1. School Violence Awareness How to Stop Bullying?

2. How to Stop Bullying §The Victim §The Bystander §The Bully

3. The Victim - Do §Always tell an adult: l Hard to talk about serious things with adults l Adults can help put a stop to bullying l Tell an adult that you trust and can talk to: Parents Teacher School counselor Coach Nneighbor

4. The Victim - Do §So, you've told a grown-up and they haven't done anything  TELL SOMEONE ELSE §Get another person to go with you for support: l A friend l A sister l A brother

5. The Victim - Do §Tell exactly what has happened: l Who did the bullying l Where and when it happened l How long it's been happening l How it's making you feel

6. The Victim - Do §Ask the adult what they will do to help stop the bullying §It is the adult’s job to help keep you safe §Most adults really care about bullying §Most will do everything they can to help

7. The Victim - Do §Stay in a group l Bullies like to pick on kids who are by themselves a lot l It's easier l They're more likely to get away it l Don’t be an easy "target“ l Have others around to help you

8. The Victim - Do §Stand up to the person who is bullying you §He might back off §Don’t fight §Tell the person bullying you that you don't like it and that they should stop §Keep it simple §Then walk away

9. The Victim - Do §If you are being bullied online, don't reply §This may actually make the bullying worse §Tell a family member or another adult §Block any more communications §Only to accept messages from people you know §Save evidence of the bullying §Print out or save a nasty e-mail

10. The Victim – Don’t §Think it's your fault - nobody deserves to be bullied §Fight back or bully another person back §Won't make things any better §Might get you into big trouble §You want to act better than the bully

11. The Victim – Don’t §Keep it to yourself §Hope the bullying will go away §It's normal to want to ignore bullying §Bullying don't stop until adults and other kids get involved

12. The Victim – Don’t §Skip school or avoid clubs or sports §Missing out on school or activities that you enjoy isn't the answer §You have a right to be there §Think that you're a tattle tale if you tell §Telling is NOT tattling §It's the right thing to do

13. The Victim – Don’t §Hurt yourself §Some kids get so sad and depressed that they may try to hurt themselves §They think there is nothing else they can do §This definitely isn't the answer §Talk with an adult immediately and tell them how you are feeling §They can help stop the bullying

14. The Bystander §Report the bullying to an adult §It's the right thing to do and it's not tattling §Who should you tell? l Teacher l School counselor or nurse l Parents l Coach l Any adult you feel comfortable talking with

15. The Bystander §Ask a friend to go along with you §Tell the adult exactly what happened l Who was bullied l Who did the bullying l Where and when it happened §If you're not sure if another kid is being bullied but you think they probably are – it's good to report that, too

16. The Bystander §Most adults really care about bullying and will be VERY glad that you told them §If you told an adult and you don't think they did anything about the bullying (or if it isn't getting any better), find another adult to tell

17. The Bystander §Support someone who is being bullied §Just be there for him or her and be a friend §Walk home after school §Sitting together on the bus or at lunch §Include him or her in school activities §Spend some time with him or her §Understand what he or she is going through §Show that you care about him or her and the problems he or she is facing

18. The Bystander §Stand up to the person doing the bullying: l Tell the bully that what he or she is doing is wrong l Tell the bully that he or she should stop l Keep it simple l Get some friends to join you l They are more likely to stop if it's not cool l Don't bully them back l It's not easy to stand up to kids who may be bigger and stronger than you or really popular l Be sure to tell an adult

19. The Bully §If you are hurting or threatening others in some way §If you are using your size, strength or popularity to do it §If you do it repeatedly and often §You're probably bullying someone

20. The Bully §Hurting and making others feel bad is NEVER cool §Admitting that you are doing things to harm others takes some guts §Trying to find out what you should do to change the way you're acting §That's a step in the right direction

21. The Bully §Think about what you're doing and how it affects others §You may have forgotten what it feels like to be hurt yourself l Calling others names l Pushing, hitting or stealing is funny l Teasing, hitting, keeping others out of a group

22. The Bully §So the next time you are about to bully someone: l Put yourself in their shoes l Think about how it must make them feel l And just don't do it §Talk to an adult

23. Ask the Experts – Web Links §Ask The Experts: Middle and High School Students in MontanaAsk The Experts: Middle and High School Students in Montana §Ask The Experts: Questions About What To Do When You See BullyingAsk The Experts: Questions About What To Do When You See Bullying §Ask The Experts: Questions From Girls About BullyingAsk The Experts: Questions From Girls About Bullying §Ask The Experts: Questions From Boys About BullyingAsk The Experts: Questions From Boys About Bullying

24. Conclusion/Summary §http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/kids/ what-can-you-do.aspx