1. Indiana Conference Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015
Get Their Name
Grow Your Church by Building
New Relationships
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015
Kay Kotan, Presenter

2. Kay L. Kotan Indiana Conference May 2015 Wife to Bob, 22 years
Mother to Cameron, 19 years old
Credentialed Coach, PCC
Healthy Church Initiative (HCI) Consultant
Author
Faculty for Coaching4Clergy
Path One Coach
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

3. Evangelism vs Missional
Indiana Conference
May 2015
Evangelism vs Missional
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015
Kay Kotan, Presenter

4. Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

5. Book Basis: Four Observations
Inwardly focused churches practice evangelism as reconnecting the disconnected.
Outwardly focused churches practice evangelism as connecting the unconnected to Jesus first and then the church.
Pool of churched shrinking and pool of unconnected growing exponentially
Membership versus discipleship
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

6. Building authentic relationships with people we don’t know.
Indiana Conference
May 2015
Evangelism
Building authentic relationships with people we don’t know.
The harvest is bigger than
you can imagine,
but there are few workers. Luke 10:2
Family tree explains the larger and larger generation gaps in returning to church
We have not equipped churched people to practice relational evangelism with competence and confidence
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015
Kay Kotan, Presenter

7. How to Find & Share Your Faith Story
Gradual process over a period of time
Four steps for equipping
Faith sharing in service
Faith sharing in groups
Faith sharing in worship
Faith sharing with the unconnected
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

8. Faith Sharing in Service
Indiana Conference
May 2015
Faith Sharing in Service
Good Deed + Good Word = Good News
Relational Evangelism through service
Clear invitation to connect with God and our church
We must meet people where they are, not where we are.
Water bottle : free gift from friends at X-UMC AND Just like we know that in order to live we need water, we also know that to live fully and deeply we need to be connected to God who loves us. So if you’d like to experience more of God’s love in your life, we would like to invite you to join us in a celebration of God’s love in worship this Sunday at X-UMC at 10 am.
Project Serve
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015
Kay Kotan, Presenter

9. Faith Sharing in Groups
How have you experienced God recently in your life?
We must find our own story.
Practice your story in safe places.
Just playing church is no longer acceptable.
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

10. Faith Sharing in Worship
Faith sharing starts with leaders.
Offer consistent faith sharing stories during worship.
Use digital recording to capture.
Faith sharing in worship is rooted in our Wesleyan roots.
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

11. Faith Sharing with the Unconnected
Learn other faith-sharing through three earlier steps first to prepare for personal invitation to worship.
Relationship comes before invitation.
Special Sundays give people a reason to invite.
An invitation has three characteristics:
Personal
Specific
Relational
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

12. Team Activity
Have each team member share their take-away from Session One. Based on the collective take-aways, what is one step your church could take in encouraging and equipping your congregation to share their faith story?
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

13. Becoming a 21st Century Missionary
The church has become in alien
in our own world.
We are all missionaries.
Engage the radar!
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

14. Beginning Outside Conversation
Have an intentional plan
Set a Daily Goal
Build trust
Mutual Respect
The Conversation
Become a Model
Engage the radar!
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

15. Creating Opportunities for New Relationships
How much time are you
spending with the unconnected?
Concentrate on the important
rather than the urgent.
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

16. Eight Strategies to Build New Relationships
Routine Introductions
Create Hang-out Places
Offer Blessings
Organization Connections
Normal affinities
Member-Guest events
Outside Comfort Zone
Create Margins
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

17. Six Steps to Move from Conversation to Relationship
Listen to Their Story
Watch for Signals
Bridge-Building Phrases
Know Your Elevator Story
Why God? Why Church? Why my Church?
Know Your Faith Story
Find Need & Connect
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

18. Team Activity
Have each team member share their take-away from Session Two. Based on the collective take-aways, what is one step your church could take in encouraging and equipping your congregation in becoming a 21st Century Missionary?
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

19. Creating an Outwardly Focused Culture
Relationship Trinity =
God + Others + Availability
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

20. Leadership Matters Strategic Ministry Planning Mission Vision
Goals, Objectives, Core Values
Equipping “Your church is only going to grow as fast as you raise up good leaders.”
Modeling Missional focus
Preaching “Got to preach it ‘til you see it.”
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

21. Connection Strategies“
Friendship Sundays
F.R.A.N. Plan
Major Sundays
Rule
Church-Wide Hospitality Training
Skits/Drama
Move Fellowship to the Front Door
Hospitality Desk or Kiosk
Go Digital
Three Touches
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

22. Your Building Matters Hospitality Checklist:
Exterior signage and accessibility
First impression of human hospitality
How to get their names
Think guest, not visitor
Connector
Welcome center
Lobby
Nursery
Pre-worship atmosphere
Meet & greet
Announcements
Worship participation
After worship experience
Hire mystery worshipers
Improve your social media presence
Critical mass
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

23. Don’t leave the connection
Indiana Conference
May 2015
Relationships Matter
Don’t leave the connection
process to chance!”
From Outsider to Guest
Prayer
Bridge Events
Follow Up
From Guest to Connected
From Connected to Disciple
From Disciple to Ambassador or Missionary
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015
Kay Kotan, Presenter

24. Nothing new . . .
Reaching new people we don’t know for the sake of Jesus is inherently a biblical idea.
God wants to reach people and do a new thing.
Are you willing to be in the new movement, to be a new people, to do a new thing? If so . . .
Get their name
Start a conversation
Build an authentic relationship that leads to the possibility for a faith conversation
Bring them back to the gathered faith community
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

25. Team Activity
Have each team member share their take-away from Session Three. Based on the collective take-aways, what is one step your church could take in creating an outwardly focused culture?
Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015

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Get Their Name: Grow Your Church by Building New Relationships
May 2015