1. Self-Esteem September 2006

2. How to estimate yourself Do I like myself? Do I like myself? Do I think I'm a good human being? Do I think I'm a good human being? Am I someone deserving of love? Am I someone deserving of love? Do I deserve happiness? Do I deserve happiness?

3. How to improve your self-esteem Realise you are not alone in how you feel Realise you are not alone in how you feel You are wonderful, unique & special You are wonderful, unique & special You have a right to make mistakes You have a right to make mistakes Your rights, opinions and ideas are just as valid as anyone else's Your rights, opinions and ideas are just as valid as anyone else's Learn to say no Learn to say no

4. Accentuate the positive Be positive Be positive List 50 things you like about yourself List 50 things you like about yourself

5. Taking criticism People with low self-esteem find it hard to take (and give!) criticism People with low self-esteem find it hard to take (and give!) criticism Try: Try: – listening – agree where possible – ask for clarification – when you're wrong, admit it – Reply gently if criticism is wrong or unfair

6. Giving criticism Use the word 'I', not the word 'you‘ Use the word 'I', not the word 'you‘ Always try to criticise a person's behaviour rather than the person. Always try to criticise a person's behaviour rather than the person.

7. Giving criticism – Pendleton’s Rules What did you do well? What did you do well? What could you have done better? What could you have done better? I think you did this well… I think you did this well… I think you could have improved by… I think you could have improved by…

8. 10 minute technique Give yourself some space Give yourself some space Find 10 minutes to be alone & do nothing Find 10 minutes to be alone & do nothing You can try meditation or just imagine a nice scene & relax You can try meditation or just imagine a nice scene & relax

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