1. Relationships: Healthy and Unhealthy
Lesson 29

2. Objectives
Demonstrate strategies for communicating needs, wants and emotions in healthy ways
Analyze the importance of healthy strategies that help prevent physical, sexual and emotional abuse such as date rape
Identify the qualities and character traits that promote healthy relationships with peers, family and friends
Identify professional health services available to assist those with unhealthy relationships
Evaluate the effects of family on relationships on physical, mental/emotional and social health
Examine causes and effects of stress within families and develop strategies for managing stress
Apply strategies for avoiding violence within the family
Identify family situation requiring professional health services and explain how to access those services

3. Healthy Relationships
Relationship: bond or connection you have with other people
Can have positive and negative effects on your physical, mental/emotional and social health
Family members, friends and communities can be a great source for healthy relationships
Friendship: significant relationship between two people that is based on caring, trust, and consideration
Citizenship: the way you conduct yourself as a member of the community

4. The Three C’s of Building Healthy Relationships
Communication
Your ways of sending and receiving messages
Verbal and nonverbal
Thoughts, feelings, expectations
Cooperation
Working together for the good of all
Compromise
A problem solving method that involves each participant’s giving up something to reach a solution that satisfies everyone
“give and take”

5. Healthy Relationship Characteristics
Mutual respect and consideration
Respect even if people disagree
Accepting others’ tastes and opinions
Honesty
Confidence to be open and honest about actions, thoughts and feelings
Dependability
Trustworthy
Reliable
Commitment
Participants willing to work together and make sacrifices benefitting everyone involved

6. Unhealthy Relationships: Preventing and Overcoming Abuse
Abuse: physical, mental/emotional or sexual mistreatment of one person by another

7. Types of Abuse Physical abuse Emotional abuse
Intentional infliction of bodily harm or injury on another person
Emotional abuse
Verbal abuse
Using words to mistreat or injure another person
Stalking
Repeated following, harassment or threatening on an individual to frighten or cause him or her harm

8. Dating Violence On the rise
Includes all forms of abuse—physical, emotional, and sexual
Some teens accept this as a normal part of a relationship but this is NOT true
Signs of an unhealthy dating relationship
Expressions of jealousy
Attempts to control a partner's behavior
Use of insults or put downs to manipulate a partner
Use of guilt to manipulate a partner

9. Avoiding Domestic Violence
Any violence against family members
Recognize
Be aware of abuse acts
Remember it takes many forms
Resist
Stand up for yourself
Run away from the abuser
Report
Tell a trusted adult

10. Overcoming Abuse Victims Abusers
Call law enforcement immediately if you or someone you know if raped or physically abused
Get tested for STDs and HIV
Talk with a counselor
Abusers
Often abusers were victims, and are repeating what they have learned in the ‘cycle of violence’
Counseling
Treatment programs with mental health professionals
Lean skills for developing and maintaining healthy relationships
Time health, pg 354 read

11. The Role of The Family

12. What is family? The basic unit of society
Health of society is directly related to the health of the family
Mutual love and respect
Serves as a protective factor, helping children and teens to avoid risky behaviors

13. Importance of Family Meeting physical and other basic needs
Provide food, clothing, and shelter
Adults ensure children get medical and dental checkups
Teaches children how to live safely in the environment
Meeting mental/emotional needs
Emotional support
Unconditional love
Contributes to the development of a positive self concept
Meeting social needs
Children learn how to communicate with other from their family
Instill a value system in children
Teaching children to accept differences in others
Developing a value system
Leaned from family
Helps you to make responsible decisions
Determines your character
Sharing culture and tradition
Enriches family members
Develops a sense of pride
Ex for safe living: look both ways before crossing the street, never get into a car with a stranger

14. Strengthening Family Relationships
Demonstrate care and love
Affirmation: positive feedback that help others feel appreciated and supported
Showing empathy
Show support
Especially during difficult times
Talk about your feelings and be a good listener
Demonstrate trust
Earn trust through honesty, reliability and loyalty
Express commitment
Willingness to work together to make sacrifices for the benefit of the entire family
Be responsible
Think before you act
Avoid risky behaviors
Be accountable for your actions

15. Strengthening Relationships Continued…
Spend time together
Eat meals together
Plan fun activities that all can participate in
Respect individuality
Accept individual tastes, talents and opinions
Work together to solve problems
Identify and workout problems before they escalate
Plan events together
Be sensitive to others’ needs
Pay attention to how others feel
Use good communication skills
Respect of privacy
Survey class to see what responsibilities teens are assuming within their family, write a paragraph describing something you can do to help out your family

16. Changes in Family Structure
Divorce
Birth of a new child
Remarriage
Death
Adoption

17. Separation and Divorce
Separation: decision between married individuals to live apart from each other
Divorce: legal end to a marriage contract
Custody: legal decision about who has the right to make decisions affecting the children in a family and who has the responsibility of physically caring form them
Could be granted to one parent (sole custody) or divided among both (joint custody)
Remarriage after a divorce can also be very stressful on a family

18. Death of a Family Member
Grief: the sorrow caused by the loss of a loved one
Strategies for dealing with grief
Focus on happy memories
Accept your feelings
Join a support group
Seek help from a grief counselor

19. Changes in Family Circumstances
Moving
Teens may be anxious about making new friends and adjusting to a new school
If a result of a divorce, children may miss the parent who no longer lives with them
Financial problems
Loss of a job, medical emergencies, overdue bills
Anxiety
Often leads to arguments about spending habits
Illness and disability
Disrupts a family’s normal activities
Change in schedules to care for the sick or disabled person
Stress
Sharing in responsibility for the care of the disabled person can help to lessen stress
Drug and alcohol abuse
Threatens health of the entire family
Seek immediate help if a family member has a substance abuse problem
Draw a picture of your family, on the back of the paper write about changes your family has experience throughout your life. How have you dealt with these changes? If you don’t want me to read this because it is too personal write don’t read at the top and I won’t

20. Coping with Family Changes
Strategies for managing family stress:
Do what you can to help
Read books about the subject or talk to people who have faced a similar problem
Use stress management techniques

21. Help for Families Crisis center Foster care
A facility that handles emergencies and provides referrals to an individual needing help
Many communities also have crisis hot lines
Foster care
Temporary arrangement in which a child is placed under the guidance and supervision of a family or an adult who is not related to the child by birth
Provide havens for abused or neglected children
Various organizations offering services to victims of spousal abuse
Food
Shelter
Clothing
Counseling
Support groups
Individuals share their problems and get advice from others dealing with similar issues
Medication
Exploring issues pg 288, Time health activity pg 296 (brainstorm list, write poem, give poem to the person), search for lyrics that talk about relationships (how does this affect attitudes in society or does it)