1. Emma Soutar and Claire Cooper Southwark Floating Support 17 th June, 2009

2. National domestic violence charity Largest single provider World’s first refuge – 1971 Supporting 1,000 women and children on any given day Refuge – who we are

3. Freephone 24 Hr National Domestic Violence Helpline, run in partnership between Refuge and Women’s Aid Independent advocacy Generic floating support Outreach services for women from Eastern Europe Peripatetic staff across London Psychological services for women and children Generic refuges Culturally specific refuges Child support workers Sanctuary Refuge’s package of services

4. Power and control wheel 1 Using intimidation: making her afraid by using looks, actions, gestures, smashing things, destroying her property, abusing pets, displaying weapons. Using emotional abuse: putting her down, making her feel bad about herself, calling her names, making her think she's crazy, playing mind games, humiliating her, making her feel guilty. Using isolation: controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, where she goes, limiting her outside involvement, using jealousy to justify actions. Minimizing, denying, and blaming: making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously, saying the abuse didn't happen, shifting responsibility for abusive behavior, saying she caused it.

5. Power and control wheel 2  Using children: making her feel guilty about the children, using the children to relay messages, using visitation to harass her, threatening to take children away.  Using male privilege: treating her like a servant, making all the big decisions, acting like the "master of the castle", being the one to define men's and women's roles.  Using economic abuse: preventing her from getting or keeping a job, making her ask for money, giving her an allowance, taking her money, not letting her know about or have access to family income.  Using coercion and threats: making and/or carrying out threats to hurt her, threatening to leave her, to commit suicide, to report her to welfare, making her drop charges, making her do illegal things.

6. 2 25 35 Women killed by a current or former partner every week Percent of women will be abused in their life-times Average number of assaults before a woman seeks help 45 Percent of women who experience repeat victimisation The problem

7. 90 1 23 Per cent of abuse witnessed by children (where a woman has children) Call received by the police in the UK every minute £billion cost to the tax payer every year The problem 15 Percent of reported violent crime that is domestic violence

8. Criminal Justice System £1billion Health Care physical injuries £1.2 billion mental health £176 million Social Services £0.25 billion Housing £0.16 billion Civil Legal £0.3 billion Lost economic output £2.7 billion Human and emotional cost £17 billion The cost of domestic violence Including all costs, the total cost of domestic violence for the state, employers and victims is estimated at around £23 billion

9. The statistics 1 woman in 4 experiences domestic violence at some point in her life. Two women are killed each week in England and Wales by a current or former partner. Domestic violence accounts for almost a one in six incidents of reported violent crime. In 90% of domestic violence incidents where a woman has children, they are in the same or next room.

10. The statistics On average a woman is assaulted 35 times before she seeks police help. The most common cause of death in victims of domestic violence is strangulation. Domestic Violence is the most under reported crime in the UK.

11. Physical injury Homelessness Poverty Unemployment Social isolation Substance abuse Impacts on a woman - practical

12. Low self esteem Depression Anxiety Post-traumatic stress Self harm Suicide Impacts on a woman - emotional

13. Impacts on children

14. Development Learning Behaviour Attitudes Social skills Building relationships Depression Anxiety Post-traumatic stress Self-harm Substance abuse Impacts on children

15. Fear Isolation Threats to take children Access to money Low confidence Keep children with father Community Nowhere to go Unaware of options Why do women stay?

16. Myth: Alcohol and drugs make men violent Myth: He hit her because he was under stress Myth: She provoked him, she made him angry Myth: It only happens in poor families on council estates Myth: Some religions allow it Myths of domestic violence

17. 2/3 Men admit they would use violence in conflict situations with partners 1/5 Young men think it’s acceptable to force their wife into sex 1/2 Young men think rape is acceptable in some circumstances Surely things have changed?

18. 1/10 Men think it’s ok to rape a woman if he’s too turned on to stop 1/8 Men think it’s ok to hit a nagging woman 34 % of young men don’t think forcing someone to have sex is rape 19% of young women agree Surely things have changed?

19. Refuge in Southwark In Southwark, Refuge provides: Floating support Sanctuary Scheme Court advocates Support Groups Refuge Accommodation

20. Refuge floating support, Southwark Informal legal information Housing Family Welfare benefits Debt advice Civil and criminal remedies Emotional and psychological support Education and employment advice Sign post to specialist services Or just a listening ear

21. Refuge floating support, Southwark Referral Initial Assessment Needs Assessment Individual Support Plan Risk Assessments Safety Planning Telephone Support

22. Get help now Southwark Floating Support 0207 231 5514 0207 394 9356 0207 231 6847 Fax: 0207 394 6642 PO Box 38476, SE16 2WW 24hour National Domestic Violence Helpline, run in partnership between Refuge and Women’s Aid:  0808 2000 247 www.refuge.org.uk

23. Refuge is committed to a world where domestic violence is not tolerated or ignored and where women and children can live in safety. Domestic violence is a crime. It is against the law. And it must not be ignored. Refuge’s mission