2. Restoring the Foundations Orphan Heart Orphan Lifestyle
Chester and Betsy Kylstra

3. An Orphan

4. What Is An Orphan? One who does not have parents.
One who believes he is all alone.
One who believes he has to take care of himself;
i.e., his survival depends on his own efforts. He is without help or support.
HE IS ON HIS OWN!

5. Adam and Eve started the process …
Adam and Eve started the process ….. and this Curse of the “Orphan Lifestyle/Heart” continues within the Human Race ….. Even to Today!

6. Orphan Heart/Lifestyle (Orphan Spirit – Jack Frost)
Stands on Two Pillars
Orphan Heart/LS
Rebellion
Abandonment
Neglected
Rejected
Isolated
Victimized
Abused
Deception
Defiance
Reject Parents (fire them)
Independence
Self-Sufficiency

7. But Jesus …..
Galations 4:4-5
4:4 But when the fulness of the time was come, God sent forth his Son, made of a woman, made under the law,
4:5 To redeem them that were under the law, that we might receive the adoption of sons.

8. But Jesus: I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.
John 14:18
I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.

9. Father’s Love Contrasting the Orphan with the Son
* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love

10. Father’s Love #1* Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love Sonship: On-Center
Seeing God as Master
IMAGE OF GOD
Seeing God as Loving Father
* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love

11. Image of God
Seeing God as Master
Seeing God as Loving Father

12. Father’s Love #1* Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love Sonship: On-Center
Seeing God as Master
IMAGE OF GOD
Seeing God as Loving Father
Slaves/Servants
POSITION
Sons & Daughters
* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love

13. Father’s Love #1* Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love Sonship: On-Center
Seeing God as Master
IMAGE OF GOD
Seeing God as Loving Father
Slaves/Servants
POSITION
Sons & Daughters
Independent & Self-Reliant
DEPENDENCY
Interdependent & Submissive
* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love

14. Father’s Love #1* Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love Sonship: On-Center
Seeing God as Master
IMAGE OF GOD
Seeing God as Loving Father
Slaves/Servants
POSITION
Sons & Daughters
Independent & Self-Reliant
DEPENDENCY
Interdependent & Submissive
Love of Law
THEOLOGY
Law of Love
* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love

15. Father’s Love #1* Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love Sonship: On-Center
Seeing God as Master
IMAGE OF GOD
Seeing God as Loving Father
Slaves/Servants
POSITION
Sons & Daughters
Independent & Self-Reliant
DEPENDENCY
Interdependent & Submissive
Love of Law
THEOLOGY
Law of Love
Insecure-No peace, Burdens, Anxieties
SECURITY
Rest & Peace
* From Jack Frost’s Teaching on the Father’s Love

16. Father’s Love #2 Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love Sonship: On-Center
Seek the Praise of man, which leads to striving and insecurity
NEED FOR APPROVAL
Rest in Father’s acceptance and being justified by grace

17. Father’s Love #2 Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love Sonship: On-Center
Seek the Praise of man, which leads to striving and insecurity
NEED FOR APPROVAL
Rest in Father’s acceptance and being justified by grace
Motivated by a need for personal achievement which leads to a fear of failure in God’s eyes and thus, deserving of rejection
MOTIVE FOR SERVICE
Love precedes service -- Service is motivated by deep gratitude for being loved and accepted unconditionally by the Father

18. MOTIVE BEHIND CHRISTIAN DISCIPLINES
Father’s Love #3
Orphan: Off-Center
Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Duty & Burden
MOTIVE BEHIND CHRISTIAN DISCIPLINES
Pleasure & Delight

19. MOTIVE BEHIND CHRISTIAN DISCIPLINES
Father’s Love #3
Orphan: Off-Center
Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Duty & Burden
MOTIVE BEHIND CHRISTIAN DISCIPLINES
Pleasure & Delight
“Must” be holy, thus driven by ever-increasing guilt and shame
MOTIVE FOR PURITY
“Want to” be holy; do not want anything to hinder intimate relationship

20. MOTIVE BEHIND CHRISTIAN DISCIPLINES
Father’s Love #3
Orphan: Off-Center
Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Duty & Burden
MOTIVE BEHIND CHRISTIAN DISCIPLINES
Pleasure & Delight
“Must” be holy, thus driven by ever-increasing guilt and shame
MOTIVE FOR PURITY
“Want to” be holy; do not want anything to hinder intimate relationship
Compare yourself with others – a form of self-rejection
IMAGE OF YOURSELF
Fully loved and accepted as you are

21. Father’s Love #4 Orphan: Off-Center Father’s Love Sonship: On-Center
Seeks counterfeit affections – addictions, compulsions, busyness, escapism, hyper-religious activity
COMFORT
Daily seeks rest and comfort in the loving arms of Father

22. RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHERS
Father’s Love #4
Orphan: Off-Center
Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Seeks counterfeit affections – addictions, compulsions, busyness, escapism, hyper-religious activity
COMFORT
Daily seeks rest and comfort in the loving arms of Father
Competition, rivalry, and jealous of other’s success and position
RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHERS
Humility & Unity – Valuing others and able to rejoice with other’s successes and grieving with them over their failures

23. HANDLING OTHER’S FAULTS
Father’s Love #5
Orphan: Off-Center
Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Accusation & Exposure
HANDLING OTHER’S FAULTS
Love covers; seek to restore in a spirit of love & gentleness

24. HANDLING OTHER’S FAULTS
Father’s Love #5
Orphan: Off-Center
Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Accusation & Exposure
HANDLING OTHER’S FAULTS
Love covers; seek to restore in a spirit of love & gentleness
Bondage
CONDITION
Liberty

25. HANDLING OTHER’S FAULTS SENSE OF GOD’S PRESENCE
Father’s Love #5
Orphan: Off-Center
Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Accusation & Exposure
HANDLING OTHER’S FAULTS
Love covers; seek to restore in a spirit of love & gentleness
Bondage
CONDITION
Liberty
Distant
SENSE OF GOD’S PRESENCE
Close & Intimate

26. EXPRESSION OF LOVE TO OTHERS
Father’s Love #6
Orphan: Off-Center
Father’s Love
Sonship: On-Center
Conditional, guarded, based on other’s performance – seeking to get own love need met in others
EXPRESSION OF LOVE TO OTHERS
Patient, affectionate, & gentle – laying your life and agendas down in order to meet other’s love need

27. Restoring the Foundations Orphan Heart Orphan Lifestyle Applying the Four Ministry Areas

28. Key Facets of Restoring the Foundations Ministry
Forgiveness
Sins of the Fathers and Resulting Curses
– Removing Affects of Generational Sins
Ungodly Beliefs – Renewing the Mind
Soul/Spirit Hurts – Healing the Inner Wounds
Demonic Oppression – Deliverance
Ongoing Cooperation with the Holy Spirit
– “Walking it Out”

29. Orphan Heart: Core Ungodly Beliefs
I am all alone.
No one cares about me.
I have to take care of myself.
The World is a cold, cruel, dangerous place.

30. Typical Judgments and Vows
People are dangerous.
I will never trust anyone again.
It is not safe to be submitted to another.
I will not let anyone control me.
Other people are incompetent.
I will do “it” my way.

31. Sonship Prayer

32. Key Facets of Restoring the Foundations Ministry
Forgiveness
Sins of the Fathers and Resulting Curses
– Removing Affects of Generational Sins
Ungodly Beliefs – Renewing the Mind
Soul/Spirit Hurts – Healing the Inner Wounds
Demonic Oppression – Deliverance
Ongoing Cooperation with the Holy Spirit
“Walking it Out”

33. Restoring the Foundations Orphan Heart/Lifestyle Ministry
Chester and Betsy Kylstra

34. Orphan Heart: Sins of the Fathers and Curses
Fear
Rebellion
Abandonment
Victim
of Submission
Unsubmissiveness
Rejection
Entrapment
of Authorities
Independence
Wanderer
Slavery
of Man
Self-Reliance
Fatherless
Bondage
of Failure
Self-Sufficiency
Shame
Desolation
of Rejection
Stubbornness
Slave Mentality
Resistance
Poverty Mentality
Control
Dishonor
Fatherless ness
Manipulation
Homelessness
Anger
Domination
Loss of Inheritance
Resentment
Pride
Orphan
Unforgiveness
Passivity
Illegitimacy
Hatred

35. Orphan Lifestyle: Ungodly Belief #1
UGB: I will always need to be strong, protect, defend and take care of myself because there is no one else to be responsible for me or care for me.
GB: God is my source, my strength, and my defender. I choose to look to Him and trust Him to provide for me in whatever way He chooses. I release the responsibility of my life into the hands of the Lord.

36. Orphan Lifestyle: Ungodly Belief #2
UGB: Something is wrong with me. I am not worthy of being protected.
GB: I am accepted in the beloved. I have been made worthy through Jesus and He desires to be my protector and my shield.

37. Orphan Heart: Ungodly Belief #3
UGB: I'll never be a priority with those in authority over me.
GB: I am a priority with God because of Jesus Christ. I choose to submit to and pray for those in authority that God has placed over me knowing that as I humble myself He will exalt me in due season.

38. Orphan Heart: Ungodly Belief #4
UGB: No one will ever love me enough to take care of me.
GB: God loves me with an everlasting love and He has drawn me with loving-kindness. He loves me so much that He has a plan and a purpose for my life, a plan to prosper me and to give me hope and a future. He will bring those into my life who will love me and be apart of fulfilling that purpose.

39. Orphan Heart: Ungodly Belief #5
UGB: I'm a victim of my circumstances and there is no hope of change.
GB: Jesus is my hope and He is changing me from glory to glory so that I am free and an overcomer no matter what my circumstances.

40. Orphan Heart: Ungodly Belief #6
UGB: The significant people in my life are not there for me and will not be there when I need them.
GB: The Lord is always there for me and when I need help He will place the right people in my life at the right time to help meet my needs.

41. Orphan Heart: Soul/Spirit Hurts
(We want a memory where rebellion and dishonor to your mother or father began. When you judged them, closing off your spirit to them. When you rebelled and made a decision to become independent and said, “I can do it better myself.”
What you are looking for is where did you begin to lack sonship?
Ask this question: “At what moment did I cease being a son or daughter”)

42. Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression
Fear
Rebellion
Abandonment
Victim
of Submission
Unsubmissiveness
Rejection
Entrapment
of Authorities
Independence
Wanderer
Slavery
of Man
Self-Reliance
Fatherless
Bondage
of Failure
Self-Sufficiency
Shame
Desolation
of Rejection
Stubbornness
Slave Mentality
Resistance
Poverty Mentality
Control
Dishonor
Fatherless ness
Manipulation
Homelessness
Anger
Domination
Loss of Inheritance
Resentment
Pride
Orphan
Unforgiveness
Passivity
Illegitimacy
Hatred

43. Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #1
REBELLION
FEAR
ABANDONMENT
Independence
of Submission
Rejection
Self-Reliance
of Authorities
Loneliness
Self-Sufficiency
of Man
Unprotected
Stubbornness
of Failure
Neglect
Resistance
of Rejection
Isolation
Mistrust
of Losing Control
Withdrawal
Confusion
of Punishment
Self-Pity
Unsubmissive
of Inadequacy
Hopelessness
Intimidation
Fatherlessness
Shame

44. Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #2
ANGER
UNFORGIVENESS
Resentment
Bitterness
Frustration
Accusation
Hatred
Critical
Retaliation
Judging
Revenge
Ridiculing
Strife
Murmuring
Mocking
Blaming
Destruction
Fault Finding
Sarcasm

45. Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #3
VICTIM
CONTROL
Loss of Inheritance
Entrapment
Manipulation
Homelessness
Slavery
Domination
Vagabond
(Slave Mentality)
Passivity
Wanderer
Bondage
People Pleasing
Nomad
Desolation
Pride
Gypsy
Poverty
Selfishness
Discontent
Helplessness
Self-Centeredness
Restlessness
Suspicion
Possessiveness
Fatherlessness
Illegitimacy

46. Orphan Heart: Demonic Oppression #4
DECEPTION
SHAME
Doubt
Embarrassment
Unbelief
Humiliation
Lying
Guilt
Confusion
Condemnation
Self-Deception
Unworthiness
Delusion
Inferiority
Justifying
Insecurity

47. Restoring the Foundations Orphan Heart Orphan Lifestyle
Chester and Betsy Kylstra