1. Chapter 12 Consensual Sexual Behavior

2. Quote for the day Making love to a woman is like buying a piece of real estate - location, location, location. - Comedian Carol Leifer

3. Celibacy The conscious decision not to engage in sexual behavior. People may choose celibacy for religious, health, or personal reasons. Lifetime commitment or temporary choice. Celibacy could mean abstaining from all sexual activity or just abstaining from intercourse. In some cultures, it was believed that sexual activity drained away vital energies.

4. Sexual Arousal During Sleep Like fantasy or masturbation, sexual arousal during sleep occurs with great regularity. Men: 2-5 erections a night during REM Women: sexual arousal during REM Nocturnal orgasm experienced by 80% of men and 40% of women. Sexual dreams are common

5. Autoerotic Sexual Activity Sexual Fantasies –Normal –Common –Men: half report erotic thoughts daily –Women: two-thirds report erotic thoughts a few times a week to a few times a month –Fantasies can be used to enhance sexual relations with partner

6. The Sexual Fantasy Top Ten List

8. Autoerotic Sexual Activity Sexual Fantasies –Gender Differences in content of fantasies –Men fantasize about doing something sexual to someone, whereas women tend to fantasize about having something done to them –One study found that group sex was the favorite of men but least often mentioned by women –Acting out a fantasy

9. Autoerotic Sexual Activity Masturbation –People masturbate for pleasure, to release tension or anxiety, to explore their own sexuality –It is not physically, mentally or emotionally harmful. –It is safe sex! –History of condemnation of masturbation –It is one of the most widely practiced but least talked about sexual behaviors.

10. Autoerotic Sexual Activity Masturbation –There are gender differences in the frequency of masturbation. Men masturbate more. –Female masturbation techniques vary widely, whereas males show less variation. –Females use of vibrator Originally developed as treatment for hysteria!

11. Female Masturbation

12. Sex with a Partner Sexual expression involving another person is a type of communication. You need to make your own needs and desires known Sexual technique may not be as important as other aspects of a relationship. There is more to good sex than “technique.”

13. Sex Appeal

14. Sex with a Partner Noncoital Sexual Behavior –Kissing and Hugging Importance of touch Kissing is nearly universal behavior. Not all kissing is sexual. Manual stimulation of the genitals is a frequent noncoital activity.

15. Sex with a Partner Noncoital Sexual Behavior –Kissing and Hugging –Oral-Genital Stimulation Fellatio - oral sex on a male Cunnilingus - oral sex on a female May be done individually or simultaneously (“69”) Most people 18-54 have engaged in oral sex

16. Oral-Genital Sex

17. Sex with a Partner Noncoital Sexual Behavior –Kissing and Hugging –Oral-Genital Stimulation –Anal Sex Penetration, oral, manual stimulation of anus Anal area contains numerous nerve endings Importance of lubrication! Be careful of bacteria

18. Anal Sex

19. Sex with a Partner Coital Sex/Coitus/Sexual Intercourse –Kama sutra identified 529 possible positions –Man-on-Top Position Also called missionary position Most frequently used by heterosexual Provides only indirect stimulation of clitoris

20. Sex with a Partner Coital Sex/Coitus/Sexual Intercourse –Kama sutra identified 529 possible positions –Man-on-Top Position –Women-on-Top Position Woman has greater freedom of movement Better control of penetration, thrusting, tempo Help men with premature ejaculation Facilitates orgasm for woman by allowing direct stimulation of clitoris

21. Sex with a Partner Coital Sex/Coitus/Sexual Intercourse –Kama sutra identified 529 possible positions –Man-on-Top Position –Women-on-Top Position –Rear-Entry Position “doggy style” Most mammals use this position She could be laying down, on her knees, on side, sitting, standing Frees up hands!

22. Sex with a Partner Coital Sex/Coitus/Sexual Intercourse –Kama sutra identified 529 possible positions –Man-on-Top Position –Women-on-Top Position –Rear-Entry Position –Side-to-Side Position Partners face each other Can be difficult to maneuver Allows for greater ejaculatory control

23. Atypical Sexual Behaviors Refers to less typical and uncommon variations of sexual behaviors. What constitutes socially acceptable sexual contact varies not only from culture to culture, but even within a culture from time period to time period. Many words are sued to label atypical sexual behavior most are misleading, judgmental, or stigmatizing.

24. Atypical Sexual Behaviors Fetishism –Sexual arousal by an inanimate article or a nonsexual part of the body. –Possible explanations for how it develops. –In most cases, the fetishist is no danger to others and pursues the use of fetish object in private.

25. Atypical Sexual Behaviors Fetishism Transvestism –is characterized by dressing in the clothing of the opposite sex to obtain sexual pleasure. –Not all cross-dressers are transvestites. –Most are male and began cross-dressing early. –Impact on relationship

26. Atypical Sexual Behaviors Fetishism Transvestism Paraphilias –Recurrent, intense sexual urge and sexually arousing fantasies involving nonhuman objects, the suffering or humiliation of oneself or one’s partner, or children or other nonconsenting persons.

27. Types of Paraphilias

28. Atypical Sexual Behaviors Fetishism Transvestism Paraphilias Sadomasochism (S&M) –Sadism and masochism are forms of consensual sex play that involve pain, bondage, and humiliation –Masochists outnumber sadists 3 or 4 to 1 –Possible explanations/theories