Presentation on theme: "Interpersonal Conflict Management"— Presentation transcript:
1 Interpersonal Conflict Management Conflict Management CenterProgram on the Advancement of Research on Conflict and Collaboration (PARCC)
2 Agenda Introduction Conflict Exercise: Shuffle the Deck Definition of ConflictConflict Escalation and De-EscalationReflective Listening ExercisesPosition vs. InterestsWrap up
3 Ground Rules Confidentiality Suspend judgment All responsible for learningReal life issuesSafe to make mistakesCell phones silent
4 Shuffle the DeckWrite a brief interpersonal conflict situation you are willing to share on an index card. Cards are then gathered, shuffled, and re-distributed within the group.Make sure not to write your names on cardsEach person in the group introduces themselves then reads aloud from the card they is dealt and the group talk about the possible outcomes of the conflict.
5 Interpersonal Conflict... … is an expressed struggle,between two or more parties,that are interdependent,involving strong emotion,and a perceived blockage to needs and/or values.(N. Katz)
6 Escalation Role PlayBe a ‘fly on the wall’ for the conflict that’s about to be portrayed.Take note of how the conflict escalates- both verbally and nonverbally- what happens?
7 Skills for De-escalating conflict Reflective Listening*Based on work of Carl Rogers (1951) and Thomas Gordon (1970) who coined term ‘active listening’*Source: Rautalinko and Lisper, 2005
8 Reflective Listening: A special type of listening that involves paying respectful attention to the content and feelings of another’s communication, hearing and understanding, and then letting the other know that he/she is being heard and understoodIt is a process of “checking in” to ensure understandingSource: Neil Katz
9 De-escalating role play Let’s revisit our initial escalating conflict what’s different this time?
10 Reflective Listening requires two steps: 1) Hear and understand what the other is saying through his/her words and body language.2) Reflect (express) the thoughts and feelings heard through your own words, tone of voice, posture, and gestures so that the other knows that he/she is heard and understood.Example: You’re feeling ________ about/when/because _______
11 Reflective Listening Exercises Roommate problemsPass the Pen
12 The Challenge of Identifying Interests Positions“Why?”Interests
13 Positions versus Interests - What you decided you want in a particular situation- A specific solutionInterests (often rooted in human needs)- What caused you to decide- The specific needs in a situation which caused you to take a particular position or come to a particular position.
14 Interest Inquiry to identify interests - What will having that (the position) do for you ?- How will things change if you get your position?to brainstorm options- What are the possible options that will meet the interests?to evaluate options- What is a good way of doing that?- Will that option identify all of the needs/interests?
15 Thank you for your participation and attention!