2. After a tough day, you and your friend Jenna go out to dinner. The food is good, the service is fast, and the conversation is going really well. You are just about to ask for the check when Jenna asks if you can stay for another cup of coffee. When you ask if everything is okay, she shares that her boyfriend has been assaulting her and she doesn’t want to go home.

3.  “Wow! Did you try to get away? Did you fight back?”  “That’s awful. Probably best to forget it and move on.”  “What?! That scum bag! I’m gonna make him wish he was never born.”  “Seriously! Get in the car. We’ve got to get you to the police.”

4.  Don’t cause additional distress  Don’t IGNITE don’t Imply that the victim was responsible don’t Get angry don’t be Narcissistic. This is not about you don’t Ignore the victim’s distress don’t Take control from the victim don’t Expect victims to cope with trauma like you would

5.  Do HELP Help Empower Listen Provide

6.  Do HELP Be supportive, you could be the first person the victim tells ○ Make it clear that it is not the victim’s fault ○ Make it clear that you believe the victim Be patient and listen with an open mind Remind the victim that he/she is not alone Empower the victim to make decisions about next steps

7.  Do HELP Discuss options, but let the victim make the decision Resources ○ PSU Police (814) 863-1111 ○ State College Police: (814) 234-7150 ○ Ambulance (911) ○ Mt. Nittany Medical Center: (814) 234-6110 ○ Centre County Women’s Resource Center: (877) 234-5050 ○ PSU Sexual Assault/Relationship Violence Hotline: (800) 550-7575) ○ PSU Counseling and Psychological Services: (814) 234-7929 ○ University Health Services Advice Nurse: (814) 863-4463

8. Penn Staters Researching Interventions for Social Misconduct Thank you for your help making Penn State fun and safe for everyone!