2.  While sitting at lunch with your friends everyone starts making fun of another friend.  How do you feel..  What do you do.. ◦ Join in.. ◦ Step in..

3.  Pressure ◦ pushed toward making a certain choice.  A Peer ◦ is someone in your own age group.  Peer Pressure ◦ someone your own age, is pushing you toward making a certain choice

4.  Spoken vs. Unspoken Spoken: Something said to you directly Unspoken: When you feel you are supposed to do something

5.  Sometime the pressure we put on ourselves can be the hardest!!

6.  Examples of Positive pressures Honor Roll Make a team/club Follow the rules Respect others Exercise groups Group Fitness Running group

7.  Examples of Negative pressures Underage drinking/smoking Gossiping Stealing Fighting Bullying Ditching a friend

8.  I …. … want to be accepted and liked by people my own age. … am afraid of being rejected … don’t want to lose a friend … want to appear grown up … don’t want to be made fun of … don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings … am not sure of what they really want … don’t know how to get out of the situation

9. PUT DOWN  Insulting or name calling to make someone feel bad  (Spoken Pressure)

10. REASONING  Giving reasons to do something or why it would be OK  (Spoken pressure)

11. REJECTION  Threatening to leave someone out or end a friendship  (spoken pressure)

12. THE HUDDLE  A GROUP STANDS TOGETHER LAUGHING OR TALKING, WITH THEIR BACKS TO OTHERS  (UNSPOKEN)

13. The EXAMPLE  Popular kids simply buy or wear something, because they set an example, others want to follow  (unspoken)

14. THE LOOK  Kids who think they’re cool give a look that means: we’re cool, and you’re not”  (Unspoken pressure)

15.  S.T.O.P.  Stay calm  Tell why not  Offer other ideas  Promptly leave

16.  “Everyone’s Doing it” “You’re wrong… I’m not doing it”  “A real friend would do it” “A real friend wouldn't ask” “Are you afraid?” “No, just smart”

17.  Aggressive:  Overly forceful, pushy, hostile  Passive Giving up, giving in, backing down, easy to persuade.  Assertive  Confidence and clearly stating your intentions