1. Empowering Parents SCIS - 2014 Facilitated by: Anne Gribble, Maz Cox, and Catherine Geisen-Kisch

2. Introducing…Anne! Education Teacher Parent Educator Parent

3. Introducing…Maz! Education Teacher Counselor Coach Parent

4. Our Purpose: Partners with you on the Parenting Road To support you as parents Give ideas/suggestions, share experiences Share some more “tools” for your parenting “tool box” ****You are here because you want to be here. You are open to learning.****

5. Our Schedule: 3:15 – 4:15 PM Wednesdays 1. Topic of the Week 2. Note Cards – Burning Questions and Topic suggestions 3. Handouts

6. Upcoming Topics: May 7 Entitlement: How do I know if my child is spoilt? May 14 RAFT – Preparing to leave SCIS in an emotionally healthy way

7. This week…

8. What is You Can Do It Education? YOU CAN DO IT (YCDI) Education is a platform for the development of positive social and emotional characteristics that promote success.

9. Research and understandings Social and emotional development is not only essential to social and emotional wellbeing but also to a child’s academic achievement (meta analysis of over 2000 studies)

10. The 5 foundations - 5 Keys to success and Happiness Persistence Organization Confidence Getting Along Resilience

16. Rate your child on the 5 keys

17. Key Characters https://teachersh.scis-his.net/hqlscounselor/

18. Give tasks where organization is required Set time frames and work with your child to set time frames Chunking Prioritization Give behavior specific feedback explicitly teach, modeling and reinforce habits of mind - "goal setting" and "planning my time” Be careful not to"rescue” your child by doing their work for them or asking for extension of time. If there is an ongoing concern with homework however, please contact your child’s teacher What can you do to help?

19. Provide social opportunities from a young age ASA, teams, classes, activities, play dates, sleepovers Role model and teach E.g. tolerance, thinking first, social expectations, logical consequences Use the teachable moments with specific feedback “I like the way you shared the book with your sister” Social attributes: honesty, respect, responsibility, fairness, caring, citizenship What can you do to help?

20. Understanding and labeling feelings (Opportunities to experience different feelings) Feelings continuum – down/anxious/angry Thoughts > feelings > actions > consequences Methods to manage emotions – self talk, relaxation, talk to others, exercise catastrophising What can you do to help?

21. Catastrophising

22. Specific feedback – “I know that wasn’t easy but you worked really hard on it Model Success comes from hard work, not luck Working together as a family to achieve a task Discussing characters in books/movies/your family that show persistence Provide tasks where your child will need persistence Encouraging and rewarding See your child’s teacher if your child is working hard but still experiencing difficulty What can you do to help?

23. Provide opportunities for your child to participate in outside school activities that they enjoy and feel successful at Focus on your child’s strengths and communicate your approval to your child. Remember there are many ways of being smart or successful “Catch” your child being successful and use the opportunity to give specific feedback E.g. I like the way you showed confidence when you….” Reward your child when they demonstrate confident behavior Ensure plentiful opportunities for success What can you do to help?

24. Writing sample You Can Do It Education

25. Case studies Johns Story: John rushed home almost in tears. While he was one of the top scorers in the championship basketball game (one of his goals for the season), his team lost by 1 point and he missed the last shot! John moaned to his mother “I’m a real loser, I think I’ll quit the team” Chloe’s Story: Chloe rushed home with two different feelings. You see, her team lost the championship basketball game by 1 point. She felt sad and disappointed for her team and all her team mates. On the other hand, she felt successful. Chloe played for almost 10 minutes and had scored 4 points. This was more minutes than she had ever played and more points than she had ever scored! Her goal had been to score more points in this game. She announced to her mother, “I think I’ll try and make the team again next year.”

26. “Children who achieve consistently high levels of achievement while forming positive relationships and enjoying positive health and well-being have well- developed ways of thinking” (You Can Do It Parent Newsletter) www.youcandoitparents.com

27. Next week: Entitlement: How do I know if my child is spoilt?

28. Thank you for coming! Hope to see you next week! Enjoy your children!