1. Safety and Injury Prevention
Crisis Situations
Safety and Injury Prevention

2. Types of Abuse
Abuse- Contact intended to cause feelings of intimidation, injury, or other physical suffering or bodily harm
Child Abuse - maltreatment of a child under the age of 18; can be physical, emotional, neglect or sexual abuse
Physical Abuse - maltreatment that harms the body
Neglect - maltreatment that involves lack of proper care and guidance
Emotional Abuse - maltreatment that involves assault in a nonphysical way
Sexual Abuse - maltreatment that involves inappropriate sexual behavior
Drug Abuse - misuse of drugs; can be prescription or nonprescription; can be legal or illegal
Alcohol Abuse - misuse of alcohol

3. Violence terms Molestation - inappropriate touching of another
Assault - threatening action that causes a person to fear for his/her safety
Battery - illegal touching of another in a threatening or insulting manner
Verbal Abuse - disrespectful/threatening language to another person
Domestic Violence - verbal and/or physical fighting with another member who lives in the same home
Rape – act of sexual intercourse forced upon a person
Date Rape – Rape committed by the victim’s partner/date.
Acquaintance Rape - rape committed by someone known by the victim
Stranger Rape - rape committed by someone not known by the victim
Statutory Rape – sexual intercourse with a minor.

4. Feelings of Abuse
People who have been abused need help in sorting out their feelings. They may feel:
Confused - The person may not know if he/she should tell anyone about the abuse.
Guilty - The person may feel blame themselves and wonder “Is this my fault?”
Afraid - The person may be afraid of the abuser and keep the abuse a secret.
Distrustful - The person may not trust others who say they care about them.
Depressed - The person may feel sad and withdrawn from others.
Angry - The person may take anger out on others and become a perpetrator of violence.

5. CODEPENDENCE
Codependence is a mental disorder in which a person loses their personal identity and is unaware of their personal thoughts and feelings.
Codependence often occurs in Dysfunctional families.

6. DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES
A Dysfunctional Family is one in which there is no guidelines for responsible behavior or consequences for inappropriate behavior. This leads to:
Distrust
Lack of affection
Lack of cooperation

7. Messages learned: Dysfunctional families:
Destroy the ability to form healthful relationships with those outside the family
Contribute to risk-taking behavior
Alcohol and drug use are more common
Risks seem to offer temporary relief rather deal with painful issues
* Recovery always involves dealing with painful issues and learning to express feelings and get needs met in healthful ways.

8. Cycle of violence What are the 3 types of abuse?
List 3 warning signs that indicate a problem is brewing.
What does an abuser do to gain control?

9. Cycle of violence What are the 3 phases of the Cycle of Violence?
List 3 resources victims can go to for help.

10. Cycle of violence Honeymoon Phase Tension-Building Phase
The abuser shows loving behavior such as gifts, flowers, and doing special things for the victim.
The victim is trusting, hoping for change and wants to believe the partner’s promises.
Tension-Building Phase
The abuser is edgy, has minor explosions; may become verbally abusive, minor hitting and slapping
The victim feels tense and afraid like “walking on eggshells”; feels helpless and compliant, accepts blame
Serious Battering Phase
The tension becomes unbearable. The victim may provoke the incident to get it over with.
The victim may try to cover up the injury or may look for help.
The cycle starts all over again.

11. Abusive behavior terms
Enabler – a person who knowingly or unknowingly supports abusive behavior (drug, alcohol, physical, emotional, sexual, etc.)
Domestic shelter – where families can go to stay safe away from abuse
Formal Intervention – an action by people to help a person get treatment; often involves family and friends but can also involve a counselor or other important people in the person’s life
Mentor – a person who can provide support for another person; teacher, coach, religious leader

12. Happy….

13. Not so happy…

14. Happy…

15. Not so happy…

16. Happy…

17. Not so happy…

18. It can mean even death…

19. 23 years

20. DATING VIOLENCE Early Warning Signs:
Is jealous or possessive towards you
Tries to control you
Is scary
Is violent or has history of fighting
Pressures you for sex
Abuses drugs or alcohol
Blames you when they mistreat you
Has history of bad relationships
Believes men should be dominate and in control
Your friends and family have warned you about him/her and are worried for your safety

22. UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
People who hit:
Usually come from violent homes
Think men should be dominate “the boss”
Often feel powerless
Blame others for making them angry
Don’t know any other ways to handle their feelings
Often have poor self-esteem

23. Unhealthy relationships
People who stay in the bad relationships:
Often come from violent homes themselves– they think it’s normal behavior
Think anyone is better than no one at all
Accept blame, even if it’s not their fault
Believe if they love him/her enough he/she will change
Make excuses for his/her behavior

24. You think it won’t happen to you….but the statistics show it can

26. Rape Stats One in four women are victims of rape or attempted rape
84 % of those women knew their attacker
57 % of the rapes have happened while on dates
About 42 % of the victims told no one
38 % of the women raped are between the ages of
75 % of men and 55 % of the women involved in date rape had been drinking or taking drugs before the attack occurred. 

27. Steps to avoid acquaintance rape:
Be leery of men who appear dominant or demanding
Do not get in risk situations
Go in groups, avoid isolated places
Verbalize any feelings specifically and forcefully
Verbalize where you stand in regard to physical intimacy
Learn to resist and respond to unwanted sexual advances
Screaming, fighting, scratching, kicking, self-defense classes
Avoid drinking alcohol or using other drugs that interfere with your judgment

29. Date Rape Drugs
Drugs like Rohypnol “Roofies” and GHB can easily be mixed in drinks to make a person black out and forget things that happen.

30. Date rape drugs

32. The New Style of Dating or a Lack of Self Respect for Yourself?

33. Sexual harassment What is it? How is this different than flirting?
Sexual harassment is intimidation, bullying or coercion of a sexual nature, or the unwelcome or inappropriate promise of rewards in exchange for sexual favors.
It is illegal.
It does not have to be of a sexual nature, however, and can include offensive remarks about a person’s sex.
Both victim and harasser can be either a woman or a man
How is this different than flirting?
Flirting is mutual and wanted where is harassment is 1-sided and not wanted

34. Types of Sexual Harassment
Verbal
Nonverbal
Physical
Comments about a persons body, clothing or sexual activity.
Jokes or teasing
Requests or demands
Insulting sounds, ogling someone’s body or obscene gestures
Touching or pinching, constant brushing up against someone’s body
Sexual touching

35. Sexual harassment
What feelings are associated with being a victim of sexual harassment?
Vulnerable, sad, afraid, embarrassed, intimidated, guilty, threatened
What is a hostile environment?
Any place you do not want to be.
The feelings associated with harassment are experienced.

36. Sexual harassment Can school ever be a hostile environment?
Yes
In what ways can sexual harassment affect a student’s academic progress?
May affect attendance
May affect participation
May affect seating arrangements and group work situations
Why might individuals be afraid to intervene if they are witnesses to sexual harassment?
Afraid of becoming a victim themselves
May feel intimidated by the harasser

37. Is this an example of sexual harassment?
A boss says to an employee, “If you sleep with me, I’ll make sure you get that promotion.”

38. Is this an example of sexual harassment?
A guy says to his girlfriend, “You look so sexy in that dress that I want to have sex with you.”

39. Is this an example of sexual harassment?
A professor jokes to his students, “I’m not sure why so many women are taking this class. Your place is at home in the kitchen.”

40. Is this an example of sexual harassment?
A male teacher invites a female student to meet him late at night at his place to study for an exam. He tells her that he wants to get to know her better. She shows up and he’s got candles and soft music playing and doesn’t seem to want to study.

41. Is this an example of sexual harassment?
A boss pats his secretary on the rear as she passes by his desk.

42. Is this an example of sexual harassment?
A woman congratulates her male employees who win the employee-of-the-month award with a kiss on the lips. She always threatens that if they don’t kiss her, she’ll take their award away.

43. Case Study
Stanley works at the local drug store as a store clerk. His supervisor, Lillian, is 35 years old and married. When Stanley is restocking shelves, Lillian often comes up behind him and gives him a big, tight hug. Other times, she will lean close to him and reach around his body to get an item off the shelf. Stanley feels uncomfortable about this; but thinks its not hurting him, so he feels funny complaining.
What should Stanley do?

48. What makes someone a target of Bullying?

52. Bullying PSA

55. What are some ways you can prevent bullying?

56. Something or someone is making them feel insecure
Something or someone is making them feel insecure. Therefore they bully to make themselves feel better.

57. As you watch this video, Listen to the lyrics and be ready to describe lyrics you heard that relate to bullying. NO LOVE

58. It's a little too late to say that you're sorry now You kicked me when I was down But what you say, just don't hurt me, don't hurt me no more That's right: and I don't need you, don't want to see you you get no love You showed me nothing but hate You ran me into the ground But what comes around goes around I don't need you don't hurt me You don't hurt me no more That's right, and I don't need you, don't want to see you You get no love And I don't need you

59. Letter from the bully
Think of a time you may have been a bully. I want you to write a letter apologizing for what you did.
Elements of a letter.
Explain why you are writing the letter.
Explain what you did.
Explain how you could of changed the situation.

60. Directions
You are going to be grouped with other students in the class, using the number you picked up.
You will go around to the different stations and complete the activity described at each station.

61. Ms. Linton will then tell you to move to the next station.
Directions
Ms. Linton will use the timer, you will have 1 ½ minutes at each station.
Ms. Linton will then tell you to move to the next station.
Make sure you move around the room in order of the numbers.

62. Directions
Work with your group to come up with a response for each Station’s question.
Limit the response on the Station’s paper to one answer per question since everyone will respond.
As a group you will write on the Station’s Paper or whiteboards (depending on the station) AND YOUR individual worksheet.

63. Directions
Make sure to write in the correct area on your paper, If you start at station 4, respond on your worksheet at station 4.

64. Directions
Make sure you work quickly, once the timer goes off you will move to the next station, going in the order of the station numbers.
Once everyone is done we will review all the information.
You will turn your paper in for credit.

65. 1 ½ MINUTES at each station!
Remember you only have
1 ½ MINUTES at each station!
Work Quickly!

66. GO!

67. Station 1
Describe what teen dating violence means to you and your group.
Actual Definition:
- Teen dating violence: a pattern of destructive behaviors used to exert power and control over a dating partner.

68. Station 2 -Making false accusations -Mood swings
As a group come up with one thing you might consider a “warning sign” that your partner may be controlling or abusive.
Warning Signs:
Checking your cell phone or without permission
Constantly putting you down
Extreme jealousy or insecurity
Explosive temper
Isolating you from
family or friends
-Making false accusations
-Mood swings
-Physically hurting you in any way
-Possessiveness
-Telling you what to do

69. Station 3 A repeating pattern of physical abuse which
Look and read about the Cycle of Violence. Discuss with your group why this is called the “cycle of violence” & write your response.
A repeating pattern of
physical abuse which
occurs in abusive
relationships

71. Love the way you lie
Come back we're running right back. Here we go again It's so insane cause when it's going good, it's going great I'm Superman with the wind at his back, she's Lois Lane But when it's bad it's awful, I feel so ashamed I snapped Who's that dude? I don't even know his name I laid hands on her, I'll never stoop so low again I guess I don't know my own strength

72. Station 4
As a group come up with strategies which could help prevent dating violence. Talk to someone Educate yourself Double Date Be Prepared

73. Station 5
Name some potential Health Problems which could come from abuse. Eating disorders Depression Suicide Unwanted sex Sexually transmitted diseases Pregnancy

74. A compelling story of love addiction
Station 6
Why could the play Romeo and Juliet be compared in the following two categories. Come up with a response for each category.
A Great Love Story
A compelling story of love addiction

75. How does it feel to be loved? How does it feel to be controlled?
Station 7
Write down one ADJECTIVE to describe the two questions.
How does it feel to be loved?
How does it feel to be controlled?

76. Station 8
Lets Pretend: You are interested in a girl or guy and you two start talking. Come up with a question that you could ask to insure he/she is not controlling or abusive.

77. What can YOU do if you know or Suspect someone is being abused?
Station 9
What can YOU do if you know or Suspect someone is being abused?

78. Do you know someone who has been a victim of abuse?
Station 10
Each group member will respond to the following questions by putting tally marks in the boxes if the question applies to you.
Do you know someone who has been a victim of abuse?
Was it a teen or adult?
Teen Adult

79. Music that best describes the Cycle of Abuse
Love the way you lie

80. Love the way you lie
Come back we're running right back. Here we go again It's so insane cause when it's going good, it's going great I'm Superman with the wind at his back, she's Lois Lane But when it's bad it's awful, I feel so ashamed I snapped Who's that dude? I don't even know his name I laid hands on her, I'll never stoop so low again I guess I don't know my own strength

81. You will be given a song that relates to violence, abuse or rape.
You are going to analyze (examine in detail) the lyrics.
You will Highlight parts of the song that discuss abuse, rape, or violence.
You will then share with the class the lyrics you found.
We will then play the video to view how the video corresponds with the lyrics.

82. Taylor Swift - Tell me Why
Eminem & Rihanna - Love the Way You Lie
Rihanna - Love the way you lie - Part 2
Lady Gaga - Bad Romance
Miranda Lambert - Gunpowder & Lead
Red Jumpsuit Apparatus - Face Down
Martina McBride - Independence Day
Nickleback - Never Again
Papa Roach - Broken Home
Beatles - Run for Your Life
Dixie Chicks - Goodbye Earl
Pink Floyd - Dont leave me now

83. Students in our school get along well.
Students in my school know how to report harassment, bullying and racial abuse to school officials.
Students in my school would feel comfortable reporting harassment, bullying and racial abuse to school officials.
Teachers in my school actively work to create a safe and welcoming environment for every student.
Every student in my school feels like he or she belongs here.
My school creates opportunities for students to get to know each other.
At my school, adults and students listen to each other.