1. 9/19/2015 Makin’ It Work Lesson 5: Stop & Think Module II: Keeping Self-Control © 2008 by Steve Parese, Ed.D. Transitioning from Corrections to Community and the World of Work

2. 9/19/2015 Words of Wisdom “True power lies in SELF-control.” What do you get out of this? How does it apply to you?

3. 9/19/2015 1. Read new story about Nick 2. Learn three steps to Stop & Think 3. Practice using steps in mock situations 4. Review & MiniQuiz Today’s Lesson Today’s lesson will teach us how to stop & think in difficult work situations, before we react impulsively and face negative consequences.

4. 9/19/2015 Nick’s Story 2 Let’s read along on page 28. “Nick was sitting in his employment counselor’s office…” Questions after reading: Nick could have handed this situation much better. Use the story to find the answers to the questions on page 29.

5. 9/19/2015 About Stop & Think The third rule of self-control is to stop and think. It doesn’t solve the problem, but it keeps it from getting worse until we can think more clearly.

6. 9/19/2015 Stop & Think 3-Step Step 1: Be Quiet (Mouth) Slow down verbally. To keep self- control, you first have to stop talking. Step 2: Calm Down (Body) Slow down physically. Give yourself some time and space to calm down. Step 3: Think Positive (Mind) Finally, slow down mentally. Interrupt negative thinkng that makes you upset.

7. 9/19/2015 Nick’s Stop & Think Step #1: “Be Quiet” Step #1: “Be Quiet” Nick could have ___________ Nick’s “moment of truth” came when he was confronted by his employment counselor. He should have calmed down instead of walking out the door. What exactly could he have done to use these steps? Step #2: “Calm Down” Step #2: “Calm Down” Nick could have __________ Step #3: “Think Positive” Step #3: “Think Positive” Nick could have __________ Fill in the blanks on page 29.

8. 9/19/2015 Stop & Think Examples High Risk Situation #1: You are interviewing for a job you KNOW you are qualified for. The interviewer looks at your application and notices the section about felony arrests. He closes the folder and looks away. To use Step 1: Be Quiet: ____________________ To use Step 2: Calm Down: __________________ To use Step 3: Think Positive: _______________ Complete the chart on page 31

9. 9/19/2015 Stop & Think Examples High Risk Situation #2: You are working a new job, trying to keep to yourself and stay out of trouble. You walk into the kitchen one day to get a cup of coffee before your shift starts. The room suddenly gets quiet, and you notice that everyone seems to be looking at you. To use Step 1: Be Quiet: ____________________ To use Step 2: Calm Down: __________________ To use Step 3: Think Positive: _______________ Complete the chart on page 25

10. 9/19/2015 Stop & Think Examples High Risk Situation #3: You are working as a clerk in a convenience store. You are trying to stock the cooler in between customers, and don’t notice the 16-year-old kid waiting at the counter. He yells out, “Hey! What’s wrong with you? Are you blind?” To use Step 1: Be Quiet: ____________________ To use Step 2: Calm Down: __________________ To use Step 3: Think Positive: _______________ Complete the chart on page 25

11. 9/19/2015 Group Skit Activity How will you Stop & Think? _______________________________________ Prepare small group skits to role play your stressful work situation and your calm professional response to it. Do not try to solve the problem for now. Just show us how you could stay calm and get through it. Think about a hot spot situation at work: How can you Be Quiet (mouth)? How can you Calm Down (body)? How can you Think Positive (mind)?

12. 9/19/2015 KEY POINT #1 KEY POINT #1 Stop & Think has three steps: Be Quiet (mouth); Calm Down (body); and Think Positive (mind). It takes a serious effort to use these steps in high risk situations.

13. 9/19/2015 KEY POINT #2 KEY POINT #2 Stop & Think is like putting the brakes on. It doesn’t solve the problem, but it helps us slow down and get back in control so that we can think straight again.

14. 9/19/2015 MiniQuiz #5 Let’s complete the MiniQuiz in the workbook and review it as a group. √

15. 9/19/2015 Today’s Words of Wisdom: “True power lies in SELF-control.” How does this fit in with our lesson? What is ONE THING you learned in this class that you will remember after leaving?