1. Love Marriage and Family Ties: Intergenerational Patterns in Genograms Presented by Rita DeMaria, Ph.D. Council for Relationships July 9, 2009 Smart Marriages Happy Families Orlando, Florida

2. Love, Marriage and Family Ties All family members are connected How to identify needed personal and relationship changes Begin a process of discovery and growth

3. Love, Marriage and Family Ties Increase awareness of how relationship patterns are transmitted through time as family legacies Increase empathy for self and partner’s needs, issues, and vulnerabilities Depersonalize current relationship struggles, facilitate problem solving and resolution, and promote loving care

4. The Purpose of Marriage “To enrich and enliven the life of the other” “a crucible to transform the two” These require knowledge of self/other and capacity and willingness to be a loving partner committed to responding to unmet needs and cultivating growth and responsiveness

5. 5 Types of Focused Genograms Connections and Cutoff My Mother, My Father, Myself Legacy of Love His/Her Story Traumas and Tragedies

6. Connections and Cutoffs Exploring patterns of closeness Handling life challenges through connection or disconnection Family secrets are often covered by disconnections and cut-offs

7. My Mother, My Father, Myself Exploring the importance of our Mothers and Fathers Relationships with the same sex parent Gender Roles: Husband, Father, Man; Wife, Mother, Woman

8. Legacies of Love Exploring patterns of love and marriage Time Lines are helpful

9. His/Her Story Exploring family legacies from the past Understanding our heritage Historical events help you gain awareness Repetition of patterns across generations

10. Traumas and Tragedies Exploring the impact of losses and challenges Big “T” traumas Little “t” traumas

11. Workshop Format Introduction of the genogram construction Sample genogram Exercise for each genogram 1.Genogram Format 2.Time Line 3.Reflection Questions 4.Action Plan

12. The Workshop Process The Focused Genogram The Reflection The Time Line The Action Plan

13. My Mother My Father My Self Presentation Exercise

14. Love Marriage and Family Ties is available as a TOOB

15. Thank you for your attendance For more information contact Rita DeMaria, Ph.D. www.marriagedoctor.com www.marriagedoctor.com marriagedoctor@aol.com 215-628-2450