1. Parent as Coach Coaching Kids to be the Best They Can Be In Their Sport, Social Life, and Academics ©Darla Sedlacek, Ph.D. 2010 www.TransformSportandFitness.com

2. Coaching What makes an effective coach? –Gameplan –Short and long term goals –Help athletes form own gameplan –Help athletes buy in to team plan –Motivating –Build strength –Good communication –Practice, practice, practice

3. Warm Up What do you want? Guiding Principles/Subjective goals –Gameplan for you and your child/adolescent –Short and long term –Individual and team –For sport, social life, academics

4. Warm Up cont’d Guiding Principles –Cohesive family –Teamwork –Do your best –Show respect –Sport is valuable, fitness and character –Abstain from high risk behavior –Education is important

5. Warm Up cont’d Create a Map –Goals: process vs. outcome, combo –SMARTS –Goals for self, child, “team” –Facilitate vs. impose –Ink it, don’t think it

6. Coaching Corner Principles of behavior change –Foster motivation –80-90% of reinforcement positive –Issue of punishment –Avoid Don’ts –5:1 ratio positive to negative –Sandwich technique –Does not work: criticism, intimidation, sarcasm, guilt, physical punishment (sprints in 90 degrees)

7. Coaching Corner cont’d Motivation –Direction and intensity of effort –Motivational climate Task/MasteryOutcome

8. Coaching Corner cont’d Focusing on Strengths –Confidence –Competence –Builds motivation –Behavior change –Strengthens relationships

9. Scrimmage Strength Exercises –Pick irritating behavior, reframe as strength –What are your strengths as a parent (list 3)? –What are the strengths of your child/adolescent (list 3)?

10. Scrimmage Mental Skill: Focus –How many times in a day can you notice your own strengths/ child’s strengths and make a comment about it?

11. Drill Resolving Conflicts –Say something is important, but not showing it –Conflict=stress –Communication skills Sandwich technique Take out the mouth guard Take off the helmet

12. Cool Down Good self care as a parent “coach” Mindful of your own goals Care of your relationships Care of your physical needs Riding the waves- process not outcome Get support

13. Parent as Coach info http://www.TransformSportandFitness.com Facebook page: Transform Sport and Fitness Services, helpful tips and articles Blog articles listed on website Seminars, workshops, group and individual services available. Questions or requests? –Call 216-570-0993 ©Darla Sedlacek, Ph.D. 2010 www.TransformSportandFitness.com