Presentation on theme: "Coaching Self and Others David Birch Ashridge Consulting"— Presentation transcript:
1 Coaching Self and Others David Birch Ashridge Consulting
2 What is coaching?Creating the conditions for something new to come into being...Requires that we slow down and bear uncertainty in order to create a future and respond flexiblyIs a joint discovery with the coach sitting alongside their clientChange happens in the room when the coach offers genuine openness, support, courage and curiosity
3 Coaching works at three levels HEADHEARTWILLWhat do I understand?What do I feel?What do I intend to do?
4 Powerful questions shift the nature of the future What is the story I keep telling about the problems around here?What is my attachment to this story costing me?What is the crossroads I face at this stage in the game?How much risk am I willing to take?What is my contribution to the very thing I complain about?What are my doubts and reservations?
5 How am I listening? Critically Compassionately Seeing people as: HostileInadequateSelf-servingAttitude: Blaming“They are wrong/difficult/naïve… or I am”CompassionatelySeeing people as having:FeelingsNeedsValuesAttitude: Empathising“I am curious, want to understand their feelings, needs and values… and my own”
6 A chance to practiceIn pairs decide who is the coach and who is the clientClient tells a story about an unresolved issue involving themselves and another personCoach listens compassionately and asks powerful questionsCoach feeds back - without judgment - what they are picking up about the client’s ‘feelings, needs and values’Review what has changed for coach and client