皮疙瘩。 You get goose lumps when you are cold, frightened, or excited. You get goose lumps when you are cold, frightened, or excited.

37. 10. But before we could be so diplomatic, … (Para. 17) Meaning: But before we could say something skillfully to please my mother, … Meaning: But before we could say something skillfully to please my mother, … Diplomatic: a. 1)skillful in or artful in dealing with people Diplomatic: a. 1)skillful in or artful in dealing with people 很巧妙的答复 很巧妙的答复 a diplomatic answer a diplomatic answer 2) of or about the profession, activity, or skill of managing international relations 2) of or about the profession, activity, or skill of managing international relations 外交关系 外交关系 Diplomatic relations Diplomatic relations

38. 11. And he proceeded to pour a riverful of the salty black stuff on the china plate, right before my mother ’ s shocked eyes. (Para. 17) Meaning: After saying that, he poured a lot of soy sauce on the china plate just in front of my mother, which shocked my mother. Meaning: After saying that, he poured a lot of soy sauce on the china plate just in front of my mother, which shocked my mother. stuff: n. things such as matter, a group of things, events, or ideas, or the contents of sth. in a general way without mentioning the thing itself by name. stuff: n. things such as matter, a group of things, events, or ideas, or the contents of sth. in a general way without mentioning the thing itself by name.

39. 12. stuff: n. 今天太多事情要做了。 今天太多事情要做了。 There is too much stuff for today. There is too much stuff for today. 这盘子上有些白色的东西。 这盘子上有些白色的东西。 There is some white stuff on the plate. There is some white stuff on the plate.

40. 13. … I think we hit it off A-OK. (Para. 19) Meaning:... I think we got along very well. Meaning:... I think we got along very well. hit it off: enjoy good relations or get along very well. hit it off: enjoy good relations or get along very well. 我和他相处得很好。 我和他相处得很好。 He and I hit it off well with each other. He and I hit it off well with each other. 不幸的是，他和经理处得不好。 不幸的是，他和经理处得不好。 Unfortunately, he and his manager didn ’ t hit it off. Unfortunately, he and his manager didn ’ t hit it off.

41. III. Listening and Speaking Choose one conversation and one passage to listen in class Choose one conversation and one passage to listen in class Discuss: How to overcome cultural barriers against cross-culture marriage. Discuss: How to overcome cultural barriers against cross-culture marriage. 1) Describe a cross-culture marriage which you know about. 1) Describe a cross-culture marriage which you know about. 2) Suppose you are going to have a cross- culture marriage, how would you deal with the cultural differences? 2) Suppose you are going to have a cross- culture marriage, how would you deal with the cultural differences?