1. Practicing love and acceptance rather than guilt and shame
Series:
Faithful families
in an unfaithful world
Message:
Practicing love and acceptance rather than guilt and shame
Romans 5: 1-2, 10-11; Romans 8:1 & 37

2. Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
Introduction:
We are able to practice forgiveness ONLY because we have received forgiveness from God
through our trust in Jesus Christ.

3. Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
By faith we obey God’s call to forgive and then God provides His supernatural power which flows through us enabling us to forgive ourselves and others.

4. Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
Today we consider together the truth that faithful families need to practice the Biblical core value
of love & acceptance.

5. The opposite of this love & acceptance is guilt & shame.
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
The opposite of this love & acceptance
is guilt & shame.

6. We are able to practice love & acceptance to ourselves
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
We are able to practice love
& acceptance to ourselves
and to others ONLY because
we have received this
love & acceptance
from God in Christ.

7. Biblical core value of reconciliation.
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
In Romans 5:10-11
God reveals to us the
Biblical core value of reconciliation.

8. Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
Romans 5:10-11
10 For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life.
11 And not only this, but we also exult in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received
the reconciliation.

9. God reveals to us the results of this gift of reconciliation.
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
In Romans 8:1 & 37
God reveals to us the results
of this gift of reconciliation.

10. Romans 8:1 & 37 who are in Christ Jesus. through Him who loved us.
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
Romans 8:1 & 37
1 Therefore there is now no condemnation for those
who are in Christ Jesus.
37 But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer
through Him who loved us.

11. Because we have been reconciled to God in Christ,
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guilt and shame
Because we have been reconciled
to God in Christ,
we can live in the confidence that God will never condemn us.

12. We also stand in the confidence that nothing can ever separate us
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guilt and shame
We also stand in the confidence that nothing can ever separate us
from the love of God
in Christ Jesus our Lord.

13. to know God more intimately and to surrender our lives to Him.
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
Our confidence in God’s eternal and unconditional love & acceptance creates in us a desire
to know God more intimately
and to surrender our lives to Him.

14. Just like the experience of forgiveness we can experience
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
Just like the experience of forgiveness we can experience
the supernatural flow
of God’s love & acceptance as we
by faith seek to obey His call
to love others as He loved us.

15. We must believe and apply fully the truth that God has
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
We must believe and apply fully
the truth that God has
indeed forgiven us
to be able to obey Him
in forgiving others.

16. we must believe & fully apply
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guilt and shame
Likewise,
we must believe & fully apply
the truth of God’s love & acceptance to be able to extend His love
to others through us.

17. Reconciliation means to bring close one who was previously
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
Reconciliation means to bring close one who was previously
in a position of separation from us and/or our enemy.

18. Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
God’s choice, to reconcile us to Himself, means God is bringing us as close to Himself as possible.

19. Through reconciliation our life is eternally joined to God’s life
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guilt and shame
Through reconciliation our life is eternally joined to God’s life
by our trusting in Jesus.
We are now a member of
God’s family.

20. In forgiveness we are freed from sin’s penalty, power,
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guilt and shame
In forgiveness we are freed
from sin’s penalty, power,
and one day it’s presence.
We are declared righteous by Jesus.

21. This is the meaning of Justification. Justification means to be
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
This is the meaning of Justification. Justification means to be
declared righteous,
just as if we never sinned.

22. Practicing love and acceptance rather than into His eternal family.
guilt and shame
Reconciliation means that once we are justified / forgiven we then experience God’s placing us
into His eternal family.

23. Both are happening to us at the same time when we trust Jesus.
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guilt and shame
These are not two steps.
Both are happening to us at the same time when we trust Jesus.
We are examining them separating to gain a greater understanding.

24. Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
Illustration:
The Judge’s choice.

25. Satan and his demonic forces do not want you to live
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guilt and shame
Satan and his demonic forces
do not want you to live
in the full experience
of this love from God.

26. The forces of darkness lie to us with great deception
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guilt and shame
The forces of darkness lie to us
with great deception
seeking to lead us away
from God’s love & acceptance.
These forces seek to lead us into the experiences of guilt and shame.

27. the wonderful blessings that come as a result
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
The goal of Satan’s forces for every person is to steal, kill, and destroy. If possible, these forces of darkness will steal from us
the wonderful blessings
that come as a result
of God’s love & acceptance.

28. Finally, they will seek to destroy
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guilt and shame
If allowed they will seek to kill any and all of the joyful experiences
God intended for us.
Finally, they will seek to destroy
any influence God may be giving you to demonstrate
His love & acceptance to others.

29. God created each of us with a need, a desperate yearning
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guilt and shame
God created each of us with a need, a desperate yearning
to be loved, accepted,
and to know that our life has meaning or purpose.

30. ONLY God can bring a fulfillment of these 3 vital needs.
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guilt and shame
ONLY God can bring a fulfillment of these 3 vital needs.
The need of love, acceptance, and purpose are experienced every moment of every day.
We can call these 3 needs
our value or our worth.

31. Satan and his forces are also aware of our need of value.
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guilt and shame
Satan and his forces are also
aware of our need of value.
The lies they speak to us
attack us in this vital area.
He attacks through urging us to accept substitutes for God.

32. This leads us to attempt to meet
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guilt and shame
This leads us to attempt to meet
this need of worth through things, relationships, accomplishment, etc. Nothing the world offers can fully satisfy this God created need.

33. These forces of Satan speak lies
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guilt and shame
These forces of Satan speak lies
to us using first person language. This is an attempt to deceive us
into believing that these ideas
have come from within us.

34. Here are a few examples of the lies.
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guilt and shame
Here are a few examples of the lies.
- My value depends upon my performance
– produces a fear of failure
My value depends upon the approval
of others
– fear of rejection

35. Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
Examples continued
Those who fail are unworthy of love
and deserve to be punished-blamed
My failures make it okay for others,
or even myself, to condemn me
- I believe God loves me but God could never accept me

36. Believing the truth of God’s Word sets us free
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guilt and shame
Believing the truth of God’s Word sets us free
from the deceptive power
of these lies.

37. God’s love & acceptance is NOT given to us based upon our behavior
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guilt and shame
God’s love & acceptance
is NOT given to us
based upon our behavior
either before
we are born again or afterwards.

38. is COMPLETELY based upon the work of Jesus on the cross
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guilt and shame
The value God gives us
is COMPLETELY based upon
the work of Jesus on the cross
and His resurrection from the dead.

39. Our lives are eternally joined to the life of Jesus.
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guilt and shame
Our lives are eternally joined
to the life of Jesus.
Because God eternally loves and accepts Jesus,
God eternally loves & accepts us.

40. How do we live in the freedom of God’s love and acceptance?
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
How do we live in the freedom
of God’s love and acceptance?

41. & resurrection of Jesus
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guilt and shame
Trust in the death
& resurrection of Jesus
as your ONLY means of receiving love & acceptance from God.

42. Trust that your relationship with God you now enjoy
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guilt and shame
Trust that your relationship
with God you now enjoy
because of Jesus is eternal.

43. Practicing love and acceptance rather than can be fully experienced.
guilt and shame
3. Trust that your relationship with God is where all of your need for love, acceptance, and purpose
can be fully experienced.
God alone can give you 100%
of this need.

44. Trust fully the truth that God will never condemn you.
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
Trust fully the truth that God
will never condemn you.
Do not accept condemnation
from others.
Do not respond to the manipulation of guilt and shame.

45. Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
When guilt and shame
are used to persuade, you can be confident it is not coming from God. Do not treat others
with condemnation.

46. Respond to God’s conviction
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
Respond to God’s conviction
with thanksgiving, confession, repentance, and a willingness
to be transformed.

47. God’s love & acceptance does NOT mean God accepts all behavior.
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
Do not permit the forces of darkness to twist God’s loving discipline into false guilt and paralyzing shame.
God’s love & acceptance
does NOT mean God accepts
all behavior.

48. God separates who a person is from what a person does.
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guilt and shame
God separates who a person is from what a person does.
We are to love and accept
every person.
We are to also speak the truth
of God’s Word in love in faith
that if God can transform us
He can transform anyone else.

49. Study God’s Word concerning His love & acceptance.
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
Study God’s Word
concerning His love & acceptance.

50. Here are a few Scriptures to get you started- in bulletin outline
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
Here are a few Scriptures
to get you started- in bulletin outline
Romans 8:1, 37
Galatians 5:1, 13-14, 16, 18, 22-25
Ephesians 1: 3-2:10
Hebrews 6:17-20
Hebrews 7:25
1 John 1:9

51. Choose to live in a manner worthy of this calling.
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guilt and shame
Choose to live in a manner worthy of this calling.
Ask God to work through you
to treat all others as people
God values.
Ask God to help you
introduce them
to God’s love & acceptance

52. Meditate of this statement of truth concerning you.
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guilt and shame
Meditate of this statement of truth concerning you.
God’s Word teaches that as God’s child
I am completely forgiven and accepted. My sin cannot and does not bring condemnation or God would be a liar and that is impossible!

53. is temporarily hindered.
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guilt and shame
When I do choose to sin
my fellowship with God
is temporarily hindered.
The Holy Spirit convicts me in love seeking my repentance.

54. God is faithful and just to forgive me and restore our fellowship
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guilt and shame
When I confess my sin
God is faithful and just to forgive me and restore our fellowship
and God is able to cleanse me
of the root of mistrust
which helped to produce the sin.

55. I will no longer live as a slave to guilt and condemnation.
Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
I choose to live in these truths and by God’s Grace I reject any thoughts or words that would come against me attacking these truths.
I will no longer live as a slave to guilt and condemnation.
I am free in Christ!
I am free to live for Him!

56. Have you received from God
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guilt and shame
Closing Thoughts
Have you received from God
this wonderful gift of eternal life through Jesus Christ?
(Romans 6:23)

57. speaks of a transformation which occurs through a renewing
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guilt and shame
Closing Thoughts
Romans 12: 1-2
speaks of a transformation
which occurs through a renewing
of our minds

58. Practicing love and acceptance rather than
guilt and shame
Closing Thoughts
It will take time to break all the chains that false guilt can have on our minds and hearts yet now is the time to take the truth
and begin to allow God
to set us free!

59. Practicing love and acceptance rather than guilt and shame
Series:
Faithful families
in an unfaithful world
Message:
Practicing love and acceptance rather than guilt and shame
Romans 5: 1-2, 10-11; Romans 8:1 & 37