1. Disciplining of Black African Children 1 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

2. Objectives To understand the views of some African parents regarding discipline. To explore why we should discipline and not punish our children To explore some strategies of disciplining and improving behaviour of our children To bring to light the impact of these strategies on our children 2 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

3. Views about discipline What are your views about discipline? 3 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

4. Discipline not Punish Effective discipline begins with a true understanding of the difference between punishment and discipline. Punishment is a negative consequence for inappropriate behavior. Punishment paints the parent as a harsh dictator rather than as a respected authority. 4 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

5. Discipline not Punish Discipline looks forward to the future If we as parents discover ways to teach our children without demeaning them, yelling at them or hitting them, we create space to empower them to learn how to amend an error with penalty but without violence. (Harriette Cole)Harriette Cole 5 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

6. Discipline not Punish Discipline deals with bad behavior by teaching the child why their behavior is unacceptable while also teaching them self-control. When a parent shows control over their emotions, it teaches the child that they are capable of doing the same. Discipline should be positive and emphasize what the child should do instead of focusing on what they shouldnt. Discipline works best when it is memorable and incorporates a lesson. 6 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

7. Ways to improve behaviour 7 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

8. Parenting Pyramid Where on the pyramid should each of the following be placed and why? Discipline Family rules Special time Praise and rewards 8 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

9. Parenting Pyramid Special time Praise and reward Family rules Discipline Use in abundance Use selectively Your child's behaviour Does a better job than criticism. 9 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

10. Special Time What is special time and why do our children need it? How can we as black parents give our children this? What good could special time do for your child? What will make it hard to give special time? 10 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

11. Praise and reward Giving praise and encouragement to our children is vital for their confidence and self esteem. Praise does a far better job than criticism and builds confidence and self respect. 11 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

12. Principles of Praise Do it immediately Label the good behaviour Be consistent Combine verbal praise with physical affection Try and find something daily Really mean it!! 12 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

13. Family Rules Rules are important and help us know what is expected of us. It encourages responsibility and respect. Children behave well and feel secure because they know their boundaries. Simple rules for the whole family To be discussed and accepted by everyone in the family Do you keep the same rules forever? 13 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

14. Family Agreement Write five rules the whole family will agree and adhere to What will you do to get these established at home? 14 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

15. Discipline The soft No-spoken with authority and firmly Give a choice- help children to see there are good and bad outcomes to how they behave Loss of privileges- it has to be something that matters to the child; otherwise it wont work. This is particularly good with older children. 15 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

16. Discipline Choose 3 situations that apply to your family Which strategies could you use? Hitting another child Throwing food Refusing to stop playing Xbox Not completing homework Returning home late SwearingTantrum in supermarket 16 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

17. Empowerment Points Balance warmth and nurture with firmness and control Balance giving freedom and autonomy with restriction and limits. Positively reinforce all positive behaviours. Use reasoning and explanation when trying to get the child to obey. 17 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

18. Empowerment Points Give children alternate options for behaviours instead of simply saying No. Employ discipline consistently. 18 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo

19. Impact on children Grow to be responsible and disciplined individuals that will help shape the generation to come. Discipline helps to build self-esteem, giving a child the confidence to make better decisions in the future. 19 Prepared and presented by Ola' Okeowo