1. Parent / Child Relationship
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Parent / Child Relationship

2. Parent / Child Relationship
Family:
Parent / Child Relationship
Teaching our Children

3. The Death of a Family

4. The Death of a Family It works if we do it God’s way!
Being a good Husband, father, wife, and mother takes work!
It’s up to parents to teach their children

5. Parent / Child Relationship
Family:
Parent / Child Relationship
Teaching our Children

6. 4
Most common types of
Parents

7. Neglectful
Low Love
Low discipline
Avoids their children

8. Permissive
High Love
Low discipline
Children Lead them

9. Authoritarian
Low Love
High discipline
Push their children

10. Authoritative
High Love
High discipline
Lead their children

11. Neglectful Permissive Authoritarian Authoritative
Which type of parent are you?
Which type of parent do you want your child to be?

12. Psalm 127
Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain. In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat for he grants sleep to those he loves. Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him.

13. Psalm 127
Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate.

14. Parent / Child Relationship
Family:
Parent / Child Relationship
Goals for our Children

15. Goals direction Children adults.
the
Goals
direction
Of their lives as
You establish now for your
Are the ones that will set the
Children
adults.

16. God’s Word on Holiness... 1 Peter 1:15-16 Leviticus 19:2
But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.”
I am the Lord your God; consecrate yourselves and be holy, because I am holy.
... Be holy because I, the LORD your God, am holy.

17. Holiness DEFINE Regardless of the cost... THE WORD The WORD is the
How to develop
In our children
DEFINE
Clearly
It as the primary GOAL
The WORD is the
FINAL Authority
Regardless of the cost... THE WORD

18. DEFINE Evaluate Holiness Romans 16:19
How to develop
In our children
DEFINE
Clearly
It as the primary GOAL
Evaluate
Activities in light of the Ultimate goal
(Holiness)
Romans 16:19
“...I want you to be wise about what is good, and innocent about what is evil.”

19. Holiness DEFINE Evaluate Promote
How to develop
In our children
DEFINE
Clearly
It as the primary ultimate GOAL
Evaluate
Activities in light of the Ultimate goal
Promote
New Heroes

20. Promote Books Read Watch Listen
New Heroes
Who we hang out with
Books
Read we
Watch
Listen
Things we
and to
MP3 / Laptop

21. Promote Just because you were brought up in church does
New Heroes
Just because you were brought up in church does
not mean you’re a Christian

22. Promote
New Heroes
Heroes of the Faith
Book Series!

23. Promote
New Heroes

24. Holiness DEFINE Evaluate Promote
How to develop
In our children
DEFINE
Clearly
it as the primary ultimate GOAL
Evaluate
Activities in light of the Ultimate goal
Promote
New Heroes

25. Promote Books Read Watch Listen
New Heroes
Books
Read we
Who we hang out with
Watch
Listen
Things we
and to
IPOD / Laptop

26. Promote Just because you were brought up in church does
New Heroes
Just because you were brought up in church does
not mean you’re a Christian

27. Promote
New Heroes
Heroes of the Faith
Book Series!

28. Promote
New Heroes

29. DEFINE Evaluate Promote Establish Fashion Show Dating
Holiness
How to develop
In our children
DEFINE
Clearly
It as the primary ultimate GOAL
Evaluate
Activities in light of the Ultimate goal
Promote
New Heroes
Establish
A pattern of decision making in your home that
includes seeking the will of God
Fashion Show
Now.
Dating
Later...

30. Holiness DEFINE Evaluate Promote Establish Verbalize
How to develop
In our children
DEFINE
Clearly
It as the primary GOAL
Evaluate
Activities in light of the Ultimate goal
Promote
New Heroes
Establish
A pattern of decision making in your home that
includes seeking the will of God
Verbalize
Often your desires for your children.

31. Sleep-overs Holiness monitor Knowing the other family How to develop
In our children
monitor
closely
Friendships.
Sleep-overs
Knowing the other family

32. Holiness monitor AID Model
How to develop
In our children
monitor
closely
Friendships.
AID
Your children in seeking God daily.
Family Devotions
Personal devotions
Model
It in your own life

33. Parent / Child Relationship
Family:
Parent / Child Relationship
5 Ingredients
For Effectively
Raising your Children

34. 5 Ingredients For Effectively Raising your Children Instruction
Reinforcement
Correction

35. 21 Rules of this House
We obey God.
We love, honor and pray for one another.
We tell the truth.
We consider one another's interests ahead of our own.
We speak quietly and respectfully with one another.

36. 21 Rules of this House
6. We do not hurt one another with unkind words or deeds.
7. When someone needs correction, we correct him in love.
8. When someone is sorry, we
forgive him.
9. When someone is sad, we
comfort him.

37. 21 Rules of this House 10. When someone is happy, we rejoice with him.
11. When we have something nice to share, we share it.
12. When we have work to do, we do it without complaining.
13. We take good care of everything that God has given us.

38. 21 Rules of this House
14. We do not create unnecessary work for others.
15. When we open something, we close it.
16. When we take something out, we put it away.
17. When we turn something on, we turn it off.

39. 21 Rules of this House 18. When we make a mess, we clean it up.
19. When we do not know what
to do, we ask.
20. When we go out, we act just
as if we were in this house.

40. 21 Rules of this House 21. When we disobey or forget
any of the 21 Rules of This House,
we accept the discipline and
instruction of the Lord.

41. 5 Ingredients For Effectively Raising your Children Instruction
Reinforcement
Correction
Reassurance
Restitution

42. Parent / Child Relationship
Family:
Parent / Child Relationship
Biblical Discipline

43. God’s Word Proverbs 13:24 Proverbs 19:18 On Discipline.
He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.
Proverbs 19:18
Discipline your son, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to his death.

44. God’s Word Proverbs 22:15 Proverbs 23:13 On Discipline.
Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.
Proverbs 23:13
Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die.

45. God’s Word Proverbs 29:15 Proverbs 29:17 On Discipline.
The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother.
Proverbs 29:17
Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will bring delight to your soul.

46. When and How to Discipline.
80% of rod chastisement should be done in the first 5 years.
Use the rod for rebellious acts and attitudes.
Should be done in private.
Any discipline needs to inflict pain but not injury.
Be careful not to simply get the child upset at you.

47. When and How to Discipline. Don’t discipline them... For childishness
For accidents
For inability
When you are angry
When you are unsure of their guilt

48. Purpose foolishness Proverbs wisdom Biblical Discipline
the
Purpose
foolishness
And to impart
For discipline as identified in
is to remove
Proverbs
wisdom
Biblical Discipline

49. 2 Primary Purposes of Disciplineto
bring
Christ
conform to
Christ
2 Primary Purposes of Discipline

50. Time
Consistency

51. Actions to Avoid in Discipline. Avoid degrading statements.
Avoid unnecessary delay in discipline.
Avoid anger in discipline.
Avoid wounding the spirit of the child.
Avoid improper discipline.
Avoid leaving the discipline to only one parent.
Avoid using spiritual focus as a form of discipline.

52. Reasons for Ineffective
Discipline.
Not like minded
Inconsistent in administering discipline
Lack of clear boundaries
Not specific when correcting
Hypocrisy of our example

53. 9 steps
Of Discipline.
1. Send them to their room. Deal with them separately.
2. Cool off! Allow the Holy Spirit to work on their conscience.
3. Question them? “What did I see you do? Why was that wrong?”
4. Reinforce the biblical principle broken. What does God say?
5. Discipline until the will is won over.

54. 9 steps Of Discipline. Allow time for brokenness.
Stay with them; hold them.
7.Express and reaffirm your love!
8. Pray with them; have them ask for the Lord’s forgiveness.
9. Require restitution and asking forgiveness from the person they wronged.

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