1. Father’s Day 1 Corinthians 4:14-21 Psalm 103

2. Happy Father’s Day

3. This is Biblical model for fatherly confrontation, correction and discipleship.

4. 10 Specifics for us to know how to parent, Father

5. I. How to Father

6. A. Affirm Your Love my beloved children Agapetos—Agape love We must always bring correction and guidance in light of loving them Loving our kids not because of actions good or bad but because they are my kids. Not rooted in my own selfishness but in best for the child

7. B. Avoid Shaming Your Kids I do not write these things to make you ashamed Not to make you ashamed Helping them live consistent with God’s law Shame is based in fear

8. 1 John 4:18 (ESV) There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.

9. C. Give Warnings admonish you Admonish—reprove gently but earnestly Alert of the consequences Warnings must help steer in a clear direction Do not make empty threats

10. D. Establish Your Authority 15 For though you have countless guides in Christ, you do not have many fathers With parenting, our authority comes directly from God We cannot tell our kids to submit to God and avoid Him ourselves

11. E. Press the Gospel in Deep For I became your father in Christ Jesus through the gospel We must instill a Christian World View in our children The Cross must be central Because of Christ, we have forgiveness and salvation available

12. F. Urge Your Kids to Imitate You 16 I urge you, then, be imitators of me. 1 Corinthians 11:1 (ESV) Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ. Kids learn what they live. Admit the fact that we are not perfect

13. G. Make it a Team Effort 17 That is why I sent you Timothy, my beloved and faithful child in the Lord, to remind you of my ways in Christ, as I teach them everywhere in every church. We really need help. We cannot do it all alone We need to have others involved in our kids lives- reinforcements

14. H. Stay Involved I will come to you soon, if the Lord wills, and I will find out not the talk of these arrogant people but their power. Proverbs 22:6 (ESV) Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. There is a lie—Quality time is better than quantity time

15. I. Give Choices What do you wish? Help them to make choices Teaches responsibility

16. J. Customize Your Approach What do you wish? Shall I come to you with a rod, or with love in a spirit of gentleness? Each takes a specific approach

17. What are the areas that you can use more work on? Begin to pray for God’s wisdom and grace for each.

18. II. Now Let’s talk about the perfect Father—Psalm 103 Father of benefits

19. 2 Corinthians 1:3 (ESV) Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort,

20. Psalm 103:1-6 He has forgiven our sins. He has healed diseases. He has redeemed our lives (saved us!) He has crowned us with love and compassion. He has satisfied our desires with good things. He is righteous. He gives justice to the oppressed.

21. Psalm 103:7-12 He has led people throughout history. He shows compassion and grace. He is slow to anger. He is love.

22. 1 John 3:16 (ESV) By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers. He does not treat us as our sins deserve.

23. Psalm 103:13-19 He has compassion on his children. He made us. He is forever. His love is always with those who fear him. His kingdom rules over all.

24. Do you know my Heavenly Father? He is not like our earthly Father. Do you know Him?

25. John 14:6 (ESV) Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.