Presentation on theme: "Presence To Contribution March 2009 Tri-Counties Regional Center"— Presentation transcript:
1 Presence To Contribution March 2009 Tri-Counties Regional Center By Claudia Bolton, HSAHelen Sanderson Associates
2 Members of Each Other, by John O’Brien and Connie Lyle O’Brien, 1996 Community Building: A definition from the experience of Options in Madison, WI.Community building is the way we learn about purposefully forming and organizing relationships, based on an emerging plan which captures a person’s desire to explore and develop new memberships and relationships.Community building is focused on extending a person’s opportunities to contribute to mutual relationships and is consciously oriented toward building the habits and skills of welcome in community settings.Members of Each Other, by John O’Brien and Connie Lyle O’Brien, 1996Also look at community definitions in New HatsAnd In the Company of OthersHow it is not just being present in the community but it is intentional for a bigger purpose
7 Relationship and Community Building Work Must Be Intentional. What Can We Do To Make Sure It Happens?Even When the Laundry Is Not DoneTalk about how we use the four questions to focus on.How we use the wall paper of who is in their lifeAlso use of the learning log.Also lots of talk about community opportunities
12 Relationship Mapping How these tools help: Identifies who is important to the personWho can contribute to getting the person better connectedIdentifies relationships that can be strengthened and supportedShows the balance of family, friends and paid support in the person’s lifeIdentifies community opportunities for participation
13 Relationship Map Exchange Participation Friendship Intimacy Original map developed by Judith SnowModified by Claudia BoltonExchangeParticipationFriendshipIntimacyParticipation: People, work, organizations, networks, associations, volunteering, community places you participate inIntimacy: People you love, who love you, partners, family, friends, anchors, (can include pets and animals)Exchange: People who you pay or who are paid to provide services to you: hairdresser, doctor, landlord, bank teller, teacher, personal assistant, employees.Friendship: People you like, friends, family, people you like to be with, people who like to be with you (can include pets and animals)
14 Ties and Connections Friendship Acquaintance Membership Keeping in TouchBeing Part of a FamilyHaving a PartnerBeing a NeighborBeing Known in a NeighborhoodThere are a number of ways people relate to each other all of which can lead to a greater sense of belonging.
15 John O’Brien, Reflecting on Social Roles June 2006
25 Working Gifts and Waiting Gifts “We all have Working Gifts…These are the gifts we develop and strengthen throughout our lives. But we also have waiting Gifts, Gifts waiting to be called and developed.We don’t often know what are waiting gifts are until we’re pressed into service”.Henry Moore, Asset Based Community Development, When People Care Enough to Act, Green, More and O’Brien, 2006
26 Having a Valued Role – Being Somebody! Gifts and capacity. Being somebodyLook at Pam’s ELP
29 Information and expectations about what will happen when we get there Support For PamPeople who:Will stay until the event is overCan go at my pace (slow)Will not get into power strugglesWill not take it personal when I am in a bad moodWill laugh and be silly with meInformation and expectations about what will happen when we get thereSupport to get ready to goPhysical assistance when the ground is uneven or I am tiredClose attention paid to me so I don’t do things that are unwelcome by othersAbility to; distract me or make me laugh when I am in a bad moodScout out new opportunities where I will be a welcomed memberMust love animals, country and Christmas music, crafts, visiting the elderly and my family
31 COMMUNITY MAPPINGPeople – who do you know? What are the key relationships you have or want to develop?Groups and associations – where do people meet up regularly in an organized or formal way?Third places- those places in every community where locals gather to visit, share news and be among others.Such places are a great spot to meet the neighborhood “connectors” (those people who know everyone else) and to assist someone to become a “regular”.
32 COMMUNITY MAPPING Resources: McKnight Sheila’s cafe Citizens advice Hospice shopBettyHealthCentreYogaSlimming clubChurch and Hallflower arrangingclassPriest, Fr SimmonshomeResources:McKnightCommunity centreWomen’s groupCoffee morningGeorge, pub landlord, darts, fishing, pool, open mike.allotmentsLibrary. Reading group.
33 Third Places Are on neutral ground Act as a leveler Conversation is the main activityAnyone can become a regularThey have a low profileThe mood is playfulThey can feel like a home away from homeAlma’s CaféIn Placerville, Starbucks for Michelle, Walmart Cafeteria for Bill, Dennys and Cozmic Café for cindyCoffee shop for JaredShare the bookRead “article - page 8 and 9 in bookletWendy and Rose’s
35 Stables are Great Places to Hang out and be Part of a Community Talk about recruiting Lisa from a stable. Friends at tack storeMichelle and riding club. On the tack swap committee. About more than just riding.dances, barbecues..
39 From Presence to Contribution ActivityBeing PresentHaving PresenceActively ParticipatingConnectingContributingFootball GameSeated in the standCheering along with the othersDressed in team colors, commenting, shouting encourage-mentGoing to the pub after the game, joining supporters going to other team gamesSelling raffle tickets, collecting funds, giving others a lift,Example from Helen Sanderson Associates, UK
40 Presence to Contribution ActivityBeing PresentHaving PresenceActively ParticipatingConnectingContributingKnittingKnits at home by herselfDoes not knit with othersKnits every nightGives her dishcloths to her family and friendsExample from Julie Malette, HSA
41 Community Groups What are the groups expectations of it’s members? What is the membership like?Who are the welcomers?What support will the person need?
42 Community Places-Supporting Participation Revision 11-08 Stages of ParticipationCharacteristics- ExpectationsSupport NeededPreparing to Go___________ArrivalUnwritten rulesGetting startedParticipationFinishing upExitOther things to know/do
43 Patterns of Community Building Pay attention to natural cuesStand alongsideRemember…Nothing about relationships is fixed –Community building work is rarely ever over
44 Characteristics of a Community Connector Confidence in understanding the personTrusts community membersHas high expectationsTrusts people to work out problems andGently assists when neededCalls on others willingness to help
45 Community Connector Is well connected Focuses on gifts and capacities Believes in community hospitalityConfidence in the capacity of people to do what is rightHas replenished capacity to forgiveIs flexible, and willing to laugh when things go wrong
46 Staff Development and Community Building Skills Have staff do their own relationship mapsIdentify staff who are natural connectorsEncourage staff to get involved in the community themselvesEncourage staff to be more curious, out-going, and to take more risksUse the Skills and Tools to shape Habits
49 With a Circle Graphic of the People in Her Life and their Roles CindyWith a Circle Graphic of the People in Her Life and their Roles
50 The Four Questions Things We’ve Tried Things We’ve Learned Things We are PleasedAboutThings We are Concerned AboutPlus One: Given what we know. What’s Next?What the four questions are
51 Pam’s Family Participates Monthly Focus meetings around each person we supportEveryone is invitedFoodCasual but structured around 4 questionsMention Betty, mom
52 building relationships Where do you reckon people you support are at along this arrow?(Please fill in a square per person you support below, as in the example)A Good But Paid LifeCommunity LifeService LifeImportant to recognizedFocus on connecting,building relationshipsImportant to presentWhat is important for the person is addressedNo organized effort about what is important to the person, yetWhat is important to and important for the person is presentClosest people are paid staff or family. Few other real connections with othersWhat is important to and important for the person is presentActive Circle of support, Included in community life
53 Action Steps for Getting Started Think about yourself or someone you supportThink about several ideas that seem most appealing for getting startedIn a Round: share with your table members the ideas you have.The freshest thinking from the table will be shared with the entire group of participants.Share in rounds
54 From Presence to Contribution… What Did You Learn?What Will You Try?
55 Cbolton@northstarsls.org Claudia Bolton 4171 Starkes Grade Road Placerville, CA